Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.

These fashionable lil bitches are adorable and frankly I've grown tired of pretending they're not.

Kimono my beloved🥺🥺💕💕💕

LOOOK AT THIS SCOOTALOO LOOKS LIKE A MOM I'M CRYING THEY'RE SO CUTE AND COZY 😭😭😭😭

here comes Lily Lightly!

Yes they fucking do!!

The United States is not a country. It's a settler colony that perpetuates itself via the industrialized and bureaucratized genocide of poor, disabled and colonized people.

Its government is an authoritarian entity whose primary function is sustaining its arms trade, oil grabs and capitalist slavery.

It's a rogue state that answers to no international law, the most powerful terrorist organisation in the world.

It is the moral obligation of every leftist to contribute to the destruction, dismantling and dissolution of the United States.

Completely missing the point though that Israel is not a colonial state but a state predicated on the return of indigenous people to their native Homeland, the home of the language spoken by our people no matter how far flung we were driven by murderous forces, the home of the culture we have shared from Marrakesh to Kaifeng, the land where the oldest stones were layed by our ancestors, cities built by our ancestors and the bones of thousands of years of history lay.

There is no expiration date on indigenous status, and the position of leftists that the United States should not exist because states should not exist does not change that the Hellenic Colonies, and Alexandrian Successor Kingdoms (particularly Ptolemys & Seleucids), and the Romans, and the Sassanians, and then the Muslim expansion, and the Crusader Kingdoms, the Mamluks, the Ottoman Empire, the British Empire were all Colonisers of my native home. All of them were either assimilators, murderers, or expellers of the native Jewish population. All of them were colonial forces, and for 2000 years we the people they all colonised and committed genocides against have said Next Year in Jerusalem, L'Shana Haba'ah B'Yerushalayim, לשנה הבאה בירושלים

We are allowed to return to our native Homeland, you can't champion land back with the exception of the Jews. Jews, Palestinians, Samaritans, and Naqab... There is room for all of us, in peace,

It never ceases to amaze me that Europeans who have colonised the whole world and together depopulated Europe of Jews until there are fewer than 2 million of us on the continent, and criticise those who survive as European passing despite spending generations killing us for our ethnic features when you see them... have such a singular focus on Israel as the scapegoat for all their sins.

Israel and the US are both colonial states who displaced and murdered the indigenous population to make room for white settlers and came up with bullshit religious justifications for why they were allowed to take the land. They should both be dismantled.

I need the pillow for pregnant people I need it I need it

I need to be put in there immediately. Need to be squeezed in there I need the pillow I need to lay down in th

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holy shit i just learned something beautiful

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BAT :D

As a late diagnosed autist I will say one of the most damaging but transformative experiences I've ever had was being misdiagnosed with BPD.

Everyday my heart goes out to people with BPD.

The amount of stigma and silencing they face is astonishing and sickening.

I took DBT for years. Therapists use to turn me away because of my diagnosis.

I would be having full blown autistic meltdowns, crying for help literally - but because I was labeled as BPD ANY time I cried I was treated as manipulative and unstable.

As if the only reason I could be crying was if I was out to trick someone.

95% of the books out there with Borderline in the title are named shit like 'How to get away from a person with Borderline', 'How to stop walking on eggshells (with a person who has BPD)'

I was never allowed to feel true pain or panic or need.

That was 'attention seeking behavior', not me asking for help when a disability was literally inhibiting my ability to process emotions.

There were dozens of times where I had a full meltdown and was either threatened with institutionalization or told I was doing it for attention.

My failing relationships weren't due to a communication issue, or the inability to read social cues. No, because I was labeled borderline, my unstable relationships were my fault. Me beggong nuerotypicals to just be honest and blunt with what they meant was me pestering them for validation.

Borderline patients can't win.

And the funny thing is - I asked my therapist about autism. I told her I thought I was on the spectrum.

BPD is WILDLY misdiagnosed with those with autism and I had many clear signs.

Instead - she told me 'If you were autistic we wouldn't be able to have this conversation'. She made me go through a list of autistic traits made clearly for children, citing how I didn't fit each one.

And then she told me that me identifying with the autism community was the BPD making me search for identity to be accepted - and that I wasn't autistic, just desperate to fit in somewhere.

I didn't get diagnosed for another ten years. For ten years I avoided the autism community - feeling as if I were just a broken person who wanted to steal from people who 'really needed it'.

Because of my providers - I began to doubt my identity MORE, not less.

Ten years of thinking I was borderline and being emotionally neglected and demonized by a system meant to help me.

