The transition from innate human kindness wanting to pass something forward and monkey brain want make chaos is really sharp and sudden.
I was talking with my dad recently & we got on the topic of People Thinking They Can't Do Things, and like, he is at his core a well-intentioned person who genuinely wants the best for others, but he has definitely internalized some harmful ideas a la "anyone can do anything, the only thing stopping them is their own attitude". so I was like. I see where you're coming from, but let me tell you a story.
last year, I worked with 10 year olds- many of whom had never really spent time outdoors- in an outdoor education program where they came to spend a whole week doing shit outside in nature. the top two scariest experiences for these kids were 1) very tall metal tower, and 2) walking outside at night in the dark with no flashlights.
I tried a lot of different things to persuade them all to join me for each experience: I presented it with enthusiasm and passion, I did physical demonstrations and scientific explanations to help them understands how safe it was, I voiced my absolute commitment to their safety, I invited them to brainstorm ways to help each other and themselves feel safe, etc.
generally I always had at least 2-3 kids out of about 10 who opted out, or if they did join me, would spend the entire experience crying and freaking out. when it was over, they would conclude that even though they did not die- or even get hurt- it was so scary that it wasn't worth it and they never wanted to do it again.
then I changed the question I asked. instead of asking them to tell me whether they could do it or couldn't do it, I asked them to raise their hand for one of three options:
- You can definitely do this.
- It will be hard or scary or uncomfortable, but you can try to do this.
- It will definitely be too hard, scary, or uncomfortable, and you cannot or should not try to do this.
suddenly, almost nobody was opting out of these experiences.
they would try, even if they were scared, because they know that being scared didn't necessarily mean that they couldn't do it at all. and more importantly, they knew that if they needed to stop, that was an option; they weren't trapped in their decision to try.
and the real takeaway here, for me, is in the nuance: people need to be able to challenge themselves and to be uncomfortable in order to grow, and people need to be able to opt out in order for opting in to be a safe option.
If a worker who isn't the owner says ANYTHING similar to "I'm not really supposed to do this but-" and then does something that helps you, under no circumstances inform the business, including through reviews. You tell them that the worker was polite, professional, the very model of customer service and why you like to go there. You do not breathe a word of the rulebreaking.
$122,000. And the thing is so shodily designed that the accelerator can become that easily stuck. It isn't even all one piece.
$122,000. That's more than my entire household income, and we're 3 adults with full-time jobs.
If you gave that $122,000 to Feeding America, that would provide over 1 million meals.
That's $122,000 more than Tesla paid in taxes.
category of blorbo called "technically i like them but fanons obsession with them to the exclusion of other characters pavloved me into having a negative reaction whenever i see them"
Tasteful bulge? Yeah I would like a taste f- [I am interrupted by the sound of a dry twig snapping. This is impossible, as I am in the infinite linoleum bathroom dimension for this joke.]
couldn't get this concept to leave me so here
as you see the inhuman list of items banned from entry into gaza, you should be keenly aware the partner in israel's murder-suicide pact, the united states, has had an embargo on cuba (effectively doing the same to iran with sanctions too btw) for decades that includes medical supplies.
none of this was lifted for covid 19. both our cruel, barbaric countries will deny the absolute bare necessities for our genocidal economic projects
Bothering the beast
they really killed off all based finnish people (aka communists) back in 1920s, huh.
that's honestly insane. 3% OF THE THE TOTAL FINNISH POPULATION WAS MURDERED AND JAILED BY ANTI COMMUNIST REACTIONARY GOVERNMENT. for the crime of fighting for working class interests and defending the country from the foreign monarch being forced on them (look up prince frederick charles of hesse). those are genocidal levels of national victims so no wonder it's a taboo topic. the current finnish government is generational heir to bourgeoise oppressors who have done those atrocities to their own people back then.
I'm sick of internet negativity, so let's combat it: reblog this and saying something nice/pay a compliment to the prev in the tags.
The Desolation of Scorch
actually gonna cry reading about the guy who created miffy he looks so jolly
this slow ass man cannot be fr 😩
Making his way downtown
criminals -> :3 :p :3 :<
wiggly static pride wallpapers
lesbian | gay
bi | trans
rainbow | pan
ace | aro
nonbinary | queer
please reblog if you save any! <3
some palettes used from these flag edits (thanks julien ☆)
why is art for babies and small children always so simplistic? they love complexity… my 6 mo cousin’s favorite inanimate object to look at is the postcard I sent her that’s this intricate, colorful pontilisitc illustration of a woman. every day she’ll stare at it in fascination. some of my earliest memories are of pouring over richly illustrated picture books of flower fairies and just basking in the details.
Childrens picture books with super deeply detailed illustrations were incredibly fascinating to me. The simple text reads “the mouse thief escaped through the sewer” and the illustration is a two-page spread with a huge profile map of sewer tunnels filled with lost treasure and dinosaur skeletons and dead ends and skulls and pitfalls, and I could just pour over the drawing for hours
Yeah! I really think there’s been a huge dumbing-down of art aimed at kids on a visual level, and I don’t know why. I really loved those cutaways of things like pirate ships and castles and fantasy vehicles, but even most of the kids’ books we get each month have very samey simplified illustrations with that fake crayon texture that are cute and easy to look at but don’t really fascinate anyone. A picture book should be easy to read but it should also be possible for a child to get lost in their imagination just staring at a corner of a page, at least for many books.
THE WOODCHIPS
Far worse, in my opinion, than the famous “he wouldn’t fucking say that” is “he WOULD fucking say that, as part of his facade, but you seem to think he would mean it genuinely”



