Where are all the "slow" kids, the challenged kids, the burnouts from birth, the burden to have in class? Where are the autists who can't mask, who self harm, who are loud and can't stop stimming? The NDs with processing disorders, brain damage, brain fog? The ones with down syndrome, FAS, and other conditions that people treat like curses or defects. I hardly ever see them past 18 and I know they don't just dissolve once they become adults.
Tbh you don't see them because people with high-impact disabilities who absolutely cannot mask lose the autonomy necessary to be social people after high school, and allowing them to be unsupervised adults living relatively normal lives is treated as neglect on the behalf of their parents/caregivers & will absolutely result in state intevention, and the ones from families well-off enough to afford full-time care in a facility are more or less sending their adult problem children off to Gentle Jail to grow old and die. The ones who do mask are fully capable of understanding that's the alternative possibility as a life trajectory and are usually pretty scared of being siloed into it so you don't really hear from them much compared to less highly-impacted people
This is to say that while people with high-impact mental disabilities do exist in public, do participate in crip/mad lib discussions both online and off, etc, it's not primarily a self-curation problem if you don't see many of them, because the primary message society tells them about themselves is "hide this shit or die in prison"
I forget where I read it but the strongest poll response for people with Down syndrome in caregiving as to what they wanted was to be allowed to go to bed when they want. The level of control exercised over people in care is beyond fucked, it's in many ways more restrictive than house arrest, and despite being purportedly justified in terms of benefit to those people it's almost exclusively about control and containment, the construction of an oubliette that parents don't feel guilty sending their adult children to. The reason you don't see a lot of social media posts from people living those lives is the same reason you don't see a lot of social media posts made from inside a jail cell














