Actually, speaking of the tags on my last post, you guys get so violent over online queer discourse and it’s honestly really fucked up.

I’ve seen baeddels talk about how they want to misgender and beat up “transandrophobia truthers”. I’ve seen people say they’ll kill fellow queer people who use the “toothpaste” ocean mlm flag. I’ve seen exclus talking about sending gore to mspec monos.

You guys seriously need to go outside and maybe get therapy if you have such violent tendencies towards fellow queer people. Like you honestly sound insufferable if you act like this. Where’s this energy towards the politicians killing us? Or do you just hate other queer people who aren’t queer in the way you like?

people really just haven't unlearned their basic homophobia. they r under the impression that if they don't understand a queer person that makes it okay to be violent towards them.

hot take but like. it’s bc a lot of the ppl who do this shit are racially and culturally white, and the only way white ppl know how to get someone to believe something is to colonize them and genocide them if they disagree, and this is just that mindset on a much smaller scale. it’s literally just “convert/conform or die.”

Christian culture really did a number on society.

Too many people are forgetting these things too quickly:

-SESTA/FOSTA passed. Despite the many, many warnings of sex workers.

-A bunch of apps started their censorship policies because Apple directly threatened their revenue if they didn't promise to cut down on the amount of porn on their sites

-MasterCard and VISA tried to outright stop processing OnlyFans work SPECIFICALLY because of the association with sex work, and no other feasible financial reason.

There is not a sudden regressive movement among individual people. Free The Nipple didn't fade into obscurity because people didn't care. It was stopped. By policies. By laws. By arrests. By censorship. These things have been purposefully put in place by companies and politicians. They saw the work we were trying to do wrt bodily autonomy, sexual liberation, and sexual freedom, and they forcibly put a stop to it.

One thing I will always say is: You can wear clothes at any size. You can wear whatever you want, it doesn't have to be "flattering", it doesn't have to be slimming or modest or anything, you can just be who you are and wear anything you enjoy. It's not about other people's opinions, it's about self expression.

happy fat liberation month 🥤let fat people live in peace and enjoy life forever mwah

disability rights involves the right to do fuck all. the right to be a useless member of society and STILL be loved and cared for and have a fair standard of living. human beings are not defined by the capital we produce.

sure happy pride I’m glad you found your community but are you normal about straight queers, disabled queers, fat queers, non-white queers, masc queers, queer men, queers who use “confusing” labels, queers who use “contradictory” labels, queers who identify with slurs, multigender queers and their attraction labels, and trans and intersex people’s bodies?

idk y’all should treat fat men better. and i don’t mean mildly chubby guys i mean honest-to-god love-handles-and-double-chins fat guys. stop calling them shit like discord mods or gross weebs or nasty creeps or neckbeards or that they’re stinky or sweaty or beer bellied or whatever else. fatphobia isn’t cute, even repackaged in a neat little box of “ew men”

the fact that men believe feminism (or anything feminist-esque) is about being anti-man (like men are such neutral, benevolent, benign creatures) tells me all i need to know about who men are

if you're mad at feminism for shedding light on rapists, domestic violence, pedophiles, porn-head predators, groomers, autogynephiles, sex slavery and human trafficking, the exploitation of women and girls, fgm, medical malpractice against women and girls, religious burnings, torture of females, femicide . . . all of which NO OTHER MOVEMENT HAS DONE ON NEARLY THE SAME SCALE BTW . . .

guess what that makes you?

This post is so funny

You chide "men" (or at least people you view as men) for calling out your fake feminism as gender essentialist, and then you do exactly that, calling men inherently evil right after claiming radical feminism isn't founded upon hating anyone you deem a man or too masculine for you.

And guess what! You want to know what issues men can and do face?

Rape, domestic violence, all of the child sexual abuse you decided to make into three separate "points," sex slavery, human trafficking, exploitation, forced genital surgeries (circumcision and surgeries performed on intersex infants), medical abuse, torture, genocide, and then some. And your inclusion of "autogynephiles" as "a great harm against the women of the world!" is a fucking joke.

You don't actually give a shit about any of these issues when you only address those issues as long as it's done to a cis woman. Your "feminism" isn't real feminism and not against men when your entire personality and "activism" is about hating men and wishing death upon them. You're not for equality when you believe that sexism is inherently worse than all other forms of oppression and decide to put yourself at the top of an oppression hierarchy that shouldn't even exist.

Guess what that makes you? 😘

Also, there are MANY cisgender women who are teachers, and who prey on little boys in the schools they work in, and traumatize them. Does that suddenly make the women men, and the boys girls?

yknow, the fact that princess diana’s death got international media attention and practically everyone still speculates about the mysterious circumstances of her death but no one talks about how marsha p johnson was found dead in a river and her death was ruled a suicide despite her friends and family stating she’d never been suicidal doesnt site right with me. 

and yes, i am aware of the documentary. that was made by another trans woman (her name is victoria cruz).  because cis people don’t care. so we have to care about each other. 

whenever anyone says they are “okay with gay people as long as they don’t make it their whole personality” it makes me so sad.

firstly, we should not merely be tolerated. secondly, you’re clearly homophobic and your tolerance extends only so far as your comfortability for that which is different. finally, why should we not make out personality who and what we love? i would rather be defined by my love any day than hatred or indifference.

