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Phil

@pjdarcy

oh phil there never was a better queen of the universe

Yesterday I almost cried because my baby cousin ran up to my grandmother and was like. “Ha! Buhbuh ba ha.” And she said okay you want to show me something? And he led her over to the garden patch and crouched down and pointed at rocks and plants and was like. “Ah. Habah ba ah” as she listened attentively.

And I was like that happened 1,000 years ago. Probably 10,000 years ago. Maybe 100,000. The youngest human in a group went to the oldest one and said to the best of their ability “come see.” And the adult went.

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this is such a beautiful post it doesn't need my dumb addition, but i can't fit this in the tags. at the archaeological site Dolni Vestonice in the Czech Republic there are a bunch of really really fascinating finds and I'm only going to tell you about one tiny detail of one of the most interesting sites in the world.

at this settlement 20-30,000 years ago there lived a person who appears to have been a sort of sorcerer-grandmother-ceramics artist and her workshop was preserved very well in the sedimentary layers. her hut where she had her kilns was full of little sculptures of animals and people that seem to have been made to explode in the kiln on purpose, we're not sure why but nevermind. the relevant detail is that when you sculpt something with your hands and then fire it, your fingerprints can be preserved in the surface of the clay forever, so we have fingerprints of ancient ceramics artists that have survived for tens of thousands of years. and one of the major artifacts from Dolni Vestonice has a fingerprint on it that is so small it could only have belonged to a child

so this shaman-grandmother-sculptor, who was buried with her pet fox by the way, had children running through her workshop and touching everything she made while she was at her mysterious work of creating the world's oldest ceramics, none of which appear to be bowls, bottles, pots, or any "useful" items at all, but rather a collection of animal and human and sometimes anthropomorphic figures, some of which appear to be self portraits. exactly the same as sandersstudios' grandmother being led to the garden by an excited baby. we've all been the same for 30,000 years.

let's talk about labels

Hanging around the queer part of reddit, I see A LOT of posts that has a variation on the "am I trans/ace/pan/gay/bi...." followed by a message I rarely read, because the answer is always the same.

If this label feels like a good description of your lived experience and feels right, then YES.

And it bothers me a lot, because it shows a fundamental problem with how we perceive labels. Labels are code words used to describe a lived experience. instead of having to explain every time, you use a label. I am gay I am bisexual I am asexual I am aromantic I am non binary I am queer

all those words tell you a story about the person that uses the label. and stories change, and so does labels. A label is not a thing to be permanent or must define your entire existence, it is a word to explain your lived experience up to that point in life.

Gatekeeping labels is therefore not only dumb, but also harmful. YOU DON'T get to write other peoples stories, YOU DON'T get to determine how they experience the world.

NO ONE, and I mean it NO ONE gets to tell you you are not enough of something when talking about your experience. YES, you are asexual enough to be ace, even when you like having sex sometimes. YES you are gender queer enough even when you present yourself according to your assigned gender YES you are trans enough even when you don't transition YES you are bi/pan enough even when you never dated someone out of a certain gender group YES you are

Labels should be a tool that we use to communicate, not a jail cell.

So yeah, if it feels right, you are. No need for further information No questions ask YOU ARE

who even are you. like what did you write

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I have no idea. Let me see if anyone else in this ask place knows.

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he was in arthur.

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you’re thinking of Jill Eikenberry; I think this guy was an astronaut of some kind

that’s Neil Armstrong, I thought this guy was in How I Met Your Mother

That’s Neil Patrick Harris. I think this might have been the playwright who wrote The Odd Couple.

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That’s Neil Simon. I think this is the musician who wrote Sweet Caroline.

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That’s Neil Diamond. I think this is an astrophysicist

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That’s Neil deGrasse Tyson. I think this is a river in Egypt.

That’s the Nile; I think this is the Irish guy who made the movies “The Crying Game” and “Interview with the Vampire”.

No no no, that’s Neil Jordan. I think this is the English author who helped write Good Omens.

You’re right! This is Terry Prachet’s tumblr. Good job everyone

ok I love this meme but like

Neil Gaiman actually was in Arthur.

This is true.

what were you doing in a falafel

Let a man live

Just because you’ve done something once does not mean you are obligated to do it again. You can say no. You can set boundaries. Do not push yourself until you break.

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with transphobia ever on the rise in this country, it's nice to see the government open more gender neutral public toilets

I'm confused why is this about Gender Neutral public Toilets when the picture is about a Prominent Figure Resting Place being Open to everyone.

Uhm I am confusion

you piss on her grave that's the joke

Well that's a Disrespectful joke to a Life well lived, so uh get a Self Help book and re-evaluate your life

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sorry um did someone say something i was in the bathroom

on one hand i hate being called a person with autism because it feels like its implying its an illness or something to be treated. on the other hand however i find it extremely funny to act like my autism is a physical object. does this make sense

i keep that thang on me (my autism)

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I wish you all very good sex. if you don't like sex, I wish you a very good romance. if you don't want either of them. I wish you a very good bowl of soup and some bread, mate.

gender envy is nice but what about gender appreciation? what if i don't exactly wanna go with my own gender in that direction but i'm still like "love what you've done with the place" when seeing someone's gender presentation?