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this used to be a Dishonored blog but now is mostly just assorted chatter.

recommend me music please

ok figured it’s time to retire the book rec post since my to-read pile is quite full now. so! time to get some new tunes. my music library hasn’t had an update in ages, and modern algo recommends give me the feeling of circling the drain.

much like with books, I don’t have much direction since i’m trying to find stuff I wouldn’t find on my own (that said do not underestimate the degree to which i live under a rock and have not heard of shit. I used to play tbone at a pretty high level but I do not like Know About Music beyond what was required for that. basic shit that has played on the radio is as on the table as something from the ass end of youtube bootleg uploads) and generally just inject some novelty. other than that I pretty reliably don’t like metal w/ growly vocals, or parody/comedy songs.

I would strongly prefer recommendations for full albums, rather than a single song (not enough!) or an artist/band (too much!).

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I really can't emphasize enough how much I don't care if the anecdotes people tell on here are true. We are sitting around a campfire telling tall tales, embellishments and flights of fancy are part of the fun

When the man at the bait shop tells you he almost caught a bass thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig you don't write a callout post accusing him of gaslighting

note: I still think asshole is basically a worthless characterization when you're trying to describe like. political movements.

it's a really useful category to have for organizing personal relationships but beyond that it just has near-zero explanatory power.

note: I still think asshole is basically a worthless characterization when you're trying to describe like. political movements.

Anonymous asked:

i’m inclined towards disgust and i don’t really feel disgust towards trans people, so i can tell you the role disgust plays in my radfem ideology. when i first got on the internet and discovered trans people, i was wholeheartedly supportive and did not feel disgust at all. in the intervening decade or so i hit puberty and was sexually harassed regularly to different degrees by strangers and friends alike, until i developed a strong and finely honed instinct for sexual predators. i’m not saying it never led me wrong - i can’t prove a negative, after all, if i listen to my instinct i avoid interacting with the person and never get the opportunity to be proven wrong - but when i do ignore my instinct for other reasons, i usually end up regretting it.

i was a rationalist first and a radfem second, and when i was younger i tended to look at things from a logical perspective and assume good faith when analysing what someone says instead of making assumptions based on gut feelings i can’t prove. this resulted in me being groomed and taken advantage of.

for whatever reason, a number of trans women trigger this instinct in me. it could be a false flag but out of self interest i choose not to overcome this bias. there used to be a sub r/itsafetish that documents examples of trans women fetishizing womenhood but it was banned. even now, on trans subreddits, you can see examples of transwomen being sexually aroused by things like wearing a bra or sanitary pads.

(its not fair to generalise trans women based on them, but i draw a line between my beliefs personally and my beliefs in the - for lack of a better word - realpolitik sense. for instance i think that trans people should be able to use whichever gender-specified facilities they feel comfortable with without fear, but i also think that realistically i think that homeless shelters, dormitories, prisons and such should be based on biological sex and not gender. there are enough examples of trans women raping other women in female prisons that i personally think its not worth the risk.)

but i digress. radical feminists as a whole are women who understand the role of instinct and disgust in keeping you safe. sometimes these instincts are a reflection of personal biases or societal constructs, and sometimes not. that’s why there’s also a lot of emphasis on resisting and noticing emotional abuse, in particular gaslighting, as well as validating people who establish boundaries over any minor reason whatsoever out of discomfort.

that’s the difference terfs have from conservatives. at it’s core, it’s still a kind of bleeding heart emphasis on emotions. conservatives use their emotions for rhetoric but don’t validate feelings the same way. terfs’ beliefs are rooted in their emotions but their rhetoric is less “isn’t this disgusting? do you really trust these people around your daughter?” and more relying on empathy/sympathy like “i knew this trans person and this happened”.

i’m sorry if my messages made you uncomfortable. i deliberately follow trans people in addition to radfems so i don’t end up in an echochamber. (i also follow r/sneerclub in addition to r/rational, and slatestarcodex in addition to r/catsaysmao.) i hope you won’t go out of your way to block me.

i mean...i think "i can tell if people are dangerous based on vibes, i dont hate [group], they just give me dangerous vibes" is like...one of the main types of prejudice? like. literally for thousands of years people have been saying "this group is going to harm our fragile women, we need to hurt them to stop that". like. i think it might be useful to take the outside view here, and think to yourself what about this feeling would be different than a white woman who thinks black men are a threat to her, and so shouldnt get to use the same train car or whatever. like whatever if trans women skeeve you out you shouldnt *force* yourself to interact with us, obviously. but like. i dont think you should accept that feeling uncritically?

i guess the core of this is like. i dont believe that your "instinct for sexual predators" is actually finely honed. i think its probably sending a ton of false positives. like maybe recall is high but precision is bad.