To this day, I still don't trust neurotypicals. Not fully.

I know I'm not borderline now - but my heart aches for them. Not for the usual stuff. But for the stigma. And the asshole doctors. And the dismissiveness and threatening and the idea of institutionalization hanging over their head.

I love Borderline people. I always will. I'm not Borderline but if you are I love you and I'm sorry.

You're not a bad person. You're not a therapists worst nightmare, you are a human with valid feelings and fears.

Borderline people I'm sorry.

tumblr won’t let me reblog this for some reason :/

Nickelodeon won't let you reblog

I guess I kinda fit (although I'd describe myself more as transneutral), thanks a lot for putting this into words! The emphasis is absolutely there, for society to accept us: either fully performing as man or not performing as man at all, with no inbetween or nuance allowed

I've dated a lot of amab nbs that are active in the gay male community and quite a few of them have told me they get pigeonholed as drag queens (even when they don't really do drag they just sometimes wear bright makeup or paint their nails or wear a skirt or something) or as Faking It For Attention, and quite a few have been outright denied their identity due to their weight, body shape, race, or ability status.

I dated a bear once who was over 6ft tall, 300lbs, with long nails he grew himself (not acrylic) and painted, bright colored eyeshadow sometimes, sometimes he wore a dress or skirt, and sometimes "feminine" accessories... and the amount of stories he told me about people mistreating him because he was not man'ing in the way they expected nor woman'ing either... and he wasn't even really nb, just one of those "my gender is gay, I'm a man but in a gay way" gay men.

Honestly the only way to hear these stories is to occupy the places they do as well, and to be willing to hear and make space for them, because so many people aren't.

Being part of this niche can create such awkward spots of tension with other queer folks in my experience, like having trans women treat me differently when I still use the men's restroom or seeing that all too common thing where people doubt my gender because I like to dress tom boyishly. I hate to say it but sometimes people will recognize that I'm non-binary but assume that I'm afab and I just won't really bother to correct them, I don't want to portray myself as such or play on transphobic opinions for my own gain but I also don't owe anyone any explanations for my gender presentation and I think it's disappointing that there's even a divide between amab and afab enbies in people's perspectives in the first place

I don't even think some of these stereotypes are overly harmful since I think there is a joy in shared culture that people can have, I just wish that more people could recognize that these aren't hard definitions and that there is more varied types of gender presentation out there

I'm starting a tag chain: @fweebie @miki-meh @hootiee @dreamin-at-dawn and @greenscissors yall dont have to tag anyone or play if you want want to

Thanks for tagging me bestie!

Tagging: @piscesgirl2020 , @koolkat9 , @newhetaliafan , @mukou-san , @a-dorky-american , @elithegnome

Thanks for the tag!

Tagging: @paperuniverse @hondakiku @maplespicequeen94 @kostantina (no pressure)

Thanks for tagging me! Really loved this! Looks like we both chose purple as our skin colour 👀

Tagging: @disneyprincessdxminatrix, @labitchette, @r-osematter, @peeechy-deeemon, @j-ellyfish and anyone else who’d like to join :)

My only thought is space goat

I'm not really sure who to tag so have fun everyone

My boyfriend was showing me his cat and I leaned over to kiss the cat on his soft little baby head and he went "meow" and scrambled away because I'd been wearing my headphones and I accidentally jabbed him with the microphone.

And I said "Damn, this is exactly like in the Iliad"

#explanation: this references the scene where Hektor the prince of troy goes to his wife after a battle and leans in to kiss his son #(who is still a baby and being held in andromache's arms) #but his son cringes away in fear of his father's battle helmet #it's a gut wrenching scene about how war dehumanizes you and separates you from the people you love #this interpretation implies that being a gamer is analogous

read the first sentence and was like what did i even do and then i read the rest and im like yea you know what i WOULD BENEFIFT from being exploded a little bit. you're so right

fun fact!! it turns out that now when u make a new blog, tumblr forces you to follow 3-4 people before you can change your icon or modify your blog in any way!! this, of course, means that, yes, some of the "potential bots" many of us have been automatically blocking could have possibly been genuine new users who were only just seconds in to having an account!!! tumblr is literally screwing new users over!!!!

This is why I’ve been leaving them alone recently (I saw a similar post to this a few weeks back) still block anything with a ‘sexy women’ I see you porn bots

Please don't ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the "He's exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network" talk and some people aren't

FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:

This applies to ALL relationships btw

sudden urge to burst into tears. im not a toddler i just agree with their beliefs

Yeah, that checks out