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Samir🧡

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He/They/It/Bright/Waltz/Time/Decade/Dove| Bi | 18 | Arab + Muslim| Palestinian 🇵🇸| Single Father of 18 & Pround Grandfather of 5 /j | (PfP: PotatoLord’s Picrew)
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Hello! So the short version is: do you or anyone else have advice/tips on writing friendship that evolves into a qpr?

More details: I have a story with a large ensemble cast which are all varying degrees of good friends with each other, but I have two specifically (both female, one is aroace and the other is demi) that begin as just friends but I want to have them end up in a queer-platonic relationship by the end of the story (living together by the ending, and years later in the epilogue raising/having raised two children together.) What I’d like tips on is how to realistically/convincingly write that evolution from friends to more without it accidentally straying too far into looking romantic? (If it matters, this is all in a fantasy medieval setting, but homophobia isn’t widespread just to make my life easier.)

Queerplatonic Life Partners

What you're looking to portray here is a "platonic life partnership" or PLP, or more specifically, a "queerplatonic partnership" or QPP.

Life partnerships are similar to romantic partnerships in that they choose one another as lifelong partners, are deeply committed to that partnership, and do many of the things romantic partners do, just without any romance or s*x. They often live together, share property and possessions, share finances, raise children and/or animals together, and sometimes even marry.

PLPs and QPPs are different from just a "close friendship" because the partnership involves the commitment, validation, structure, norms, profound emotional connection, and even status that exists with romantic partnerships--again, just without the romance and s*x.

To write the evolution of this type of relationship:

1- Establish/Evolve the Friendship - How do they meet? What is their first interaction? What commonalities sparks a kinship between them? What do they like about one another that makes them want to be friends?

2 - Establish/Evolve the Bond - As they continue to meet up and interact, how do their shared commonalities inspire them to share more about themselves? What memories, hopes, fears, dreams, and beliefs are shared that help them get to know each other? What situations can give them reasons to put their trust in one another and start relying on one another?

3 - Discovery of Mutual Ideology and Life Goals - The most important element of a PLP and QPP is that the couple discovers that they share a mutual ideology and life goals. In other words, they have the same mindset in terms of how they want to live their lives and what they want to do with their lives. So, what are the ideologies they share? What small and big life goals to they have in common? How do they discover that they have these ideologies and goals in common? Where are the differences and how do they accommodate those?

4 - The Dreaming and Planning Stage - Once they realize they want the same things, they'll make the commitment to follow that path side by side. Now they can dream together of the possibilities and start planning. Depending on where they are currently, this may be as far as things can go for now, though part of their commitment will be helping each other get to the point where their dreams and plans can be brought to fruition.

5 - The Pieces Fall Into Place - If the story is about the setup and creation of this mutual life they're going to share, you will show all the pieces falling into place as they accomplish each step to make that life a reality. Or, if your story is about something else, you might not focus on the actual achievements but either have them happening in the background, or even have them occur off the page between the denouement and the epilogue. It just depends on what works best for your story, but if you have the ability to show them living this happy life together, you definitely should. Otherwise, you can project it for the reader by having them daydream about how things will be. In some cases, you might even work in an actual dream one of the characters has about living in that time when they are sharing the life they dreamed of. Again whatever works for your story!

Bonus - The Ups and Downs - Even without romance and s*x, PLPs and QLPs experience some of the same ups and downs as romantic partnerships, they're just not motivated by romance and s*x. But there can be ups and downs related to finances, conflicting goals and ideals, disagreement about how things should be done, triumphs of successes and disappointment in failures, arguments over silly things and fights over big things, and unbridled joy in the happy moments. So, make sure to include those every step of the way, from the meeting to the pieces falling into place.

Most of all--have fun with it! ♥

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I’ve been writing seriously for over 30 years and love to share what I’ve learned. Have a writing question? My inbox is always open!

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if you think about the american hunters for more than five seconds it suddenly gets really funny because like. in weekend at bobby's rufus has to get bobby's help because he stabs an okami five times instead of seven and it didn't stay dead. which like. considering how highly specific monster hunting rituals are, that must happen so fucking often

bobby was considered a hunting expert because he had a library in his house where he could access books on monster lore. but considering every other hunter that appears in the show spends their time driving from motel to motel and dishing out hunting knowledge through word of mouth and the occasional personal journal, what the fuck do you do when you encounter a rare monster like a griffin or something

like no wonder so many of you die, this 50 year old alcoholic in south dakota has the best database in 6 states. get your shit organized!!!

Hannibal and House both went to Johns Hopkins and now I’m trying to envision how them interacting would go bc Hannibal would either hate House or they’d tentatively get along due to their brilliance and disdain for others.

