can we please talk abt the ugly n gross parts of neurodivergency. incontinence, poor motor/body control, impulsivity, misunderstandings, uncomprehending, inappropriate reactions/emotions, weird/abnormal communication, poor volume control, need for 24/7 care due to the above, etc. just the things that are really fucking hard to change without serious work and the way people have no patience for it. like I understand needing to work on symptoms but can we please acknowledge that 1) it takes time and 2) not everyone actually can change certain things abt themselves. ex: nobody can just will away the inability to tolerate bad texture or sensory experience. you have to be patient and work around that. you can't make somebody suddenly feel when they need to pee when they couldn't before, you have to set reminders and work around the issue. yanno?
Hey,
If you suffer from incontinence as a neurodivergent and/or disabled person, it's okay. You're not gross, morally wrong, weird, or an infant. It's okay to struggle with traits and symptoms that aren't considered societally acceptable.
Happy Birthday to the one and only Perseus Jackson, son of Poseidon. 💙
idk if this is controversial or not but i think even if a patient is having psychosomatic/psychological/medical anxiety/hypochondriasis (whatever the hell name you want to call it) they should still be taken seriously with their complaints and treated with respect and dignity
i mean, medically, something like hypochondriasis is a diagnosis of exclusion in the first place — it should only be diagnosed once all other potential causes have been exhausted as options. it’s not supposed to be a doctor’s first or an immediate consideration.
but besides that — i’ve had problems myself with my psychological disorders exacerbating my actual medical ones, i have medical anxiety from medical trauma and can lean towards hypochondriac tendencies, and i’ve had psychosomatic symptoms.
the attitude i got from doctors was horrible — and while it caused serious issues to be missed and misdiagnosed, it also instilled a sense of shame in me and avoidance of the doctor (which, despite media depictions, is common with things like hypochondriasis!) i assumed every problem i had was probably my fault somehow. i must be doing something wrong. i’m eating wrong. maybe it’s my medical anxiety. it’s psychosomatic.
this kind of thinking led to problems like me not knowing i had bowel incontinence for years, something very obvious.
people discuss this problem happening with fatphobia and mental illness in general but rarely ever address this issue with medical anxiety/hypochondriasis/etc. it’s always just “then people get misdiagnosed who WEREN’T crazy” but what about the people who actually are “crazy” like that?
anyway treating patients like shit, no matter what, is probably never the answer. period.
there are so many crucial aspects of disability justice that are ignored in online spaces because they are seen as "cringy" or just don't fit the image of the acceptable disabled person who can function well in abled society with some simple accommodations and never does anything too weird. and it leads to selective, surface-level activism that hurts the vast majority of people it claims to advocate for.
sure, you reblog autism memes or posts about hitting ableists with your cane, but how do you react to people who need 24/7 care? who will never be able to work? who can't read complex texts, or read at all? who can't leave the house? who need things explained to them in simple language? who don't have any friends? who struggle with personal hygiene or household chores? who don't get jokes or sarcasm? who consume mainly or only media targeted at children? who act "weird" in public? who walk slowly? who have highly restricted interests? who write or speak in unconventional ways? who are incontinent?
for almost all of these things, i've seen posts with hundreds and thousands of notes, written and shared by people who claim to care about social justice, mocking others for those traits. no, they don't explicitly mention disability, and when you dare to bring up ableism to them, the common refrain is "well duh, i wasn't talking about disabled people!"
but that's the thing, isn't it? it's never about us. we are shown, time and time again, that we don't belong in the exclusive category of humanity, that people would rather not think about us, because we're just too complicated, too much work. well it's just tumblr posts, you might say. don't be so sensitive. but the thing about oppression is that it's never just something. the attitude expressed in these posts is indicative of a larger, much more dangerous problem, one that has infiltrated every corner of society.
beyond a certain degree of impairment, we are seen as less than human. we are forgotten, left aside, at best an afterthought. and that carelessness shows in the social welfare system, the medical system, the job market, every aspect of society we need to survive and that so often fail us.
and beyond that, it's just fucking tiring. it's tiring to be ashamed of things you can't control, because people keep treating them as personal failings. it's tiring to be reminded over and over that people weren't thinking about you, that they're never thinking about you, that you're selfish for even imagining that they might. it's tiring to know that once you stray too far from the norm, you will be denied your humanity, not just by bigoted politicians, but by the people claiming to be on your side.
