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So my dad took away my laptop because I wouldn’t give him the password. I wasn’t even allowed to type it in, he demanded to know the password to my personal computer because he thinks I’m “ doing things I’m not supposed to do. ” My sister is not, and never has been, held to the same standard when it came to passwords on her own phone etc. But my parents always suspect me of being “up to something” and will randomly ask to use my computer/ know the password, and when I say no, they get mad at me. In the past, they have taken away my devices and looked through them, which cased me a lot of anxiety and is part of the reason I don’t like it when people use my computer or go through the camera roll on my phone. Even as I type this, I’m being asked what I’m doing. If you think parents demanding to know the passwords to their child’s personal devices is a breach of privacy please reblog

my parents do the same thing it’s torture

As a parent, you don’t get privacy until you are on your own. My house, my rules, my money, my decision.

Don’t like it?

Too bad.

I am the parent here. I’m not your friend. I’m your father.

Literally kids are not your prisoner??? There’s a difference between being protective and being controlling.

“You don’t get privacy until you’re an adult” like what the fuck. You’re one of those piece of shit parents that thinks taking away bedroom doors and making their kids hold sandwich board signs on busy roads is appropriate punishment aren’t you? Children and teens are still fucking people and still deserve respect. If you can’t even respect your child how do you expect to teach them to respect others?

AS A PARENT YOU DON’T GET PRIVACY UNTIL YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN. If I suspect you’re doing drugs or talking to someone way older than you or sneaking out at night, your privacy becomes my business. You’re living under MY roof, and I bought that computer, that phone, and pay for the service that runs it. Sorry, Charlie. It’s my job as a parent to make sure you’re safe and I will exercise the UNALIENABLE right to invade your privacy.

The mindset parents have of “my house my rules / I bought you that phonecomputertabletetc so I can go through it” is a huge contributer to anxiety, depression, self harm, and suicide in kids and teens and if anyone is defending, condoning, or practicing that behavior I hope to god they get their kids taken away from them. Nobody deserves to grow up under an iron fist of emotional abuse.

dude it’s one thing to be looking out for your kid and another to be like “privacy doesn’t exist because you are vulnerable and i am in a position of power.

being overprotective of your kid is NOT going to help them. it’s fucking savage.

my mom let my sisters and i do whatever we wanted [obvs within reason] and punished us when we did bad shit and we came out just fine. we’re honest people and nothing fucked us up. my friend with overprotective and invasive parents? she sneaks out for a social life. she can’t let people touch her things without almost crying because her dad would confiscate her things as she was using them to make sure she wasn’t selling drugs or sexting. sometimes she compulsively lies about small things and admits to lying later because she knows it’s was stupid to do it in the first place and she developed OCD from her father reprimanding her for not being clean enough [even though she’s a spotless person] she will have anxiety attacks over being in a messy environment because of the panic her dad put into her while growing up. she’s almost twenty and you know what she did? she asked me to cover for her so she could go on a date. SHE IS TWENTY NEXT MONTH AND ASKED ME TO LIE TO HER PARENTS IF THEY ASKED ME WHERE SHE WAS. she was on a date!! dating! because she was afraid her dad would fucking ground her. the sad part is, he probably would have if he found out! they created an environment of distrust and she has to fight it to be able to hang out with people who weren’t even gonna get her in trouble.

yall wanna be like “privacy doesn’t exist for children and teens. no teens can be trusted.” but fact is, you’re gonna force your kid into being untrustworthy because you think it’s healthy to be controlling.

sorry. you’re a shitty parent. unless you have proof or grounds for violating privacy in order to keep your kid safe, you are abusive and controlling and a sack of shit for having 0 respect for your children.

