sad bath cat

I don't actually ship anyone or anything. It's just. Not what I'm into.

But I do believe in ship and let ship. In this sense I am a proshipper.

Antishippers really out here on the side of Mike "I can't be alone with a woman or else I will rape her" Pence and Orrin "Gay people are evil and must die" Hatch.

The specific provisions of the Protect Act that relate to shipping were struck down for being "unconstitutionally vague".

Which is good: in 2023 many states consider the act of existing as a queer person to be grooming children.

Literally the cartoon "She-Ra" would be considered child pornography under those provisions of the Protect Act.

*squints* does OP think "identifiable minor" means "you can tell they're a minor"? because that's not what it means. it means identifiable as an actual individual. like "this cartoon character is clearly based on this actual child."

source for the above screenshot is the United States Department of Justice Archives.

#The way they probably erased Crowley's memory of heaven. Also the way Crowley offered a hot chocolate to Gabriel just after even though he still hated him because he knew how it feels to remember nothing (insp from this post by @perpetualcontrolleddrowning)

Sex in Minecraft

I slept in and just woke up, so here's what I've been able to figure out while sipping coffee:

This man wants you to give him control over all of your financial information.

Edit to add further developments:

Quoted tag:

My dear, Sesame Street has been mocking Donald Trump since January 14, 1988 (Muppet Wiki, fandom.com site). I don't see why Elon Musk should be treated any different.

And anyway, the Alphabet is Sesame Street's home turf. If Mr. "Mumpsimus" Musk is gonna mess around and start abusing one of the letters in the alphabet, you can bet they're going to have him in their sights.

Just stands to reason.

btw TweetDeck no longer works. they want you to pay to use it now. RIP, you were a real one. (and a toast to the makers of Better TweetDeck, the extension that kept me from having to use the new Twitterified version of TweetDeck up until the end.)

normal reaction to dream saying he's busy

I've talked about this before, but emotional dysregulation is such a mother fucker aspect of ADHD.

Like, sure, not being able to regulate my attention sucks, but it's genuinely fucking nothing compared to the absolute rollercoaster of emotions I just went on because someone said something in a shitty tone, and now I'm having to actively walk myself through DBT methods lest my idiot shit for brains 'shiny-can't-sit-still-disorder' drop the match on that particular bridge because the rejection sensitive dysphoria feels like my chest is burning and not being able to act on the hurt feels like I'm suffocating under the weight of emotions pushing down on me and lashing out in anger is quicker than taking the time to self soothe.

And the annoying fucking thing is I know it's me.

I've done enough therapy to know my emotional response to their shittiness is overblown and dysregulated. I know I'm taking it to heart more than they could ever imagine.

And I've got to fucking sit with that and process it because if I don't, I'll be the inconsiderate cunt in this interaction and hhnnggg--wailing, gnashing, biting my thumb at you in the marketplace, etc, etc.

One of the things that I have struggled to explain to people my entire life is that my emotions are bigger than [generic] yours, but that doesn't mean they're made up or fake.

Like, ever since I was a kid, my parents and adults around me belittled me for being 'dramatic,' and made it clear that I was 'too much' and should be less of what I am.

These emotions are very real. They're bigger than the situation calls for, but they're real.

The fastest way to get cast into the Outer Darkness is to tell me I'm being dramatic or making shit up. Nope. These emotions are very real, and they're very mine.

Solidarity, my friend.

That drives me up the wall too. And I realize that sometimes I do need to curtail my response to certain things (like now), but the fact that so much of my childhood and formative years were dismissed as me being a Bad Child when I was in genuine distress over the very real and Big emotions I was feeling will never stop hurting.

The fact that it's a symptom of ADHD is just the final kicker because even to some doctors, it's still the "if you just tried harder" disorder, and I don't know how to explain to people that I'm clawing myself raw on the inside trying to accommodate them, while they do nothing to accommodate me.

do you also get the moments where literally nothing bad is happening, but your brain just decides "we mad now" and starts thrashing itself against your surroundings trying to find anything it can blow out of proportion and get upset about? Mine does that all the time and it sucks so bad

Not as often since I started therapy, but yes.

This is actually something I talked about in the old post linked above, but anger is a very stimulating emotion. I personally describe it as a lightning rod for my wandering attention.