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tanadrin

When people say their instinct for detecting harmful members of an outgroup is “finely honed,” I think definitionally this is the phenomenon they’re pointing to. Like, it’s easy to train the human brain to be highly reactive to certain stimuli because our general pattern-matching capacity is often built on high-recall low-precision matches. This is what a lot of PTSD and trauma response and people’s “I’m not racist I’m just street smart”-type reasoning is built on. Very, very few people will say, “Yeah, I’m a racist/homophobe/transphobe,” etc. They almost always frame it in terms of “my aversion to this group is perfectly reasonable, and the disgust I feel toward them is commensurate with the threat they represent.”

I want to stress that this reasoning, about how instinct and disgust necessarily point to something real in the world, is the exact line of argument religious conservatives use against gay people, anybody who acts gender nonconforming in any way, and which racists use against the racial other all the time. Not similar to, not “resembles it from a distance,” but exactly the same.

No matter how honestly you come by it, if your trauma leads you to cultivate an indiscriminate disgust reaction toward a whole class of people regardless of their individual characteristics, you’re an asshole.

every time i check back in on tumblr there is a new needless aesthetic change to hate

rounded corners are tolerable but on thin ice. the unforgivable crime is the gutter around the posts, especially on the sides. the encroaching of the modern webdev sensibility that says a website is better when less information is on the screen.

every time i check back in on tumblr there is a new needless aesthetic change to hate

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The company selling the data is SafeGraph. SafeGraph ultimately obtains location data from ordinary apps installed on peoples’ phones. Often app developers install code, called software development kits (SDKs), into their apps that sends users’ location data to companies in exchange for the developer receiving payment. Sometimes app users don’t know that their phone—be that via a prayer app, or a weather app—is collecting and sending location data to third parties, let alone some of the more dangerous use cases that Motherboard has reported on, including transferring data to U.S. military contractors. Planned Parenthood is not the organization performing the data collection nor benefiting from it financially.

SafeGraph then repackages that location data and other data into various products. On Tuesday Motherboard reported that the CDC bought $420,000 worth of SafeGraph data for a laundry list of COVID-19 and non-COVID-19 use cases. Google banned SafeGraph from the Google Play Store in June.

SafeGraph classifies "Planned Parenthood" as a "brand" that can be tracked, and the data Motherboard purchased includes more than 600 Planned Parenthood locations in the United States. The data included a week's worth of location data for those locations in mid-April. SafeGraph calls the location data product “Patterns.” In total, the data cost just over $160. Not all Planned Parenthood locations offer abortion services. But Motherboard verified that some facilities included in the purchased dataset do. [...]

SafeGraph’s Patterns data aims to answer questions like “how often people visit, how long they stay, where they came from, where else they go, and more,” according to SafeGraph’s website. SafeGraph calculates where it believes visitors to a location live to the census block level. SafeGraph does this by analyzing where a phone is commonly located overnight, the company’s documentation suggests.

SafeGraph’s data is aggregated, meaning it isn’t explicitly specifying where a certain device moved to. Instead, it focuses on the movements of groups of devices. But researchers have repeatedly warned about the possibilities of unmasking individuals contained in allegedly anonymized datasets.

Sections of the SafeGraph dataset Motherboard purchased handle a very small number of devices per record, theoretically making deanonymization of those people easier. Some had just four or five devices visiting that location, with SafeGraph filtering the data by whether the person used an Android or an iOS device as well.

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tanadrin

The You’re Wrong About episode on the Dixie Chicks reminded me of something I was really only half-aware of in 2003; I was in my mid-teens, thought the Iraq War was a bad idea, but for reasons I had a lot of trouble articulating, and I won’t claim that my position was super well thought out or nuanced (though the passage of time did vindicate it). But the level of support for Bush in that era, and the bipartisan support for the war, was truly insanely high; Natalie Maines’ very mild rebuke of Bush, in terms of political discourse nowadays, prompted the entire country to basically go apeshit on her, for the band to temporarily become pariahs, and for some pundits to seriously suggest that criticizing the president on a London stage amounted to actual treason. Given the egregious transgression of international law the Iraq War represented, the transparent deception used to justify it, and the absolute disaster it proved to be for the people of Iraq, it is easy to forget just how rabidly pro-war the whole country was at that time. And this is in a country that is relatively prosperous, has a pretty free press, a two-party system, and had only spent a couple of years being terrorized by propaganda about the People Coming To Get You.