My dad threatens to take my door away from me for having it closed. I’m a seventeen year old female, and he has threatened to take away my door.

when i was a teenager, i wasn’t allowed to have a cellphone, so my father would hand me a little bag of change and force me to call home from a payphone every single time i left somewhere and again when i arrived at the next place. that means if i went to the mall, i called when i got there. then if i wanted to go across the street to the Walmart i had to call and tell him so. then i had to call again when i got to the Walmart! if i had a bunch of stuff to do, i could go through the entire bag of change in one weekend - if i could even find enough payphones to call him from. his explanation for this lunacy was that he wanted to be able to find me anytime, anywhere. he also liked to randomly show up at my job to make sure i was there, and the first time i spent the night at my best friend’s after i got a car, he drove past the house no less than eight times, and called no less than four times. one of those calls was to ask where i was because my car wasn’t visible from the road - and when i explained the turnaround i was parked in was behind the house, he told me we’d “better not go anywhere or have friends over”. like, what the hell were we going to do? have a drunken orgy while my friend’s grandma was sitting in the next room? we ended up playing chess in the front parlor all night with all the lights on and the curtains open so he could see us if he drove by.

and what, exactly, did i do to deserve this? not a fucking thing. i didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t sneak out, didn’t do drugs, didn’t skip school, nothing. in 13 years of public school, i had one detention - for being late too many times. that’s it. i never did a single thing to make him think i was untrustworthy and i got stalked for it.

when i graduated high school, my father told me if i was going to go to art college on his dime, he was going to have a say in the classes i took and what i did with my free time - he even went so far as to tell me if he ever dropped by the campus, i’d better be in my dorm doing homework or in class, and if i got a grade he didn’t like, he was going to pull me out of school, bring me home, and basically keep me a prisoner with no phone, no tv, no visits with friends until i graduated from the local community college. faced with another four years of stalking and abuse, i moved out and worked in a factory until i could be considered an independent student, then went to the art college i’d always wanted to - on my terms.

my father died last May and i hadn’t talked to him for a year, hadn’t seen him for two, and before that i hadn’t had any communication with him at all for four.

the moral of the story for you “my house, my rules, you don’t get any rights” parents is: stop treating your children like shit or you’re going to die alone, and you’ll deserve it.

My father didn’t do it to this extreme but he listened in on my calls, he constantly accused me of having sex or doing pot.

Guess what parents?

Most kids that got constantly accused of bullshit that I KNEW? INCLUDING MYSELF? Ended up doing those things because “Fuck it, might as well if they’re not going to believe me!”

For me, I had sex way before I planned to (19. I was planning on waiting til marriage). Why? Because fuck it, he acted like I was trying to be a whore all the damn time, I was going to do whatever I damn well pleased.

I moved out at age 19. I have never moved back in. I barely talk to him. I talk almost exclusively to my mom.

When I moved out he said I’d be pregnant by the end of the year.

I’m 30. I have no kids. I don’t plan on having kids. Ever. Because I watched every other person in my family have kids when they couldn’t afford them and I’m not doing that to a child.

When I lived with my parents I had nearly all A’s, I had an 8pm curfew at the age of 19, I was never allowed to leave town, leave state, anything like that for school trips or what have you. When I was in college I wasn’t allowed to go to any colleges more than 30 minutes away. My parents didn’t trust others and they instilled that in me and it took me YEARS to fix it.

My therapist pinned down exactly what that does to it a kid too. It’s isolating. You’re isolating your kid. You’re telling them you don’t trust them. You’re telling them you inherently think they’re bad.

And that has huge ramifications on your bond with them.

Hope you’re ready for it.

Dear Parents who approve of the lack of privacy until a certain age: You are engaging in child abuse. Emotional child abuse.

Preventing a child from having privacy is a punishable offense in the United States (many countries actually) and you can be penalized for it.

What is that?

If you are an abusive parent, you probably have one of these (if not all) of these red flags:

Children who suffer from your abuse, experience these emotional and behavioral issues:

In summary, there is no “my house, my rules”. If you actively promote this type of behavior as parents, you are committing a crime, and you can be fined and imprisoned for it, as well as having your kids taken away, which, if they are experiencing this behavior from you, shouldn’t be your kids to begin with.

Children are not your property, regardless of relation.

