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Offbeatorbit

@offbeatorbit / offbeatorbit.tumblr.com

Ashley. Writer. Black. Brooklyn via Los Angeles. Hates mint chocolate. Only here sometimes for marauders era fandom shit. Find me on Twitter or IG tho 💅🏾
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Hey, so I’m only updating about this for posterity/in case I ever come back here for some goofy stuff but anyone who has followed me on Instagram or Twitter or tiktok knows that my husband, Rob, passed away in December after a long and brave cancer journey. We got married in October when he started home hospice and our wedding was subsequently featured in Vogue after it went viral on Tiktok and Insta. My longtime followers know that I started dating Rob back in 2014 and that my column, Accidental Virgin, was largely about me navigating our relationship (which was my first). Since I was on tumblr a ton back then, a lot of our early days were documented On Here.

Rob and I had nearly 9 years together. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, no relationship is, but we loved each other deeply and I’m grateful that we had the time together to travel the world, have adventures around NYC, and just loaf around the house cooking and watching The Sopranos. I miss him everyday and always will. Luckily we family planned in such a way that I can still have our kid when I’m ready.

Thanks for reading. You can follow my insta, twitter, or tiktok (sometimes) for my actual real life updates ♥️

#personal
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This Backyard Brooklyn Wedding Came Together in Under a Week
After Rob Stengel went into palliative care, he and his partner Ashley Reese decided to throw the last-minute wedding of a lifetime.
Vogue

I first followed Ashley @offbeatorbit a long, long, long time here on tumblr and then on Twitter, like I don’t even remember how long ago, because we have a mutual friend, and was immediately struck by her funny and warm writing style. This article about her recent wedding is beautiful and sad and I’m so in awe of and inspired by the immense love and community she and her friends and family have. You should take the time to read this. And if you’re so inclined, here is the donation link to help support her husband’s hospice care.

#thank you so much#haha yes update I’m married now and my wedding was in vogue but also my husband is dying so!!!
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taumoeba

sir please thats my emotional support song that i first heard on a 8tracks playlist in 2014

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captaingondolin

sir please thats my emotional support song that i first heard on an amv in 240p on youtube in 2009 and that i can only re-listen on youtube because it tastes better there

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msviolacea

sir please, that’s my emotional support song I found in a fanmix zip file on LiveJournal in 2004, it still has the graphic art cover instead of the actual album cover attached to the metadata. 

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We bought champagne in 2016 in the hopes that we would celebrate Trump’s election loss. Obviously that didn’t happen lol 🙃 We kept the bottle and vowed to open it only when Trump is voted out of office. Well, we were able to finally open it today lol 🍾🤘🏾 🥂 I’m under no delusions that a Biden/Harris administration will solve all our problems. Many injustices will continue under their leadership, and we have to organize against them, period. That said, I’m allowing myself to celebrate Trump’s demise today with the rest of NYC. THE STREETS ARE LIT 💖

#election#election 2020