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"I don't wanna be your hero." - Some punk in a beanie, dude became a punk (PS check out the side blog about wrestling: supervillainclub) (also joined Batfamsay

Hey I’m not on here often anymore because reasons but my Amiga @kazuchikaokada is going through a rough time, please send them dogs of all shapes and sizes and nice messages, thanks.

huh so a nightmare about seth rollins in a hatsune miku cosplay led me to a dm from Chris Brookes and him sharing my art, I’ll take that

so I had a really weirdass dream which featured Rollins in some cheap Hatsune cosplay, and the only way I can explain that I dreamed about a wrestler in a shitty wig is that right before sleeping I saw this pic of lykos

so I tell @just-another-schadenfreude about it, who tells me about Lykos in booty shorts and sends me tweets about it; immediately had to draw him and Chris in their Halloween get up and posted it on my ig, not even 10 minutes later Chris dmed me about having reposted my drawings on twitter cause he likes them 😭💕

this Wednesday started awful but ended wonderfully, thanks Cisco without u this would not have happened

Glad that your day ended well because of Kid Lykos booty shorts

WHY DID THE FISH KID ASK THAT THO

this is the funniest thing that has happened in spngebob since season 3

[jazzy music playing and fish murmuring as Spongebob walks by]

Young fish: “Is that my daddy?”

Mom fish: [dreamingly] “I wish!”

Person recording: [loudly] “What the fuck?!”

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We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

I’ve never even heard of this??

Me neither. :(

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

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So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later. 

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken. 

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

Brent Weeks included a character with vaginismus in his fantasy series, The Black Prism. It’s plot relevant (she needs to consummate a political marriage–to a husband she sincerely loves, no less), and she’s treated as a well-rounded character who it’s just one aspect of, and Weeks included an author’s note that was like “btw, this is a real thing. Here are resources on the topic. You’re not broken and you can get help.”

Which, like, from a male author? That’s pretty neat.

Vaginismus is psychosomatic and often is caused by anxiety. It’s also very real and quite painful.

It can be caused by sexual assault, but it can also be caused by just plain lousy sex. In some cases there’s no apparent cause.

It can occur during sex and/or during pelvic exams. Some people (hi!) experience it only during pelvic exams or pap smears. (Mine was caused by an incompetent medical professional who didn’t pay attention and used a speculum that was too large). And, as mentioned, some sufferers can’t insert tampons. I’d imagine it’s not impossible for somebody to be fine with sex but have problems with tampon insertion. I’ve also heard of people being fine with a penis but not with toys and vice versa. (Lube, people. Lube).

Vaginismus is a major cause of dyspareunia (painful intercourse), but there are other causes, which can include:

* Not producing enough natural lubrication. This can be a result of insufficient/bad foreplay, but some people never produce enough and levels of lubrication can drop during and after menopause, after childbirth, and while nursing. It can also be a side effect of medication. Lube exists, and some people have to use it. Vagina owners should always use water-based lubes.

* Injury down there, often as a result of childbirth complications.

* Yeast or bacterial infection.

* Ezcema

* A deformed vagina (this is rare, but it does happen. It’s generally connected to a chromosomal abnormality or a condition such as AIS)

* Scarring from pelvic surgery.

* Stress.

* Ovarian cysts

* Pelvic inflammatory disease.

* Ectopic pregnancy

* Some STDs, such as genital warts

* Vulvodynia - pain in the clitoris, labia and vaginal opening. This one’s even worse…we do NOT know what causes it.

* Latex allergy if using condoms. If using lube causes more pain, you may be allergic to the lube.

* Cystitis

* Uterine problems such as fibroids or endometriosis

* Cervicitis (inflammation of the cervix)

Many of these can be treated or worked around. Sex is not supposed to hurt. And if it does, you and your partner need to address why. Many doctors actually recommend sex therapy as a couple if you have vaginismus. If you have an infection down there, it can be treated. If your vagina is too dry, you can use supplemental lube. But you need to talk to your doctor if at all possible.

Again.

It’s not supposed to hurt.

No, not even the first time.

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Always reblog.

Vaginismus isnt always psychosomatic it can also be caused by conditions such as vulvar vestibulitis from a hypertense pelvic floor- which is either caused by over active pain receptors or can cause them to become hyperactive. It certainly can also be caused by psychological trauma such as rape but just like erectile dysfunction it can also be biological in origin

Schadenfreude Official Members

  • Mark “Dunkzilla” Davis- Current FCP champ
  • Chris Brookes “The Calamari Catch King”-FCP tag champ
  • Kyle Fletcher “The Aussi Arrow”-FCP Tag Champ
  • Lucky Kid-really like Chris
  • Kid “Mondai” Lykos-announcer/rapper/problem child/ wolf
  • Timothy Thatcher-no jokes he’s just scary as fuck
  • Jonathan Gresham “The Octopus”- Guess his fursona
  • Earl Perkins- Barred from entering the UK due to attacking Progress Ref Paz

Unofficial and former members

  • Yuu-no jokes she’s just really good and cute, accidentally called schadenfreude a cult on twitter once
  • WALTER “The Ring General Sellout”-Kicked out for selling out to the machine attacked retired Lykos for no justifiable reason
  • Jinny “The Fashonista”-She teamed with them for a bit then was forced to leave because she signed with NXT UK

Re-deaux for a friend

So while Seth Rollins and Will Osprey are measuring dicks David Starr is out here making a union for prowrestlers at both the independent and contracted level, but y’all too busy to care huh?

Guess the John Oliver thing didn’t lead to as much outrage as I thought cause steps are being taken yet no one seems to care?

So while Seth and William are measuring dicks David Starr is out here making a union to protect pro-wrestlers at the independent and contracted level, but y’all too busy to care huh?

Guess the John Oliver thing didn’t lead to as much outrage as I thought cause steps are being taken and no one seems to care?