They run into each other, years later at a medical gala or something, both with pretty brunettes on their arm and just silently nod at each other, amused.

So you want to write about the 1967 Impala in Supernatural

Some notes on the Impala for writers:

1. The Impala an automatic transmission. PRNDL is on the steering wheel. No stick/manual shift, sorry! Also no power steering.

2. The engine mentioned in the show (when Dean travels back in time) is a 327 small block (known as the “Mighty Mouse”) which was one of the factory standard engines for a 1967 Impala. Hero 1 (the car used for beauty shots) has a 502 big block. These are both V8 engines. V8 engines, for those who haven’t driven one, are very loud and like to go. The car will start moving forward when you remove your foot from the brake. It’s a little intimidating but fun af. I usually write Dean as upgrading to the 502 in season 2 when he rebuilds the Impala, but as they use a variety of cars (and I think all but Hero have 350s, anyway) for different shots, you could ignore the 502, swap the 327 out at another point in the series, or even say Dean dropped in a 350 for a while. All could be “canon” to either show-used cars or the show’s script.

[Update: Jensen confirmed at DallasCon22 that the engine sound used in the show PRIOR TO THE 502 (so during the 327 era) was from another car, but the sound used after the installation of the 502 big block is, in fact, the actual sound of the car]

3. The Impala has factory air (meaning it came standard with the car from the factory and was not added later). It’s obviously not as good as contemporary a/c but there’s no reason to assume John (a mechanic) and then Dean wouldn’t keep it functioning. Two circular vents on the dash, one narrow one over the radio. Hero has factory air; some of the other cars used in shooting have fake air vents to match with Hero. 

4. The gas cap is under the license plate. You functionally refuel through the butthole. If you’re used to driving more contemporary vehicles, it’s probably going to make you giggle a little bit the first time you have to gas up. I apologized to my car (a ‘68) the first time. 

5. The seats are vinyl, not leather. Easier to clean, lucky for them! The Impala is the midgrade car, w/ the Caprice as the luxury, the Belaire as the lower end personal use car, and Biscayne as the economy (used for fleet cars like taxis and police cars). This means same body, wildly variable amenities: different door panels, seat material (fabric or vinyl, but never leather as standard), trim, etc. Several of the “Impalas” used in filming are rebuilt Caprices, as are many fan-built tribute cars! 

6. Baby is a four-door hardtop (aka “non post” or “no post” car) vs the sedan (“post car”). The biggest difference is when you roll down the front and back seat windows in a hardtop, you have two unbroken open spaces, one on each side, and in the sedan, you have a divider between front and back windows.  Hardtop only has trim on the window edges, with no post. Roll the windows down, and nothing remains. 

 The sedan has trim  on the “post” breaking the window spaces into four separate windows. Roll the windows down, the trim is still visible. YOu can see how the window trim is thicker all the way around.

7. The Impalas used on the show have two different types of interior door locks, the ones that look like a big chrome nail and the anti-theft lock with no cap. Both are canon, so you can have someone break in with a coat hanger or not if you’d prefer. Hero has the nail-style locks. 

8. The exterior paint color used on the Impala is called Tuxedo Black. It’s still available from classic car shops, so yes, Dean is very well using Tuxedo Black when he rebuilds the car in seaosn 2. 

9. Those cool corner lights are unique to the ‘67. 

10. The back seats have almost no space under them. The bench rests directly on the rise from the floorpan. If something goes missing, it’s under the front seats, not the back ones! 

11. The trunk is huge. Like “hold 6+ people” huge. The weapon box is a separate piece built and installed into the trunk, giving the apperance of a small space, but trust me. Huge. 

12. Speaking of huge, the Impala is over 17 feet long and 8 feet wide. Are you very, very good at parallel parking? I am not. Is Dean very, very good at parallel parking? Possibly, but he’d probably look for a parking spot he could drive or back straight into.

13. This is the dashboard of the Impala. The vinyl covered, padded bit is the dashpad. Remember, this car doesn’t have airbags. Better to whack your head on padding than nothing. The guages and such are all part of the instrument cluster. Two two round things and one long thin thing are the factory ac vents. 

14. Does the Impala have seat belts? Yes! In 1967, lap-only seat belts were standard in Impalas. Dean and Sam may very well be using seat belts that buckle across their laps. One hopes. [UPDATE: Jensen confirmed at DallasCon22 that the Impala does have lap belts, but that he and Jared never wore them during the 15 years of filming].

They look like this. Standard model is NOT retractable. 

So, uh, that’s my “I hyperfixate on the Impala and also I own a 1968 Impala four-door hardtop so I’ve had plenty of chances to futz around with this stuff myself” guide to writing about the Impala. Hopefully it helps you get some details right. I’m NOT a car expect, but I know THIS car (and my own car) pretty well. If you have any other questions about the Impala, shoot them my way!

