Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)
While I do fit the requirements, I have to say that it’s about time we got rid of this term. Saying that someone is more of a lesbian or a better lesbian for having never been with men is incredibly disrespectful to lesbians who took longer to come to terms with their identity and were with men in the past. Dealing with compulsory heterosexuality and internalised homophobia does not diminish a someone’s lesbian identity and as a community we need to stop acting like lesbians who have never been with men are the ultimate lesbians. I’m barely scratching the surface with all of the issues with this term but please it’s unnecessary and tbh incredibly inappropriate to ask people.








