not enough secret gardens and hidden passageways and bookshelves that open to a mysterious library these days. get working on that girls.
Turns out that in real life it’s not just the tiny skinny ones who end up actually being trans women. Sometimes it’s the people who are built like linebackers, the people so tall they develop back issues hunching over from trying not to be the biggest person in the room, the people who can’t even find well-fitting clothing at big and tall stores, the people who “thigh-highs” barely go above the knee, the people with broad shoulders and high hairlines that bangs can’t hide. And yes a lot of these features aren’t seen as feminine or cute or beautiful. I’m sorry that I resemble stereotypical transphobic caricatures a bit too closely, and I’m sorry that acknowledging the existence of people that look like me might make getting trans acceptance from cis people a lot harder. But frankly I’m one of the lucky ones who realized things before I started balding, one of the lucky ones who has many years of youth spent taking hormones in my future to somewhat alleviate the problems that make me hate my own body. And I don’t think any of these issues makes me or anyone else less of a woman, and if no one else wants to even try to depict people like us in a flattering manner then I’ll do my damnedest to do it myself
To everyone who used this post as an excuse to say “Awooga big women 👀” in the tags please read the fucking room
god it's like nobody even cares that [problem i've taken great pains to make sure nobody will acknowledge] looks like i have no choice but to make it worse in isolation for reasons i can't articulate and don't understand
least favorite genre of tumblr discourse
"i hate people who have interests that are unusual in intensity or subject, who experience social difficulties that result in their saying and doing things that seem strange or inappropriate, or that prevent them from reaching expected cultural milestones like driving, having a steady job, or moving away from home, 'on time' or ever. those kinds of people are so cringe"
"oh that sounds pretty ableist against autistic people"
"*sputtering noise like the lady from the valentino white bag vine* how dare you imply that autistic people do those cringe things i just listed. that would make them losers and/or monsters, so by associating those behaviors with autistic people, maybe YOU'RE the real ableist. in fact, i'm autistic myself and all my interests are of socially appropriate intensity and i've never had trouble making a phone call and they just gave me the congressional medal of honor for understanding ironic social media jokes, and if i can do it so can everyone else"
disabled people deserve more than the bare minimum to live tbh. and i don't mean in the "oh we have extra costs that makes being disabled more expensive" - which is true, but i'm counting those in the budget to live. disabled people also deserve enough money to buy treats, nice clothes, fund their hobbies, take a trip away, and so on. being disabled shouldn't force you into a life of frugality and poverty
the recent heavy lean on the word “normal” around these parts is really interesting to me. the word “normal” is doing a Lot of work in the posts that employ it
“just be normal” is attractive because it allows you Not to actually delineate a position or make an argument for why that position is correct, but instead to fall back on the notion of a previously agreed-upon stance that someone else has deviated from—a stance (“normality”) that is baked into the social order or perhaps into the fabric of the universe. good argumentation? no. handy? yes
I just think that when Michael Knowles of "transgenderism must be eradicated from public life entirely" fame says "Banning transgenderism—what that would mean is telling people who are a little confused that [...] they need to be normal. Be normal, I think that's my main political message these days [...] Society has a right to standards and norms"—I think that when this is the kind of rhetoric that is occurring you should maybe rethink your "being 'normal' is a virtue" stance. idk
normal is when you agree with me, and the more you agree with me the more normal you are
Reminder that micropenis jokes are inherently intersexist, and as an intersex person (this used to say woman but I feel I was simplifying my identity for the benefit of others) with a pseudo-phallus/micropenis it really fucking hurts to hear people use my body as the short hand for "crude", "uncouth", "violent", "lacking", "of poor character", and nearly any unpleasant trait imaginable.
It hurts me, it has never not hurt. Stop.
Also every single cis man with a micropenis is intersex, trans women with micropenises are intersex too, as is anyone born with a micropenis or clitoromegaly or who naturally developed one, and trans people on testosterone with micropenises hear your vitriol. You have always been punching down.
Small dick jokes aren't ok, big dick jokes are just small dick jokes in mirrored text, it's all just body shaming.
(edited 23 May 2023 to be more inclusive of a variety of experiences/bodies, original post was a personal rant that despite being untagged got popular by surprise.)
if were all catpeople there would be trans catboy forums devoted to how to dye over calico markings so you can pass better and another group of trans catboys who insisted that the only way to deal with it is to normalize catboys having calico markings. the discourse would be insane
meanwhile all the far right commentary catboy youtube channels would have videos titled ‘HAS “MALE CALICO” ACCEPTANCE GONE TOO FAR?’ with the thumbnail of some random calico catboy who was shown in 0.001 second of a popular clothing brand’s pride month ad
there would be a whole other discourse over why we should stop talking about calico catboys when no one knows the struggle of transitioning from a girl orange cat (cute) to a male orange cat (stupid)
sorry for injecting discourse into your escapism fantasy again.. unfortunatly the rituals of pointless transmasc infighting would probably transcend realities im ngl
Jongsook Kim: Utopia 10 (2012) mixed media on canvas, made with Swarovski's cut crystals
nato-proxy-war-enjoyer
Teachers when a child shows a single ounce of individuality or creativity:
look at this rainbow bracelet I got because I am sámi and gay ❤️💚💛💙🏳️🌈 three of them are leather and tin thread bracelets with reindeer antler buttons, the red one is a bead bracelet. all handmade sámi duodji ☺️
double incision = name of a metal band
keyhole = britpop band that never took off
fishmouth = largely forgotten 60s hippie psychedelic rock band with small cult following
periareolar = stylized as Perry Areola, drag king pop singer
inverted t anchor = industrial music
Anne Tagonist in Unapologetic zine issue #1 published 1997
that post that's like "okay but she did utilise girl power what happened to supporting women's wrongs" annoyed the fuck out of me when it was doing the rounds on here bc the original joke made by eric andre was about MARGARET THATCHER
the joke was intended to undermine that kind of wishy-washy popculture white feminism that leads to people uncritically supporting any woman in power to the point of praising and idolising war criminals and colonisers. the original joke goes "did she effectively utilise girl power when she funded illegal paramilitary death troops in northern ireland". it wasn't a fandom joke!
Their savage Asiatic AI-operated drones vs our benevolent Judeo-Christian AI-operated drones
People will say transandrophobia isn't real then how come I was scared for the longest time of becoming too much of a man–rejected the idea that I might want to be more than a "cute soft boi", that I might want to be hairy, that I might want a penis, that I might want to call myself a MAN at all–because my own community demonized the very concept of manhood. I was taught that manness was something antithetical to being queer and so I stifled myself in fear of losing that community.
