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“Each Covid infection increases the risk of developing chronic health issues like diabetes — including in children — organ failure, stroke, heart conditions, kidney disease, and mental health problems. These are just the problems we know about. We know from other viruses, like polio, that some of the consequences can take years to appear. Post-polio syndrome, which is thought to stem from a deterioration of nerve cells, can take as long as 40 years to show up.”
sometimes i forget most people don't know that birdhouse shapes aren't just for shits and giggles and that birds actively prefer and even need specific shapes to nest in
So which ones need the Frank Lloyd Wright ass houses?
the ones that make 240,000$ a year by making other birds work in their warehouse for 5 sunflower seeds an hour
I love listening to music from a perspective of total naïveté knowing nothing about music generally or about the particular artists that I am listening to. I also love listening to every genre and enjoying all the genres. I love listening to music with 10000000 fans and music with 3 fans. Music is great, a very cool thing our species has created
visible disability not guarantee help .
severe disability not guarantee help .
people would not " treat better " if more visible , more severe . trust on this .
I love trans voices. I love pre-HRT and “started HRT a month ago” and sore voices lowering and carefully trained voices and I love trans laughter and trans singing and I love the in-between androgyny of some voices and I love MY voice and I love my friends’ voices. I love husky voices and medium voices and high pitched voices and gravely voices. I love range changes and I love the expressiveness. I love trans voices.
- leslie feinberg, stone butch blues
["She spoke more softly. "It's a beautiful night, isn't it?" The shades of gender in her voice were intricate, like mine."]
Jesus would smoke a blunt with you but modern religious organizations refuse this simple reality
Anonymous asked:
i have come to the realization and am inclined to share that i have trained my body similarly to the small bladder kink anon. i made a habit of jerking it for migraine relief. now the beginning symptoms of a migraine include fatigue, brain fog, temperature dysregulation, sinus pain, and undeniable horniness.
that fucking rules dog.
wisdomsavingthrow replied: i say this as unironically as possible, sexualize your disability it can and will make things fun
my autistic ass has a fetish for being dropped into a blank unemotive state for a reason!!
i have such intense joint problems that if i wear a heel higher than 2-3" and try to walk i WILL fall flat on my face and for that reason heels are the best and most decorative manacles
I’ve said this a lot, but having chronic pain and playing with masochism has been ✨such✨ a profound way of reclaiming that pain. Same shit with autism and hypnosis - my brain is weird, fuck it let’s play around with it
Imagine a world where homosexuality was still in the DSM but society had moved gradually toward some moderate acceptance of queer people, but only with the understanding that we are sick and that leading out our queer lives is medically necessary for us. in this paradigm, a person would have to get diagnosed with homosexuality by a psychiatrist in order to be permitted to have gay sex
this is basically the reality that trans people are living in right now. and that's for those of us that are lucky enough to live in a place where we *are* allowed to lead out trans lives once we get gender dysphoria written down in our medical charts
#for ppl curious about the alternative:#so doctors in most places have an authoritative role. you have to proove youre trans and then they ALLOW you treatment.#but it doesnt have to be that way. im an upper middle class person in a major and very accepting canadian city.#my dr and i are basically PARTNERS in my healthcare. i can go in and say hey im having weird pain i want to see an obgyn.#and she's just like okay cool ill put you on the list to see one.#if i wanted to i could walk in or make an appointment rn and see her and ask for testosterone and she would#basically ask me if i know the risks etc and the process. id say yes (cause i do). and id start the process to receive T (u need blood#tests first) within a couple days.#but in more transphobic places or with shitty doctors that feel they have authority over you it doesnt work that way.#eg ive had psychiatrists where it wasnt like i walked in and they were like oh damn okay ur sick.#i had to work to PROOVE i was sick. (and one time got yelled at it sucks).#but i was eventually partnered with a psych who took a collaborative approach to medicine.#there are also ppl who argue it could be entirely OTC. like.. we have everyday access to dangerous drugs. if i wanted to rn i could#destroy my liver with 2 extra strength bottles of tylenol. in many places there r highly addictive drugs in cough syrup.#they sell bandage kits and stitching supplies.#people are ALREADY trusted to take care of their own healthcare to a point its not completely wild to make HRT otc or behind the counter#at the pharmacy.#i dont personally agree with hrt being that easily available bc a lot of people dont put the work into researching it#(not bc they are flippant. but bc they dont understand how 2 research or have the time/energy 2 to rserch.) so its better imo to keep it#at least behind the counter at the pharmacy
Thank you for adding! We gotta stop leaving such gold in the tags now that tumblr makes them hard to see! lots of people should read this addition.
During a writing workshop I took this past year, I was reading a submission from someone in the group, and the following passage hit me like a brick: “I learned the things most people don’t have to know, too, how to shut down my brain and just perform the motions when needed. I made myself into the perfect parallel, not a mirror but foam. Folding in when he needed to push down, anticipating his next move, and absorbing it in kind. I became resigned to his every need, trying to never let him get ahead of my mental preparation.” — Lizzie McCord I unpacked this with my partner, and then with my therapist, and the concept of social memory-foaming formed. Here’s my attempt at a formal definition: Memory-foaming is the process of losing, giving up, or having trouble forming a sense of self-identity, self-advocacy and self-determination in social situations, and molding oneself to someone else or to a situation. It often involves excessively conceding, bending, conforming and acquiescing to someone, either actively or passively, either as a reaction to specific feedback, or in anticipation of a certain response. It often involves making yourself as small, as accommodating, and/or as agreeable as possible, to the point of self-neglect and self-alienation. Memory-foaming is different from people-pleasing in its process of self-unknowing, and in its process of identity-anchoring to someone or something else. It involves actually taking the shape of whatever or whoever you come into contact with, and being an adaptable, soft, malleable cast, often in order to fit in, gain acceptance or maintain connection. In relationships, memory-foaming is different from compromise, generosity, accommodation, and balanced self-sacrifice mainly because of its characteristic ignorance or un-awareness of self, and the resulting extreme deference to someone else by default. It often involves the actual adoption and internalization of someone else’s perceptions and desires, and therefore often involves not knowing the difference between “mine” and “theirs.” As a result, just like real memory foam, it takes a long time afterwards to understand what was “me” and what was “them.” Sometimes, that understanding never comes.
Wow. This was a fantastic read. I think Lizzie McCord & Attlee Hall's "memory foaming" metaphor describes a psychological experience common to Autistics far better than "people pleasing", "codependency" or even "fawning" ever did.