The most frustrating category of music is "This Song Would be Flawless if it Didn't Have a Slur in it".
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tbh i've seen so much KiNk At PrIdE discourse that at this point my opinion has shifted all the way to "yes, people should have penetrative sexual intercourse in the middle of pride parades"
I don't go that far but it's certainly a mood. I am so sick of watching baby queers just go back and reinvent the exact abuses and horrors that made us start doing pride in the first place.
I mean it's never been clear to me what the principled line is. I'm extremely pro kink at pride, but what exactly is too far and how do we decide that? Personally I'm fine with fucking at pride but I'm not sure how the hell other people are making decisions.
I think there are tolerably-non-stupid reasons for our general thing of not having people having sex in public places, and I'm willing to endorse that as a line because actually that does seem to be A Bit Much.
I mean, to some extent it's just a consensus-flavored thing? I just feel that "let's try to actively move the consensus of our culture back to our existence being a capital crime" is actually a really fucking stupid approach to advocacy.
I think you can have sex in "public", for a few reasons, one of the biggest ones being that "public sex" is often used to criminalise people doing perfectly fine things, especially queer people, that aren't even what comes to mind when you hear the term (like in hotels, for example). I think as long as you can reasonably guess you're not going to get caught (like in the woods, in a single stall toilet, etc) and anyone who does catch you can leave (so not on rollercoasters, for example), then it's perfectly fine. maybe it has something to do with not being american, and living in a smaller town that thusly has plenty of dogging sites that everybody has vague awareness are dogging sites, but it's never seemed like a particularly big deal to me, and I think the downsides of some of these ways we police it (from laws to harassment) are greater. it obviously isn't going to become a thing, if we stop that, where a massive influx of people will start fucking on crowded streets, it basically just wouldn't happen, it would be like it is now, only the people who took a piss in a bush won't end up criminalised also.
Yes yes decriminalize polite public sex but also we need more Folsom County Fair type pride events where people are actually fucking in the street. I saw a video of that shit once and it CHANGED me. I learned things about myself i had only theorized about. Folsom is what ppl think pride is, and i honestly wish it were more like that. Less bank vendors and pop stars and more faggots on leashes like show ponies with their ass and tits out. Give me the street fair where i can grab dicks i NEED the street fair where i can grab dicks.
Imre Bak (1939-2022) — Despite all the Difficulties [oil, canvas, 1991]
Saying you're an atheist now when you were raised Christian doesn't erase the fact that you are culturally Christian and have to work to unpack it.
Becoming a feminist doesn't erase the fact that you were raised in a patriarchal society and you have to work to unpack misogyny.
Being a woman doesn't erase the fact that you were raised in a patriarchal society and you have to work to unpack misogyny.
Being a queer ally doesn't erase the fact that you were raised in a queerphobic society and you have to work to unpack that.
Being trans doesn't erase the fact that you were raised in a transphobic society and you have to work to unpack it.
Being queer doesn't erase the fact that you were raised in a queerphobic society and you have to work to unpack that.
Identifying as a marginalized identity does not mean you are instantly washed clean of all the bad shit you learned about that minority. You HAVE to put in the effort. Every day. For the rest of your life.
That last paragraph is so pessimistic, good grief ... If you can't stop thinking in old patterns, that sounds like a skill issue your personal problem, don't pull the rest of us down with you. Sure it's effort, but it's something one can be done with.
Not sure what "culturally Christian" is doing in this list next to a bunch of forms of bigotry, but the irony of accusing others of being culturally Christian while you yourself insist that people are forever tainted by events beyond their control is not lost on me.
the cool thing about this brand of scrupulosity-fueled "supercharge the cop in your own head" thinking is that you can opt out of it at zero cost to yourself and others
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wow womens day is really special this year ♡ between andrew tate getting lung cancer and this.... congrats to all women ♡
I think people really don't realize how deeply Vampire: The Masquerade influenced our perception of vampires. I bring this up because every now and then I see somebody on the Internet insisting that actual physical undead immortal vampires really exist, and then they start talking about "clans" and "elders," two things that very distinctly originate from a 1990's tabletop RPG. And they have no idea that this is where it's from because it's just what they've heard from people, who heard it from other people, who heard it from other people.
this section from the article “They/Them Pronouns Suddenly Easy for Person Misgendering Trans Woman” is really just how it works god
i can't explain it but people who say "mfer" are automatically corny
I recommend to everyone online to follow at least ONE (1) weirdo. Not a qanon conspiracy flavor weirdo, I’m talking follow furries with specific fixations you’ve never even heard of (I just saw a post about paranormal investigator bear furries but with no context or explanation and, sure, fuck it, why not), follow artists who use materials you’ve never heard of before and have barely any aesthetic interest in, follow writers whose work confuses the fuck out of you but makes you pause and think.
And the next part, and this part is VITALLY important… shut the fuck up
DON’T constantly comment “what does this mean”, “I don’t get it”, “explain it to me”, “ok but why”, etc
Just shut up
There’s a time and place for questions and I think it’s HEALTHY to have AT LEAST one place where you COMPLETELY STOP YOURSELF from questions.
A place where you sit, stare, and let yourself Not Get It.
One of the biggest problems I run into with people is their entitled expectations to Understand everything, or at least they want to THINK they understand everything (so they’re a lot more likely to fall for batshit conspiracy theories because, well, pointing at a Shadowy Group Responsible For Everything is pretty easy to understand). They see something they don’t get and they flip out, they want to label it, diagnose it, make panicked laws about it.
You need… NEEEEED… for the sake of your own maturity and mental health… to know when it’s okay to sit there in silence and go “hm. I don’t get it. Cool.”
You need to know how to sit in silence in some one’s art and worldview and words and think to yourself “all of this is put together in a reasonable way, but I am not connecting with it”…
GOOD.
You shouldn’t HAVE to! You shouldn’t be in this world thinking EVERYTHING in it is accessible to you, is understandable to you. You NEED to embrace the idea that SOME things will always evade your understanding. The universe is unfathomably huge and it’s absolute NONSENSE to think to yourself that you can fathom everything in it.
Find the harmlessly weird shit to follow IN SILENCE and let yourself not understand. It’s good for you.
What do you mean, “one”?
Also, I saw your tag “#your own personal shinga”, and my brain started singing this like the Depeche Mode song.
Listen, some people need to start slow, one is a START ;) Ideally you follow a minimum of a couple dozen weirdos eventually, surrounding yourself with the internet version of a free art show where all the city’s strangest artists have shown up to line the street with their amazingly weird shit. But. One is a good start. It gets the weird ball rollin’. (And that tag is 100% supposed to get that song in people’s heads, so, that’s a win for the day, lol)
Sleepy Bitch Disease Flag - When you’re always just so tired.