If you want to guarantee your children never consider you a part of their life or interact with you ever again, continuing these behaviors will absolutely do that. 

As someone who has a support group of nearly 80 kids ranging from the ages of 14 to 27, I can tell you so many horror stories of parental abuse and the shit it fucks up the kids with as a result. My wife experienced and survived her own form of parental abuse, as have I. 

We do not tolerate it, and neither should your kids.

okay okay, you ready for a fucking story? because reading through this brought back memories that showcase just how shitty invading your kid’s privacy is!

okay so back when I was 12 (? i think. 7th grade for sure) I started experiencing symptoms of depression. So of course, because I thought it would help, I told my mom. She told me I was just “a hormonal teenager” and that I just needed to get over it. At this point I was suicidal and had expressed that, even at that age I knew that it wasn’t normal. not at all.

So I started isolating myself from my family. I’d only text my friends. That’s when they started going through my ipod because they believed I was “doing bad things”. So I set up a passcode because they were just unlocking and going through it every time I left the room. It stayed in my pocket until I got home, then under the bed. I wasn’t allowed to unlock it myself, they had to know the passcode. I’d go through 20 different passcodes a month because I didn’t want them looking through it. I didn’t even have anything to hide! They made me feel guilty, like I was doing something wrong for texting my friends. The most prominent memory of this is sitting in the chair next to the couch, crying from the anxiety they were forcing me through as they looked through everything. I had no privacy. I wasn’t allowed to have privacy. I no longer texted my friends. The little social interaction I got was from tumblr messages every so often.

My parents created instagram, tumblr etc. accounts so they could watch what i posted and when I posted it. I blocked them. This was he only place I had left to express myself and they were trying to take that away too. They found some app (no idea why this even exists) that allows you to fucking track what your kids do online. I changed the email on all of my social media. I stopped using it if they were in the room. I did everything I possibly could because I just wanted to have 1 fucking place I could express myself without them.

They’ve (as far as I know) stopped forcing their way into my shit. They still go through my texts if I leave it unlocked. They hover over me whenever I use the computer. They still threaten to take away my door.

And I just don’t care anymore. About anything. I skip class, I send nudes, I smoke etc. They’re gonna assume I’m doing it anyway, why shouldn’t I?

I spend my time telling my brother not to do anything I’ve done. Telling him to tell me if he feels bad, not our parents. Telling him not to do the stuff I still do. I tell him all this because I’m in ruins and I don’t want him to end up the same way.

“my house my rules” is my #1 tipoff that a parent may be abusive to their kids and was a huge scapegoat for my parents doing shit like taking my mattress and bedroom door away for getting a C in school. this shit is abusive and only serves to emotionally scar children and push them away from their parents even more.

I’m a parent and this 100% emotional abuse. If you don’t trust your kids, then they won’t trust you. It can be scary to let go then, online and in ‘rl’ but you have to if you want to have people, who at the end of the process of growing up, who are brave and confident in who they are

hey so as a mental health worker I can 100% confirm that the “no privacy until you’re an adult” mindset is abusive and causes trauma to the child which will take years and years to recover from, if ever. Controlling your child’s life in every aspect and not allowing them to become independent of you is abusive.

i hate when people tell me i don’t have rights because i’m a kid. just plain annoying.

TELLING 👏 YOUR 👏 KID(S) 👏 THAT 👏 THEY 👏 DON’T 👏 DESERVE  👏 THEIR 👏 OWN 👏 PRIVACY 👏 AND 👏 THAT 👏 YOU 👏 DON’T 👏 TRUST 👏 THEM 👏 FOR 👏 SHIT 👏 IS 👏 EMOTIONAL 👏 ABUSE 👏 AND 👏 BAD 👏 PARENTING 👏

my parents used to go through my stuff and stole my phones and shit to go through them

my parents used to invade my privacy and get mad when i told them to knock it off

don’t do this to your kids. Please

FYI, this is bullshit. My parents gave me space and privacy and freedom-HELL I didn’t even have a curfew!- and I am now a responsible adult. I have no ill feelings towards my parents and I have love and respect for them. You want to know why? Because they treated my like a human being. I remember my father giving me a talk about how much he trusted me and that is what motivated me to continue to be and do better. Now, they weren’t perfect and didn’t handle my depression in the best way but I still love them just the same. I didn’t expect them to be perfect because they gave me the space and the same respect. Thank you! Kate out!