Anger will get my focus so much more readily than any other emotion. And being able to latch on to something and focus feels good, even if it's over something harmful.

I used to relive arguments with family to get myself pumped up. Because if you get me angry enough, I will stress clean my house. I will organize things. I will fold the towels that have been sitting in the hamper for a week.

Provided it's not totally overwhelming, and I end up just sitting stuck in the anger, unable to do anything, becoming more and more upset until I have a meltdown.

It was like a balancing act.

If I could get myself annoyed juuuuust enough, my life would be less shitty because I'd get stuff done. If I overshot and just ended up fixated on the anger, well, fuck, I guess.

It was only after the last few years of therapy and the focus on removing stress as a motivator (I used to be one of those "I need a last-minute deadline to get stuff done" ADHD'rs, and then I wrote a novel under a too strict deadline, and my stress regulation completely broke, and now all I've got is this shitty suicidal ideation and the inability to meet any deadlines because my brain just straight up cannot handle it anymore) that I realized I had been using anger the same way.

I'm not saying that's what your brain is doing. I'm just conveying my experience in the hope that someone maybe feels less shitty and maybe realizes it's an aspect of their ADHD that needs better focus beyond "be productive."

i'm regularly astounded by the cognitive dissonance some of yall have to accept that gender is a social construct with infinite possibilities with the capacity to be deeply personal and individual but still think there's a list of like 4 acceptable sexual orientations and if you go outside of that list or mix entries on that list or relate to them in a non-traditional way not only are you Breaking The Rules you're personally directly harming people who follow them

I think my biggest issue with the way that Bucky’s trauma was handled in FATWS was that it focused entirely on the bad things he did as the Winter Soldier and at no point brought up the torture and abuse he was subjected to during his 70+ years as a prisoner of war. Addressing Bucky’s feelings of guilt is fine. That’s something that previous movies established, and of course it’s a part of the healing process. The problem is that every single time we see or hear about Bucky’s time with Hydra, it only ever references the parts where the Winter Soldier did something bad.

CATWS and CACW both showed the Winter Soldier doing bad things, and CACW even touches on Bucky’s guilt over it. The difference is that they also made sure to show the abuse Bucky was subjected to (the bank vault scene in TWS and the opening scene of CW for example). So yes, we know that the Winter Soldier was a ruthless assassin, but we also know that Bucky was subjected to horrific torture and stripped of his agency in order to make the Winter Soldier be that way. FATWS just glosses over all of that. The only scene we get (and it’s a great scene, to be fair) that addresses the horror of Bucky’s treatment by Hydra is the flashback to him in Wakanda when the triggers are finally removed. But then that scene feels really out of place when the rest of the series presents Bucky’s past as though it was something he had some sort of active choice in. I mean, one of the main plot points of the show involves Super Soldier Serum, and yet never once is it acknowledged that Bucky’s serum was the result of non consensual experimentation being done on him. It’s a perfect opportunity to address the complex feelings Bucky must have about it and they just waste it.

At the end of the day, it really flies in the face of the foundations set by the previous movies. Bucky is a victim, that’s clear, so why does FATWS feel the need to act like he has some responsibility for what happened to him? Why did they decide that when it comes to their character suffering from PTSD, they were only going to focus on how potentially dangerous he is? It’s just flat out poor writing tbh.

wgaat do you mean he filmed that days after kissgate and posisbly on the same day as cute date snaps and around the chill my boyfriend uses this app and their open soft launch era and then promoted paranoid with george and thenn kept paranoid close to his chest andhen badboyhalo said he related to it in terms of his god damn romantically charged skephalo egg arc or whatever and the n all their friends saying it’s their favorite and f dream saying what it was about aka what we already knew it was about but hikm Sayibg it and h

Watch "Death by a thousand meows" on YouTube

This is my feel good video. I reblog it to make me force watch it when im feeling like garbage. It has been frequently.

I need videod i can watch on repeat to get me out of shit brain. I need something different.

*raises my hand to ask a question* what if we collectively refused to refer to AI as 'AI'? it's not artificial intelligence, artificial intelligence doesn't currently exist, it's just algorithms that use stolen input to reinforce prejudice. what if we protested by using a more accurate name? just spitballing here but what about Automated Biased Output (ABO for short)

Children don't matter because they are "pure" and "innocent" and "untouched by sin."

