so much of being an ok person is just 1) not panicking, 2) not taking things personally, and 3) not letting the vindictive gargoyle that lives in your head tell you what to do. this sucks because brains love doing those things
I hate you. I'm unfollowing you. I will follow you back when you're fatter, and yes, even if you post no selfies, I will be able to tell.
#YES#this is so hard to explain to people! like whether you like it or not movies have an effect on the people who watch them!#people aren't perfect critical thinking machines they absorb what they watch#they half remember! they focus on the parts they thought were interesting and forget the rest!#movie critiques (especially of anti something movies) should start with the premise that they have an effect on the world#not that they exist in a perfectly neutral space#the movie inherently justifies this thing's existence so it what the rest of the movie has to say WORTH it#is what it has to say insightful? does it approach the subject in a thoughtful and meaningful way#does it offer a new perspective on the subject? does it actually think through the consequences?#if all it has to say is like. this thing is bad because it made this guy saddddd#it hasn't justified its existence
People who don’t do or create shit are always the most critical because they have no frame of reference. They severely underestimate how much energy it takes, how much fear and other psychic burdens need to be overcome, the sheer amount of relentless persistence, faith and self-belief it takes to put something, no matter how feeble and shitty, out in to the world.
It seems so easy just looking. “I could do that”. “I could’ve made that”. Well then do it. Look at the most feeble and easy looking creative work and then replicate it in your own way. And with no irony or hiding or joking- in all sincerity put your name on it - and show it to others. People you know in real life. As a representation of yourself. See how it feels. You’ll have a new appreciation and softness towards creative friends and strangers.
it’s incredible the internet is full of women who call themselves and other women delusional all the time because they expect men to treat them nicely and like human beings and men online without a hint of irony argue their behavior is because “men want to finally be loved equally for a change.” absolutely amazing the level we have internalized male projection. they have convinced themselves heterosexual relationships were biased and disproportionate toward women (who do 47 minutes more housework PER DAY on average, who are more likely to remain in a relationship with a sick or incarcerated or dying partner, who are more likely to remain faithful, who are more likely to take care of aging relatives and spouses, etc etc etc) and that men being whiny and rude and entitled is some kind of equality. but women are delusional. okie dokie 👍🏾
obviously plenty of women are Too Online but social media makes men so much worse than it makes women. like if a man is on twitter everyday several times day he is without a doubt an active misogynist and for a number of these guys, directly because he uses twitter so much. he’s also cornier and dumber and thinks less critically than he would otherwise.
It seems that with any other axis of oppression Tumblr understands that there are groups that benefit at the direct expense of others, but when it comes to sexism it's "wellll it's complicated." What used to be known as "the feminism website" is witnessing the movement's death by a thousand cuts of "nuance." Many on here don't see the gendered division of labor as a labor issue, or conceptualize violence against women the same way they conceptualize any other type of hate crime. I feel like we need to return to the most basic, entry level 2013 "feminism is good, women are oppressed, feminism can and must be compatible with trans issues" messaging because clearly not everyone here is even on that level.
soon as any sentiment begins with 'women need to have more sympathy for men...' you have immediately lost me. goodbye. try cultivating some self awareness cos you've never had sympathy for us lmao
my take on the whole “is therapy speak making us selfish” thing is no, it’s not. it’s just giving people who were already selfish some extremely annoying new vocabulary
if I could beat the shit out of stupid men I would like everyday without fail sometimes I see the things they say and I’m like wow I should kms because there are so many stupid nasty rotten brained men like I want to choke them out with my bare hands anyways good night stupid men kill yourselves or learn empathy either way get away from me you freaks
minimalism is cool but have you ever had all the things you love in your room
growing up is like this: no matter where you go you will always miss someone
me and the mutuals x
op i love what you did here but you missed the absolutely most showstopping coconut look
stonermilk
men will have realizations while they're high that i had at like eight years old
About ten years ago I decided that the next step I needed to take in my life was to accept and explore what it meant to be a failure and to have failed. This infuriated almost everybody in my life and clearly terrified a lot of people. People do not want you to accept failure. They dont want you to like... Sit with and think about it and pick it up and turn it arpund in your hands and really examine it. They want you to keep throwing yourself against the impossible walls until your body explodes! They do not want you to say "alright then, I've failed. What does that mean for me? Im still here. What does the life of someone who has failed look like?"
This makes people very angry and panicky.
My mental health improved in ways it had not in the previous DECADE once I stopped. And. Sat. With failure. And thought about what my failure ... Was. And looked at the structures that produced it and examined them critically.
It is so taboo to fail and admit it openly and talk about it. It is so taboo to talk about or think about failure in an accepting way rather than hiding it shamefully until you experience a degree of success in some area which allows you to present the past failure as "a stepping stone" to your current situation. Fuck that. We are put in positions of guaranteed failure by society every day and then punished and shamed for it. Lets fucking talk about failure
now more than EVER it is so so important to be an unmitigated cunt. <3
every time a woman talks about getting cosmetic surgery lip fillers botox buccal fat removal PREVENTATIVE botox labiaplasty rhinoplasty any of the plastys i feel like i'm being sucked down a fucking storm gutter. it's so bleak and it's so grim and it's so profoundly upsetting. here's how to sleep so you don't get wrinkles! here's how to laugh and smile so you don't get wrinkles! here's this horrifically over involved skincare routine that you should start as a teenager to prevent any indication that you've lived a life free from the omnipresent fear of being observed and subsequently found lacking! you are empowering yourself by constantly placing every piece of your body into separately managed boxes of routines and standards! this should be your hobby! your body is not just for you! the world is entitled to dictate how you look and how you feel about yourself and the unattainable goals are always changing and you will never ever rest! but you should get more sleep! don't look old! look fresh! be fuckable! be cool! make this look low effort! don't be high maintenance! your earlobes are ugly! you're ugly! you're so beautiful! beauty is everything! beauty is worth! self consciousness is so unattractive! make the other women in your life feel inhuman for not sticking to the rules as well as you have! this is a sisterhood! this is a direct competition! kill the competition! support women! other women are doing it wrong! don't be like other women! be the best woman! we'll stop punishing the best woman! i'm going to be fucking sick on myself.