This hit me way harder than it should’ve this late at night…

Why does this not have more notes? This is really important for people to know!

Honestly, this is a big reason why our country is in the toilet. For every person raised that way who is able to connect that trauma to their struggles, there are probably ten more who just internalized it all.

To them it has become normal, and even acceptable, for basic human rights to be denied unless a person can “prove” they deserve them. Parents who emotionally abuse their children in this way are merely training them to accept fascism and a police state as normal and healthy.

Your job as a parent is to keep your kids safe and happy. You have to keep an eye on your kids to make sure they’re ok and you have to watch out for trouble signs.

“My house, my rules” doesn’t help you keep your kids safe and happy. Completely removing their privacy isn’t how you go about making sure they’re not getting into trouble. This is 100% straight up just for a fucking power trip over your kids, and that’s fucking disgusting. Get a fucking hobby, stop abusing your kids. Goddamn.

Woahhh!? What the fuck kinda parents did some of you have?! That’s downright insane. I grew up in a fairly conservative family and guess what, I NEVER had a curfew, I don’t have limits to what I can or cannot read, I can go to a concert and my mother would pick me up at the train station just to make sure I won’t have to walk the dark area by myself and I’m thirty-one this year, I STILL inform my mother where I’m going in case she’d worry.

Tell you what, crazy parents, your child is not your prisoner. I am still very close to my mother and I would tell her everything because she had always trusted me to make an informed decision or at least talk to her if I want to decide something life altering or dangerous. Really, what gives? Parents like that shouldn’t have had kids in the first place. “My House My Rules”? Are you fucking kidding me?

I have a friend who basically have this type of parents. She can’t go out past this hour, she can’t go to movies (like wtf!?) and like a ton of rules. Guess what she did when her parents left the country for over a month? SHE FUCKING BROKE ALL THE RULES. All of us, her friends were super confused because a) even when we didn’t have curfew we tend to go home before 10PM because we actually like to kick back and relax and b) who the hell stays out until 4AM on a school night? Her sister who was an adult and left in charged of her pretty much just let her go crazy.

Honestly, don’t treat your child like they’ve committed some heinous crime. Set boundaries and respectfully ask them to follow whatever rules you imposed as well as explained why they’re there. Just because they’re young, doesn’t mean they can’t understand you. Just because they’re underage, that doesn’t give you the right to control them in anyway. You’re supposed to be a parent, not a warden.

Let me repeat this:

YOUR CHILD IS NOT YOUR PRISONER!

Parents, setting boundaries isn’t the same as invading privacy. (As an emotionally healthy and mature person, you also should have boundaries set for you - including in the realms of appropriate dealing with other people - and, btw, your children are also people.) If you think you have the right to control your children’s thoughts and actions (not just guide them, or set the kind of boundaries and consequences you would on a stranger living in your house), may I suggest you get help?

My dad was controlling like that more with my siblings than myself (I’m the oldest). He trusted me not to be stupid and gave me a lot of leeway my siblings never had. The ONE TIME I got in serious shit was a result of having two friends over who tried to talk me into sneaking out with one of their boyfriends to go “see a movie” (read: probably smoke pot, sex it up, and get into other trouble). I was like “WTF, absolutely not” and they just waited until I fell asleep and snuck out of my house. I didn’t even leave, but when they tried to sneak back in early the next morning my dad caught them. Commence embarrassing trips to drop off the friends (who got in almost zero trouble, I later found out). Suffice to say, they found it funny that I was grounded for a week. I told them to fuck off and that was the end of that.

