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@notinuselesbian

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Anonymous asked:

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

While I do fit the requirements, I have to say that it’s about time we got rid of this term. Saying that someone is more of a lesbian or a better lesbian for having never been with men is incredibly disrespectful to lesbians who took longer to come to terms with their identity and were with men in the past. Dealing with compulsory heterosexuality and internalised homophobia does not diminish a someone’s lesbian identity and as a community we need to stop acting like lesbians who have never been with men are the ultimate lesbians. I’m barely scratching the surface with all of the issues with this term but please it’s unnecessary and tbh incredibly inappropriate to ask people.

I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT

To prove something to a friend, please

REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

So I try to live my life encouraging others. Helping others... but I need help... we might lose our car...

Everythingsbetterwhengay is also a paypal name... we have... if anyone wants donate anything at all to help us...

It’s a thing that’s a pride swallowing issue for us. But we need help. We could lose a lot. Just kinda hoping karma will come around. Thank you in advance.

Full time work should entitle someone to enough pay for rent, food, bills, and leisure activities. Full time work for a full life wage. You put in your 8 hours a day, 5 days a week? You should be able to afford the basic shit you need in life, no matter where you work.

pisses me off that this is considered a radical statement.

I do agree with this but from economic standpoint if you are working at a job like McDonalds as someone flipping burgers and making fries you are getting paid for the amount of skill needed for the job. But if its any other job that requires you to have an actual skill that you can make a career out of then yeah you should be getting paid enough to live a standard life.

If you work FULL TIME you should be able to afford to fucking live. No, it doesn’t matter if it’s flipping burgers, these people contribute to our fucking economy and they MATTER. They should be allowed to be alive.

Jesus fucking Christ do you people hear yourselves?

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People like this are why we can’t move on to issues like reducing how many hours is full time, or working out UBI. We’re going to need to do that. Most people just don’t know what’s coming down the pipeline, without a major change to the structure of the economy, we’re looking at large scale permanent unemployment, even in the “skilled” labor force.

Also? Making food is a fucking skill. Running a fast food kitchen is a fucking skill. Operating a drive-thru is a goddamn fucking skill.

I do not know how to do these things. I have a masters degree and I have no fucking clue how to operate a deep fryer or make coffee drinks. I’d probably not be very good at it, because that kind of hands-on, fast-paced work is very hard for me.

But thankfully, there are people who are good at it, so I can do my job, and they can do theirs, and we can benefit one another by putting our skills to use in different areas. People who work in fast food are not less deserving of comfort and security in their lives just because their skills aren’t valued like they should be. That is a myth developed to deprive people of rights.

My friend works as a medical assistant and I’ve worked at McDonald’s and Starbucks. You know there’s a lot of things you gotta learn in this typa job?

Like in addition to it being physically demanding (standing up for 4-6 hours straight, carrying heavy ice/coffee, constantly getting burned by boiling water and an oven, a lot of reaching and squatting (like a lot a lot I lost 40 FUCKING pounds in a year okay this job demands a lot from the body)), there are actual skills required. Also your skin splits from using so much antibacterial soap.

Do you know what temperature different foods have to be to prevent contamination? If it’s a “cold” or “hot” plate?? Do You know how long food can be out before bacterial contamination can happen?? Do you know the difference between say 1% and heavy whipping cream? Can you teach a chemistry class using milk????? That’s p much what you gotta learn to be able to do. My friend who works as a medic was surprised, because I do more in my day than they do, and THEY told me that. They were shocked how much I actually do; I am on my feet more, talking to more people, I have a working knowledge of food germs food born illnesses and chemistry, I gotta do the same shit with sterilizing my tools the same exact way a doctor sterilizes theirs. Etc etc.

There’s no such thing as an unskilled job. There are only undervalued skills.

“There’s no such thing as an unskilled job. There are only undervalued skills.”

Actually, even if it WEREN’T a hard job, if you expect someone to work 8+ hours a day so that YOU can have a burger on demand when you feel like it, but you don’t think THEY deserve to survive based on that one job alone…?

You’re a fucking demon

Reblog if you're black tumblr.

You don’t have to be black, it just means you support us, you stand by us and your for us.

I will stand. For and with. Speak up and fight. I’m fighting with you.

I understand that I will never, could never, understand the pain, the fear, the suffering. But I stand with you, I will fight for you. You are seen, you are loved and you are changing the course of human history.

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this might be a hard pill to swallow for college students but getting drunk all the time isnt a personality trait it’s alcoholism

Here’s another pill: companies and ad teams know that your 20s are extremely stressful and they purposely target you because they don’t care about making us all alcoholics as much as they care about profiting off of us.

cooler pill that I’d wish I’d known about when I was younger: if you’re struggling with alcohol, AA isn’t your only option. AA can be a bit dogmatic and sometimes hostile to certain communities, especially the LGBT.

there’s a group called SMART Recovery that has free meetings just like AA, but it’s all science-based and secular.

and here’s the thing for college students: unlike with AA, it’s okay if your goal is moderation and not abstinence. no one is going to make you feel like a bad guy for being young and just wanting help getting healthier, but perhaps not wanting to commit to being totally abstinent. google SMART Recovery, guys. they’re awesome. :)

Reblog for non-religious version of AA

Just be careful to avoid these groups. The Church of Scientology loves to use substance abuse support groups as a front.

Source: madradiohead

Men are not inherently violent, predatory, or dangerous. Any feminist project worthy of the name needs to acknowledge that this behavior is taught. The idea of men being biologically predisposed to being abusers or rapists is actively used against abuse and rape survivors / victims (does the phrase “boys will be boys” ring a bell at all to you?) and will never, ever work in our favor.

dont forget anything that says male privilege n oppressive male behavior is biological or innate implies gender is biological or innate. therefore its necessarily transphobic n, when it applies inherent evil 2 being assigned male, inherently transmisogynistic

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That’s nice but the post was by a bi person upset at bisexual erasure

Not to mention the exclusion of so many het relationships with trans people but that’s besides the point.

Let bi/pan/poly people have their relationships represented too, regardless of if they’re hetero.

 Even if you aren’t Bi, or Pan, or Trans, or Ace. You should be able to ship what you want. I’m a lesbian, and If i think a man and a woman are cute together? So be it. I don’t have to prove im a ‘good’ lesbian by only shipping pure, wholesome, 100% same sex ships

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I actually got in fights with a now ex-friend over this. Because apparently shipping m/f couples is being a bigot