Children matter because they are human beings. We should not be associating children with purity because it is dehumanizing rhetoric. It isn't about saying that children are not pure, but that we should be treating them as equals because we recognize they are people, not because they are "purer." Children should never have to be "pure" to be treated as people.

1-800-ARE-YOU-GENTLY-SLAPPIN

Crowley: And I do remember, oh, very clearly, the look on your face, Archangel Gabriel. When you told my only friendto shut his stupid mouth and die. And I… did not… care for it.

It is actually way better for 100 addicts to get their fix on pain pills than a single person in pain go without. I call this the "Torture is bad" principle. You should be able to get the good stuff forever after a single doctor's visit. If you're worried about addicts fund rehab centers and needle exchanges instead of torturing people.

Among other things if you can't use the legit market you turn to the black market anyway.

if you're worried about addiction, build a society where people get their basic needs met, including pain management.

#i also would prefer addicts be on prescription drugs that are exactly what they say they are#rathet than unregulated drugs which are full of who the fuck knows (tags via @shanastoryteller)

My biggest criticism for good omens 2 is that this didn’t happen

they really brought david tenant’s son in and said hey do you want to play a gay little boy in good omens 2. just a little camp mf. nepotism done right.

@14-lizards-in-a-trenchcoat "nepotism done right"

This had to be the best day of the kid’s life. Apparently he didn’t tell his dad he was auditioning. So imagine showing up for the table read and there’s your son, playing somebody else’s son, and his entire role is to sass the SHIT out of you. That’s it, that’s his job, he is being paid to be an asshole to his dad, who also happens to be one of the most accomplished actors in England*, and his dad has no idea this is coming.

Like. What a prank to play, holy hell.

*if one single person makes a snotty comment about Doctor Who I am going to print out David Tennant’s entire history as a Shakespearean actor, light it on fire, and shove it up their nose, because I don’t think their brain is fully cooked.

#you are like 25 omg

Y’know what amuses me about all of these kinds of scenes? When Steve is wearing that uniform in the film, he’s playing Captain Showreel. He’s playing the legend these kids grew up with. He’s seen what it does to Coulson. He knows lower-down operatives would probably be of a similar mindset. So he treats them like the kids who used to chase him for autographs.

They see the suit. They don’t see the irate, PTSD-suffering 25 year old behind it.

Fuuuuuck.

Fandom makes the source material better. There’s no goddamned way that’s what Joss was thinking. Chris, maybe, but Joss is a fuckwit.

It’s always been an idea I hold for Steve, that Cap and Steve are intertwined but one is the idealised act, the other is the young man, the walking wounded grieving all his collective losses.

And everyone just sees the shield and the helmet and the jawline. They see The Super Soldier, they see the living legend the Man with the Plan cos its easy, its expected thats who he is and he plays into that even out of uniform in The Avengers and in the beginning of CA: The Winter Soldier. He’s almost hiding behind it because it’s what’s expected and keeps distance.

But it’s not Steve. Not hurting, angry ‘irate, PTSD ridden’ Steve Rogers who dealt with eugenics and poverty, Anti-Irish/Catholic sentiments (yes, that was a thing in the 40s), that threw himself into an experiment that worked. That went to war. One of the worst wars in human history. That faced a branch of Nazis focused on scientific experimentation on a whole different level ontop of normal regular fucking Nazis and they were bad enough.

Steve has to swallow all that shit down because people expect the Captain.

Not everyone gets to see the cowl drop and see the young man behind it all. Not everyone makes the effort to look past the bravado and surface level 'I’m okay’. Sam is a great example of someone that does in TWS, Nat too, and of course, with Bucky, Steve is always Steve first. And on top of that, I don’t think he makes it easy, whether it’s left over from being the little guy used to rejection, a trauma response, grief, something else or some combination, Steve holds Cap up as a shield to maintain some personal space.

It’s that thing about pedestals being isolating and dehumanising. How being an icon strips away any room for depth, mistakes, and being less than perfect. It’s lonely but can feel deceptively safe. To an isolated, traumatised young man taught to keep it in and take it on the chin.

And gods, does my heart ache for that young man.