Focusing on building myself up & making myself better. I want better things, better stability, a better understanding of who I am & who I want to be in the near future. I’m on the road of self-redemption & I have something to prove to myself & myself only.
ways to reclaim your body:
- shave your head or cut your hair
- go for a run, run as hard as you can
- get a new piercing or tattoo
- cook a meal from scratch and eat it with no distractions
- swim in your nearest body of water, or take a cold shower or bath
- stretch, do a yoga routine and feel every muscle
- wear clothes that you like, doesnt matter what it looks like
- avoid mirrors, your body doesnt need to look a certain way to be valuable
- hold someone close, a loved one or a pet or hold yourself tight
- lay down on your bed or on grass, close your eyes and feel yourself sink into the surface deeply
- turn music on loud and dance however feels good
- drink a a big glass of water or as much as you can, feel the discomfort and let it dissipate
- try to meditate, do a body scan in whatever position feels comfortable (or uncomfortable) and pay attention to as fine a detail as possible
- sing or hum or make noise, hear it reflect back at you, feel the way it vibrates your cheeks, your lips, your bones
- drink some hot tea or any other hot beverage, feel its warmth spread down your throat and into your chest
- sit outside, no matter the weather and experience it, the wind, the sun, or the rain on your cheeks and your eyelids

Trust me fellas, you eat that coochie right, and your girl will ensure you are being fed the right way. Just sayn.
Things to Stop Saying to Yourself
1. “I’m no good at …”
Say instead “It’s just a skill, and something I can learn.”
2. “I’m such a failure …”
Say instead “I got it wrong, and everybody makes mistakes.”
3. “There’s no point in trying …”
Say instead “It may be hard, but step by step will get me there in time.”
4. “Everybody hates me; I’ve got no friends …”
Say instead “It doesn’t really matter what these people think about me. There are others who will recognize my value and true worth.”
5. “I hate myself. I deserve to be rejected …”
Say instead “I am beautiful inside, and have value and worth. I deserve to be cherished and be treated well.”
Bedtime Inspirational Stories - 50 Black Leaders who Made History: Black History Book for Kids (2020)
With the same commitment to continue inspiring our kids, I am very excited to introduce Bedtime Inspirational Stories 2: 50 Black Leaders Who Made History.
As with Volume 1, this book highlights the achievements and stories of notable black leaders who made history, from the eighteenth century to today. Our goal is to teach kids about black history while inspiring and creating the sparks of greatness and elevation that our kids need.
The stories in the book include those of political activists, scientists, artists, musicians, inventors, and athletes. They are written in a fun, anecdotal way, incorporating the information that interests children the most, which is the most effective method to influence kids to read.
Every single one ofthese individuals overcame adversity and changed the world, building a way for others to live better lives. Each one worked hard and maintained self-confidence, even when others expressed doubt or said their dreams couldn’t be achieved.
This is a book that will benefit readers of all ages, races, and genders. It is a treasure to keep for life.
These emotionally charged short bios have touching and powerful life lessons that go into a child’s soul as they search for their place in the world.
Each story features its own “Life Lesson” alongside a positive message, complemented by vivid, compelling art and quotes.
At the end of the book we have included a Gratitude Journal in order to help kids, as well as adults, to refocus on what we have instead of what we lack.
by L. A. Amber (Author)
Order it now here
I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
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Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
- -Draw something
- -This website translates the time into colours.
- -Create your own galaxy.
- -Play flowing.
- -Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
- -Listen to music.
- -Calm.
- -Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- - 8 hour sleep music.
- -Rainy mood.
- -Meditation.
- -Coping with nightmares.
- -How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
- -Calm
- -Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
- -Rainy mood.
- -10 hours of rain and thunder.
- -3 hours of rain and thunder.
- -Human heartbeat.
- -Rainforest.
- -Sound of rain on a tin roof.
- -Autumn wind.
- -Rain on a tent
- -Traffic in the rain.
- -Soft traffic.
- -Fan.
- -Train.
- -Simply noise.
- -My noise.
- -Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
- -How to stop worrying.
- -Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
- -The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
- -Self-help strategies for anxiety.
- -Helping a friend with anxiety.
- -All about worrying.
- -8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
- -“I’m always sad”
- -Feeling sad.
- -Going through trauma.
- -“I’m always angry”.
- -Anger management.
- -All about anger.
- -National helplines and websites.
- -Self-help strategies for depression.
- -Dealing with depression at work.
- -Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
- -Pets and mental health.
- -All about loneliness.
- -“I feel so alone”
- -10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
- -How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
- -Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
- -146 things to do besides self-harm.
- -More alternatives to self-harm.
- -Self-harm alternatives.
- -How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
- -Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
- -How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
- -What is addiction?
- -All about alcohol and addiction.
- -The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
- -Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
- -Eating disorder treatments.
- -Support services for eating disorders.
- -Self-help tips with eating disorders.
- -Eating disorder recovery.
- -Recovering from an eating disorder.
- -100+ reasons to recover.
- -Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
- -3 ways to ease self-loathing.
- -How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
- -Self-hatred resources.
- -10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
- -International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
- -Preventing suicide.
- -Reasons to stay alive.
- -Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
- -Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
- -All about schizophrenia.
- -Helping a person with schizophrenia.
- -Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
- -Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
- -Managing your OCD at home.
- -Overcoming OCD.
- -How to cope with OCD.
- -Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
Abuse;
- -Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
- -Emotional abuse
- -Overcoming sexual abuse.
- -Hotlines services.
- -5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
- -Domestic violence support.
- -Signs of an abusive relationship.
- -What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
- -Surviving abuse.
- -What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
- -Sexual assault support.
- -What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
- -How to stand up against bullying.
- -How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
- -How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
- -How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
- -Grieving for a stranger.
- -Common reactions to death.
- -Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
Getting help;
- -Seeking help early.
- -All about psychological treatments.
- -Types of help.
- -All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
- -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
- -You are not alone.
- -You are enough.
- -You are important.
- -You are worth it.
- -You are strong.
- -You are not a failure,
- -Good people exist.
- -Reaching out shows strength.
- -Breathe.
- -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
- -Give yourself credit.
- -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
- -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
- -Focus on the things you can change.
- -Let go of toxic people.
- -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
- -Try not to beat yourself up.
- -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
- -You are not a bother.
- -Your existence is more than your appearance.
- -You are smart.
- -You are loved.
- -You are wanted.
- -You are needed.
- -Better days are coming.
- -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
- -You have more potential than you think.
- - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
there is a distinct difference in being nice vs being kind. niceness is reactionary, an extension of societal imprinting related to appearing civilized and pleasant. it’s automatically saying “hey, how are you?” when greeting someone.
kindness is very different, it looks like saying, “hey, last time we talked you mentioned [thing], what happened with that? did you get it figured out?” it comes from a place of sincerity and fosters genuine intimacy between you and others.
it’s the smallest habits. how you spend your mornings. how you talk to yourself. what you read. what you watch. who you share your energy with. who has access to you. that will change your life.
How to form habits that last
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Greetings! 💚 Here’s a little something I’ve been working on, which I hope you’ll find useful. :)
All text and graphics are created by me, Sal @blueplaidstudies.
I won’t force things to happen but I will never stop believing. I have faith that the best is yet to come. I am working on it.
Im convinced that making art, baking, listening to music/singing and dancing around your house are very naturally nourishing activities for your soul as well as human nature.