i'm not saying that all of the things i listed above are unique to disability. but they are part of many disabled people's lived reality, and to deny that is to be ignorant to that reality. if you are willing to accept that oppression is insidious and can manifest in much more subtle ways than outright hatred, that microaggressions exist, that even the most well-meaning people can perpetuate bigoted ideas, then you need to accept that that also goes for ableism.
and neither am i saying that you're a bad person if you did ever make fun of those things. we all have our toxic beliefs to unlearn. but we need to actively choose to unlearn them, and we can't do that if we deny the many ways these beliefs manifest.
here's the thing: bigotry is easy. it wouldn't be this pervasive if it wasn't so seductive. it's easy to find a convenient target to let your anger out on; it's easy to convince yourself that your petty annoyances are actually righteous truths; it's easy to believe that you're infallible and it must be the others who are wrong.
but if you want to be an ally to disabled people, you need to examine the unconscious ableist beliefs you hold, those knee-jerk reactions to mock anything considered socially unacceptable, and actively work on dismantling them. you need to listen to disabled people's experiences (a wide range of them), work through the initial discomfort you may feel, and think about what you can do to improve disabled lives - even if it's just to change the way you're thinking.
(and this doesn't just apply to abled people - being marginalised yourself doesn't make you magically immune from holding bigoted beliefs, so being disabled doesn't mean you can't be ableist. i've seen way too many disabled people on here throwing other disabled people under the bus for being too "weird" or not having the same abilities as they do.)
if you want to support disabled people, you need to support all of us, not just the ones you find palatable.
(TW FOR ABLEISM, MELTDOWNS, ETC.)
Supporting disabled people is more than just supporting us when you think its cute, easy, or beneficial for you.
If your support ends when you see an adult in public with a diaper bulge, you aren't supporting disabled people.
If your support ends when you see someone drooling, you aren't supporting disabled people.
If your support ends when someone has a violent meltdown in public, you aren't supporting disabled people.
If your support ends when someone needs help being fed, you aren't supporting disabled people.
Etc. Etc. Etc.
I know that you dont think its cute or aesthetically pleasing to try and calm me down and be understanding of me when I throw my communication device across the room and slam my head into the ground because someone laughed too loudly, I know that you think its embarrassing. I know you dont think it's all "uwu cute tism" when I can't shower for a week straight and spend the whole day crying, yelling, and biting myself, but if that makes you angry at me, you arent supporting disabled people.
What is your limit to supporting disabled people? What is your limit to being okay with the fact that I am NOT like your nondisabled friends?
Where does the support end and the disgust start? How long until we are "too disabled" for you?
/not at anyone specific
Happy Birthday to our favourite Seaweed-Brain!!
Happy birthday to Percy Jackson. Hope my man is eating blue cake and not being used as a child soldier today fr.
August 18: Happy Birthday Perseus "Percy" Jackson (Riordanverse)!!!!
Both Leo and Jason have Aro Ace vibes and I stand by that
I’ve talked about them both separately before but yea.
1. Jason only ever romantically loved someone under heras control
2. Leo was just searching for someone to care
Bottom line: They both deserve it be in a QPR together
Here’s what it would look like
- They would both Graduate and renovate/build a little Van to travel in
- They both feel at home in so many areas that just want to build one together first.
- Leo does most of the work at the Waystation, it looks like a Normal old station wagon
- Inside is huge and includes beds, a hammock kitchen, laundry stuff and even a shower and toilet
- They go all around from the Waystation to New Rome and Camp Halfblood for about a Year
- Jason finishes his temples and Leo helps build them
- Leo does most of the cooking, and Jason the cleaning
- They adopt a dog, the looks more and more like a wolf every day
- They love watching Marvel movies and snuggling together
- Leo makes big bomb fires for them
- Leo made Disney bands for them to get into Disney for free
- They spent a few days there
- Leo got sick a few times, he claims it’s becuase it’s not a smooth as Jason’s flying
- Once they are in their twenties they decide to settle down in the middle of knowhere between both camps
- They help lost demigods, and eventually start fostering them
- It becomes a big safe haven with even a small farm and garden which Jason takes care of
- Piper loves visiting them and she comes out with Shel at least once a year
Thank you for your time
HAPPY BIRTHDAY PERCY JACKSON!!
happy birthday percy 💙 you've helped me through so much
I know I'm late, but here:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY PERCY JACKSON!!! I WISH YOU ALL THE BLUE COOKIES IN THE WORLD 💙💙
HAPPY BIRTHDAY PERCYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
*cue a demonic pterodactyl screech*
