detachment.
Why is it so hard to leave particular people behind?
Being in love with someone who is no longer in love with you and having to accept that is alone one of the hardest things to endure. Learning to separate yourself from that becomes even hard.
I mean, you’ve spent X amount of time loving and caring for this person. For what, for them to rub it in your face that you didn’t make the cut. Since you’re not the one, there must be someone out there for them. You’d be a monster to try and hold them back! Don’t give me that sappy “If they’re happy I’m happy” bullshit, who buys that anyway? No. He/She broke my heart they deserve to pay for it! They don’t deserve to be happy! They’re not worthy of being with ANYONE!... until i have fully recovered and moved on that is.
Don’t fight for what’s no longer yours. move on. let it go. focus on yourself. As hard as it might seem, focus on yourself. You owe yourself that.
And for the love of god, never look at yourself as being worthless or not enough because they didnot choose you. In fact, be happy that someone like that didn’t choose you. You want someone who wont give it a second thought of what it would feel like to be with anybody other than you. You’re beautiful and strong and deserve the world, go out and get it.
Take it from me, detachment has been a bitch for me. It started with me sleeping on the floor because i no longer wanted to share a bed with him. It started with keeping myself busy.. doing my makeup, painting my nails, looking at houses, etc. As for as humanly possible from him.
You’ll get through it, because i was able to. and yes, i know, everybody is different, we cope differently. but i’m here for you. there people in your life who are there for you. Don’t ever feel boxed in and allow yourself to think that no one is there for you. you’d be surprise to know how many people want to see you happy and you’d be even more surprise to know how many people want to know whats going through your mind and heart.