ETA: I am a wincestie. A lot of y’all have my friends on your dramatic public callout block list. Please be aware that you are reblogging this from a wincestie and you are now wincest-adjacent. 

ETA2: I am happy to answer any Impala questions to the best of my ability and to help you find the answers I don’t know off the top of my head. Feel free to send me an ask or a DM. 

Could have used this about 3 days ago for a new one shot I’m working on.

Also this was such as interesting read, to see and learn about the small stuff we don’t get to see throughout the episodes

It continues to annoy me that they don’t wear seatbelts, but great post about the Impala! It’s not a type of car I’m familiar with (not being American) so very useful to learn more

Because the seatbelts are lap strap only, you can imagine they are wearing them most of the time without having to ignore canon. We rarely see their lower halves when they’re driving and nobody was thrown from the car when hit with an 18-wheeler. I feel you can choose to imagine they’re safe about 90% of the time.

if you don't do anything else today,

Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

white people CAN interact with this post. share it, spread it.

You know the biggest loss of the decline of physical media and the rise of streaming? DVD special features.

I love you DVD commentaries I love you making-of documentaries I love you behind the scenes footage I love you bloopers I love you deleted scenes I love you silly little videos of the cast dicking around 💖

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I, THE DRIVER BEHIND YOU AT THIS STOPLIGHT, HAVE DEDUCED THAT YOU COULD HAVE THREADED THAT LEFT TURN BETWEEN THOSE TWO CARS IF YOU FLOORED IT BEARING 92° SOUTH AND CAUGHT THE WIND.

HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK

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This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, how the fuck would you even enforce that?

"Oh want to use the bathroom? I'll just need you to produce an egg real quick".

Chicken only bathrooms. Not the animal rights move we wanted-

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POV: you (human) (not a fetus) have illegally entered a public women's bathroom in Kansas

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It's impossible to define woman in a way that excludes all trans women and doesn't exclude any cis women, but defining women in a way that excludes all human women trans or cis is a pretty amazing fuckup.

love doing something I call ‘the big leaf test’ where I put my hand on a leaf and if the leaf is bigger than my hand I go damn that’s crazy

why closed captioning should always be provided on every video:

  • Deaf People Exist
  • auditory processing disorder is a Bitch
  • people with ADHD can find it hard to concentrate on what is being said without the words in front of them
  • ^autistic people for the same reason
  • autistic people may also find it hard to interpret verbal messages within the context of the video, so it's useful to have written alternatives to fall back on
  • do you know how painful it is to be excluded from every joke, every video, every conversation because others just Can't Be Bothered?
  • some people live in a conservative household or with family who don't share the same ideals, and they may not have privacy to view things on their own, so they may need to watch things with the volume extremely low or muted
  • We Want To Watch Videos In Public, Dammit

feel free to add on!

as always, ableism will get you blocked (:

a lot of people have been saying this, so I'll go ahead and add it:

  • having written words in front of you when the language they're speaking isn't your primary/native tongue is very helpful for comprehension and fluency
  • Not everyone is fluent in every language and sometimes accents can make it hard to understand what is being said

The closed captioning should also be CORRECT, for all the reasons listed above. My biggest pet peeve is when there IS captions, but they simplify the wording and language to make the captions shorter and end up changing the tone entirely. Don't do that! Just caption things accurately!

the new pornbots’ url game is INSANE. complicit-rotting and warmmourning you would have done numbers if you were real

i feel like a lot of discussions around team free will 2.0’s family dynamic and whether it’s abusive or unhealthy or dysfunctional or whatever could be improved by simply acknowledging that they are not a normal family living under normal circumstances and they are never going to function like a normal family would. their dynamic is not going to mirror a healthy family’s because they are not a healthy family

My favorite thing is knowing team free will 2.0 live in a warm, cozy and happy home filled with love, laughter and peace. They celebrate birthdays and eat dinners and dean cooks and cas burns the kitchen trying to cook. They take miracle out on walks and sam gets to have a dog again. Jack makes friends and tells them all about his two dads and his uncle sam and aunt eileen. Jack and claire make cas a "best celestial dad" t-shirt and he wears it all the time around the house, including dean's Zeppelin shirts. Dean blushes constantly. They have all the fluff and warmth and love. They make popcorn and watch movies in the dean cave. They invite claire and jody and everyone over at least once a month. Charlie visits for movie marathons and takes dean to fantasy conventions. They live fully and are whole heartedly content, not because they "earned it", but because everyone deserve this. Everyone deserve a home. And finally, they got it.