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reminder in the coming days and weeks to not take pictures of protesters, do not reblog pictures of protesters, particularly Black protesters

  1. Leave no online footprint of searches or purchases. Digital Defense Fund’s abortion privacy guide is your go-to resource for this. Using private browsers, two-factor authentication, encrypted messaging, strong passwords, etc. is critical. Google searches have been presented as evidence in an SMA trial before. Do not leave a digital trail.
  2. Use the medications properly to prevent interactions with healthcare providers. The pills are very effective, but they have to be used right. Carefully follow the instructions provided on the How to Use Abortion Pill website. Note that misoprostol tablets should always be taken by dissolving them under the tongue. Do NOT insert misoprostol vaginally if you are self-managing an abortion. While this is medically safe, it can leave incriminating pill remnants that can be detected in the vagina during a pelvic exam if you end up needing to seek medical care. 
  3. If it’s not an emergency but you need expert health advice, use a free calling service like Google Voice to call or text the Miscarriage + Abortion Hotline at 1-833-246-2632. Medical complications are very uncommon with abortion pills, but they’re not impossible. The M+A Hotline is safe to use and is staffed by trustworthy clinicians who volunteer their time to help those who choose SMA. Do not use your own phone number to call as this will create a record that is visible to your cell service provider. 
  4. Don’t disclose any information about SMA to emergency room staff if you do need to seek medical care. This is how most people who are arrested for SMA are reported. Healthcare providers are almost always who calls the police in cases of SMA criminalization. Contrary to popular belief, HIPAA does not protect your private health information from being shared with police if you are suspected of doing something that could be considered a crime. If you believe you need to seek urgent medical care, do not hesitate to go. Say “I think I’m having a miscarriage” and provide your symptoms. Do not mention any use of or purchase of abortion pills. There is no widely available test to detect misoprostol in your bloodstream. If you do not disclose it, there is no way for a medical provider to tell the difference between a medication abortion and a spontaneous miscarriage.
  5. Do not talk to the cops. Period. Do. Not. Talk. To. The. Cops. If you are questioned by police you should state, “I am exercising my right to remain silent, and I wish to speak with an attorney.” Do not speak again or nod in response to a question. Contact the Repro Legal Helpline as soon as possible for expert legal advice: 1-844-868-2812. Do not agree to questioning or speak to any law enforcement official without a lawyer present.
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(screenshotting because the context makes me assume that OP would find this addition to their post unwelcome)

See, this is what gets me so up in my own head about interacting with people on this site! I assume this attitude is more common for people with a ton of followers, but like. The way that sort of, unidirectional interest, affects social norms, is so weird and uncomfortable for me. Social media with follower mechanics makes things WEIRD.

This is why I like discord! Everyone's on an equal footing, conversation is *expected*, I don't feel like I'm constantly running the risk of hitting "how DARE you interact with me" because I said words at the wrong person in the hierarchy.

I kind of wish there were a more formalized version of softblocking? I want to be able to count on "if I'm bothering someone, they have tools available to easily and frictionlessly make me go away or otherwise stop."

this is interesting because I feel the exact opposite. I feel pretty much completely free to respond to people on this site, like, I might still avoid responding for whatever reason but it’s more likely to be about the drama of the content itself or the individual user than the idea that chatting on a post is inherently some kind of faux pas (with the exception of personal posts). Like I just think that poster is wrong and that if they want a private friends-chat then a public blogging platform is not the place?? I wouldn’t violate this preference where I knew about it, but expecting people to assume that as a norm seems like acting at cross purposes with the fundamental design of the site, which is really really good at showing you the thoughts of random strangers you wouldn’t have encountered otherwise.

and I feel the opposite about discord servers or chatrooms of all kinds. I tend to just feel inherently excluded unless someone is making an active effort to draw me in to conversations. Like, this is the cool private friend chat, and violating that would be a grievous offense and I could be punished at any time for stepping over an unknown line. If anything I say isn’t clever or thoughtful everyone is surely cackling at me on the secret more-insular server. (And to be clear this is insane on my part, I have never been kicked from a discord server for something I’ve said, but I have been kicked for inactivity. deeply maladaptive assumption.)

I feel the idea of some preexisting hierarchy in both places, but on tumblr I just don’t care so much, like if someone doesn’t like me being on their posts that’s their problem and they should block me. Whereas something about real-time chat fucking activates my social anxiety to a degree unequalled even by being around irl strangers.