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Give yourself credit for the little things. One day being clean is better than no days at all. Reading one page of a book is better than reading no pages at all. Using one healthy coping mechanism, doing one little bit of self-care, doing one little thing to make you feel the tiniest bit happy or comfortable, is better than not doing that at all. Sometimes the tiniest things feel insurmountable, and sometimes the tiniest things are all you can manage. But you did it, and you should be proud of that. The little things add up to big things. You’re getting there. 

Yes there will.

bernie says recovery rights!

Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

You got to it because you can get through it.

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Recovery is messy when you’re doing it right. 💙

Love Yourself (even if sometimes others have to do it for you)

It’s not a good thing to try and force someone not to use a healthy coping mechanism. There’s nothing inherently wrong with self-deprecation.

There is, there very much is. 

Self-deprecation isn’t a healthy coping mechanism. Coping mechanism? Yes. Healthy? Absolutely not. Saying bad things about yourself seems harmless or even good in the moment but if you do it enough you will reinforce negative beliefs about yourself and the world around you. Say “I’m the worst” enough times and you will believe you’re the worst. Say “everything sucks I should just die lol” enough times and you will come to believe that too. 

I’m not pulling this shit out of my ass either, by the way, this is coming direct from when i was an outpatient at a psychiatric hospital, way back when i did this EXACT THING CONSTANTLY and ended up suicidal. This is what I was taught there, and this is how I dragged myself out.

The best way to combat this (very unhealthy) coping mechanism is really just to force yourself to say good things about yourself, and shut down the bad ones. It feels stupid, it feels like you’re lying, it feels like it will never work. But over time, if you keep at it, and with the help of friends, the new words will replace the old ones.  If you replace “i’m terrible” with “I’ve made a mistake, but that doesn’t make me a bad person” that is what you will come to believe, and make it 1000% easier to actually fix the problem because you won’t be bogged down with self-hatred. 

It’s annoying, and aggravating, and you don’t want to do it because self-deprecation is how you’ve coped for so long, but I promise you it’s not healthy and will make everything worse in the long term. 

No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.

It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.

Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.

I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.

Flawless positivity.

Listen.

I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.

This applies to your relationship with yourself.

If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.

You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.

All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.

So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.

I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.

You don’t need abs to be worthy! 

Some VERY WELL DESERVED body positive love for Thor, soon also available on my Society 6 as a print and other things. 

Inspired by the adorable ‘you don’t need abs to be fab’ picture <3 

Art note: Bodies change throughout life, and Thor is no exception. And his reasons are completely understandable and valid. He suffered the most loss and failure and he became depressed. This is something that happens to many people, because life is unfair and hard. This godly character suddenly became relatable. And it saddens me that he was treated like a continuous fat joke throughout the movie instead of being supported and loved, that is why I made this art, to show support and love for this character, and anyone who relates to him. <3 

Click for higher resolution. Please like or reblog if saved. Ask me if you want to use this picture for anything, I don’t bite ;) 

Art: @artbymoga

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kirby’s thoughts:

❶ It’s important to be able to have the awareness and recognition of your emotions and the feelings that you experience. the next step would be trying to recognize these feelings/emotions in a way that’s non-judgemental, patient, and kind. It’s a skill that will always be in progress so don’t fret about being perfect all the time, you’re only human.

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Sometimes fear doesn’t go away, so you’ll have to do it afraid. You’ll be okay.

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