You don't have to wear black today, friend. You don't have to hide or disguise your fat body

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BUT ALSO DO NOT WEAR BLACK IF YOU LIVE IN THE SOUTH, IT IS LIKE 101 DEGREES DOWN HERE, OMFG!!!

new blog post:

some coverage of this over on dailydot as well now!

As I was reading some of the featured posts and messages listed in the first link, it really became clear to me some of our hypocrisy in progressive spaces. Specifically, our demonization of fat people and people with personality disorders. I've been talking about this issue for a long time, but seeing these two posts really put the problem into perspective:

Both of these posts are of alt-right bigots using fatphobia and sanism against people with personality disorders (in this case, people with NPD) to further their cause and paint progressive people as inferior. Hey, that sounds kind of familiar! Maybe because we as progressive people do that too.

I can't even count how many times I have had to see people who claim to be progressive use fat bodies as symbolism for their political comics and claim every republican in the world has a personality disorder. If someone doesn't have progressive views, we immediately label them as either "a narcissist" or "delusional," the latter being sanism against people with mental disorders that cause them to experience psychosis.

I see this demonization of fat people and mentally ill people CONSTANTLY in progressive spaces despite people claiming that they care about and are fighting for equality. Literally yesterday, I had to fight with a fatphobe who tried to claim it's okay to portray all bigoted conservatives in political comics as fat because "Most bigots are fat." They then tried to back up their claim by showing me a picture of a few dozen people who had been arrested after participating at the January 6th riot, most of the people in the photo not even being fat in the first place.

When you're fat or mentally ill, your body and disorders are frequently weaponized by both people against equality as well as the people on the other side who believe they're morally superior while still using the exact same tactics of weaponizing us. Fat people and mentally ill people are oppressed groups, yet we are still used as metaphors and something to mock in progressive spaces. I'm extremely tired of it. Conservatives portray all "undeserving" poor people as fat, lazy, and "delusional." Meanwhile, "progressive" people will portray all bigoted people and republicans as fat people with personality disorders and a MAGA hat.

The whole "neckbeard" shit that people joke about in progressive spaces? That's just stereotyping and mocking fat masc people for a characteristic of their fat body. People who think they're progressive will instantly believe any fat man is creepy and a predator, and this bias is even thrown at fat femme people who try to have sapphic relationships and are viewed as predatory or even not a "real woman." Fatphobia is weaponized against "transtrenders" who exclusionists believe are "obviously not actually trans" because the person is fat and has purple hair.

It's incredible how people in my own progressive communities will abuse fat people like this in the name of "activism" when what they're doing is literally no different than the transphobes who portray trans people as "gross and fat." It's no different than the terfs who portray trans women as "fat, ugly men in dresses." I am so fucking tired of this shitty hypocrisy and throwing oppressed groups under the bus as soon as it benefits you (general you, not aimed at the op).

If you're going to have progressive values, then actually fucking act like it and keep your word when you say you don't support oppression and discrimination. Educate yourself about fat people's oppression. We are incredibly fucking oppressed and deal with stuff like a wage gap, rampant medical abuse that often leads to our deaths, people justifying their abuse of us and even putting it on TV for your entertainment, continuing to spread myths and misinformation about fatness, coerced mutilation, forced starvation, an over 200 BILLION DOLLAR industry that makes dirty money off of fat people's oppression, and so much more.

We also need to stop demonizing mentally ill people, including people who experience psychosis or have personality disorders. Psychosis is not your funny joke and metaphor. Personality disorders are harmful to the people who have them and are often developed due to extreme childhood trauma. And since personality disorders are extremely stigmatized, demonized, mocked, and viewed as a justified excuse to harass the person who has the disorder, people with personality disorders have an extremely difficult time receiving support. How the fuck is someone with a personality disorder supposed to go to therapy when the whole world around them tells them they're a demon, inherently abusive, and almost certainly a murderer if they have a personality disorder? Can we please fucking stop harming vulnerable people who need help and compassion when we're supposedly the give-help-and-compassion community?

Every time you use fatphobia and sanism for your "activism," you are exactly the same as bigots who weaponize oppressed bodies and mental disabilities for their cause too. Think about that the next time you want to draw a fat person with a MAGA hat for your political cartoon or armchair diagnose a random politician you've never even met.

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Fat people are not collateral damage for your "activism."

If your "activism" and "representation" are at the expense of fat people, another oppressed group, then it is not equality. Period.

Stop using fat bodies as tools for you to step up the ladder.

You don't have to wear black today, friend. You don't have to hide or disguise your fat body

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