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HOTNESS 101: HOW TO BE MORE ATTRACTIVE

There are plenty blogs and videos etc on how to dress, walk , talk, etc to be more attractive (usually with an axis on men). I'm taking a different approach, say, the long term permanent kind of attractive that's centered on you.

1 . Learn a foreign language.

Nothing says disciplined like someone that speaks a foreign language, and discipline is sexy. Enroll in a foreign language class and supplement with duolingo and other apps. The trick is to learn "parent languages" eg if you learn Spanish you basically know at least half of Italian and Portuguese. If you learn German the Scandinavian languages are yours for the taking. This doesn't just make you insanely attractive it opens doors for you.

2. Motorcycle license

I swear every sexy (especially feminine) woman I know can 'ride a bike' so to speak. It's a nice little trick to have up your sleeve that never gets old. You don't have to actually ride the machine but the know how is incredibly sexy

3. Learn a dance

No not street dance. Zumba. Ballroom waltz, whichever classical dance fits your fancy. Women that dance are insanely attractive. Hip hop and street dances are nice tricks to have up your sleep but classical. Classical dances ma'am. Top tier. That plus the health, physique and mental benefits? 10/10. Enroll in a class.

4. World politics.

No you don't have to keep up with what princess Katherine was wearing but you need to know what's the deal with NATO and Russia. You need to know what at least the big 5 and the UN are up to Plus local news. Current affairs , love. Make sure when the conversation turns to Putin you hold your own. And I mean a personal, educated opinion not just a repetition of headlines.

5. Cultured.

I understand when someone says "cultured" we think of western European etiquette and culture. That helps, it does but I mean YOUR culture. There's something about women (especially of color) that speak their ethnic languages, know their tradition (and respect/adhere to it) and owns it. Culture is identity. Identity is attractive. Know your roots, how deep and how far they run and stick by them.

6. Privacy

Theres a difference between being private and being mysterious. Learn it. Mystery is captivating. It commands interest and the people around you almost instinctively chase you. Privacy demands respect. Mystery is almost a game. Privacy is a character trait. They can co exist but. Privacy sis. Very attractive.

7. Own your story.

Especially for us ladies that came from ground up or from tactless to leveled up or from Cardi B to Amal Clooney , you get the idea. Own it. And by own it I don't mean lead by it. This thing where you tell everyone about your "flaws" so they can't be used against you, no. Its low value. Its insecure. It's no. Just, own it. When it comes up smile and say yeah that's what, 2016. Time runs. Don't laugh don't try bypass sit by it as long as they sit by it and simply own it. Nothing says sexy harder than a woman that carries no shame around things she's supposed to be ashamed about.

8. Education

Especially from a prestigious/ well known institution. A bachelors I whatever field is sexy, whether you work in said field or not. Bonus points if it's the big 5 of white collar jobs (medicine, law, finance,Architecture, or engineering) or arts (Philosophy is surprisingly attractive since everyone has a say in it. Always a conversation starter. Ive noticed the same with psychology but it's less conversation starter and more free consultation)

9. Signatures.

Scent. Word. Make up look. Style. It's attractive when you know who a person is by a thing of theirs. "The pearl girl" or "the matte lipstick girl", whichever. Find a signature.

10. Musical instrument

Im a fan of classical or uncommon. Guitar is good don't get me wrong but piano. Violin. Cello. Harp. Theres something feminine about these instruments. The upper hand is if you can play a , say, "exotic " instrument, like one from your culture that no one else does. The idea is to stand out.

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Things I’m trying to do everyday to become THAT girl for/in summer

Trying to do these things everyday may seem tough in the beginning, but practice and repetition is key. Once you start doing these everyday you will see MASSIVE differences!!

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