Reasons why accountability (aka taking charge of your life) is awesome

I love how more and more gen z are deciding to live their life by the Realistic Optimist philosophy. Understanding that life DOES suck, and then making the conscious choice to try and make it suck a little less. Understanding that no one is really 'special', but that's okay because you weren't born to be the best, you were born to live and find happiness. Knowing that while the people in power may be corrupt, most humans are kind. Knowing that the human spirit has preserved through so many catastrophes, that this like all things will pass.

one of the greatest tragedies in life is that you will always be loved more than you will ever know. someone in class finds your presence inviting and warm, even if you’ve only ever exchanged a few words with them—maybe none at all. someone on the street loves your smile and it gets them down the next few streets. someone you used to be friends with still wishes to fondly call your name. someone you used to be friends with five years ago would give anything to be in the same room as you today. someone who regularly comes into work is disappointed when you aren’t there to brighten their day. someone missed you today. someone noticed you were gone. someone loves you when you’re there; someone loves you when you’re nowhere to be found at all. you think you have always disappeared when you’re no longer in the picture, but you’ve never left the frame.

Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Growing up with strict and abusive parents has meant that even now that i know what they have done, and even while im trying to get out, i still get so much anxiety when i have to do things without them. Even when im trying to get a job to get some independence, im avoiding it because im so anxious about having to do anything on my own, all i want is to ask them for help, and let them do it all for me, and the fact that im not even going to be able to do this slowly, that soon im going to have to throw myself into it and go from not even knowing how to use public transport to being on my own in the world is terrifying.

hey idk who needs to hear this (me) but being visibly upset is not a display of weakness or a burden to those around you. crying when someone insults you is not manipulative. having trouble controlling your volume and tone is not threatening. retreating to somewhere you feel safe to cool down is your right. if you want to be left alone, others should respect that. having violent urges does not make you a bad person. negative emotions are normal and healthy. you should not have to be always polite and obedient to be treated with basic respect.

parents, it's called setting boundaries, NOT disrespect.

if your child doesn't wanna talk about something with you or do a certain thing, don't force them. don't hold it against them.

because the more you do, the more they'll pull away from you.

don't make it worse, please. setting boundaries ≠ disrespect.

A warm muffin and some supportive words to start the day right! I hope you all are doing okay.

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Just found out my facebook birding group is public because my cousin (a lawyer who is not into birds) casually said to me “saw you couldn’t identify a willet the other day… pretty embarrassing”

no actually i haven’t watched that show you recommended to me yet but i watched two guys visit every rainforest cafe in north america on youtube. twice.

so.

Say hi to Drew and Eddy who just debuted in the Watcher Cinematic Universe

how do you tell normal people in your life that the highlight of your day was watching an hour and forty five minutes' worth of vlogs about two white men embarking on a 23-day road trip to eat at every margaritaville in north america

Every Margaritaville 🍹

how I look after sleeping for 10 hours (I'm chronically ill):

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