Back to my siblings; It honestly shows now that we are all adults. I love my dad and miss him a lot, since he passed away in 2012, because I know he loved me and my sister and brother beyond anything else, but the evidence has spoken. I’m a happy, stable adult, while my siblings have mental issues like anxiety and low-self esteem. They’re finally getting more onto their feet, and I’m very proud of them, but my parent’s treatment (mostly my father) really did a number on them.

Definitely not doing that to my son.

My mom takes my phone at 9pm and grounds me if I don’t turn it in. She makes my study hall teacher take it during school. I’m 15 years old. 🙄🙄🙄

Can’t believe the French found a way to make me feel pretentious for wanting to die 

How One Woman’s Tweet Helped Pay Student Lunch Debts Across the U.S.

New York City writer Ashley C. Ford hated knowing that thousands of school children—saddled with unpaid lunch accounts—were being offered embarrassing substitute meals in their school cafeterias. Wanting to make a difference, Ford took to Twitter, imploring her 66,000 followers to take action.

According to the Associated Press, Ford’s tweet had a major impact: She inspired hundreds of people to raise thousands of dollars. In fact, an online campaign raised nearly $100,000 for lunch debt in Minneapolis and $28,000 in St. Paul’s schools, the AP reports, while efforts in Topeka, Kansas, paid off $6,000 in debt and a movement in Bellevue, Washington, erased $2,000 in unpaid lunch dues.

As the AP noted, children from low-income families can qualify for free or reduced-price breakfasts and lunch. Some of these families, however, still struggle to pay the cost of reduced-price school meals, which can lead to their children’s lunch accounts being overdrawn (other instances of lunch debt can come from families who may not realize they qualify for discounted meals and fail to fill out necessary paperwork, or from parents who can afford to pay for meals but forget to put money in their children’s prepaid accounts).

Though most schools allow students to “run a tab” for a fixed number of meals, others will offer students an alternative lunch option, which can consist of just a cold cheese sandwich and a carton of milk.

One woman, Jill Draper, who worked to collect money for schools in Kingston, New York, told the AP she was moved to take action because Ford’s tweet made it seem easy.

“It seemed like a really easy way to make a positive difference locally,” Draper said. “It’s amazing how one tweet became this crazy movement.” And that’s exactly what Ford wanted.

“I sincerely just wanted to think of something really easy that people could do to make a difference locally,” Ford told the AP. “It was just one idea; another school might need help with uniforms or tutoring. The point was to do something that helps people in your community.”

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Brilliant!! Why haven’t I ever thought of this?? Def doing it and the other suggestions that’s bolded!

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Franzen has a point.

Elegence, Grace, Pecking Out Your Face

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star trek tng + wonderwall

hey serious question here

can you guys think of any main female characters on Star Trek that play an instrument

i believe “not nearly enough” is the answer you were looking for.

If you listen to the end of tangled…. Rapunzel and Eugene didnt get married until several years later 

same with Aladdin and jasmine!

And Belle was trapped in that castle for months with Beast; I’m pretty sure at least a year.

Also Tiana and her prince were together as frogs for an indeterminate length of time before they married. 

Tumblr gets schooled by the Disney fandom

Also let’s not forget Aurora was betrothed (which uhh, was a thing and some places still is).

Cinderella had to be locked in her home away from her prince whilst she knew he was looking for her. 

I love how no one is trying to defend Ariel and Snow.

When Ariel was permanently turned back into a human by her father, we don’t know how much time passed between that day and their wedding.

Snow was under the sleeping curse for at least half a year. Remember the lovely commentary animated films used to do? At the end of the film, it states, “The Prince, who had searched far and wide, heard of the maiden who slept in the glass coffin.” Additionally, it shows changes in season. And finally we don’t even see a marriage between The Prince and Snow.

I love this fandom

So really, Anna is the only princess who tries to marry a prince right away

I am so proud of everyone who commented on this

This post is priceless. Way to go, Disnerds!

And wait, WTF. Why are the princesses the targets of derision here? Prince Phillip was ready to marry Aurora after just running into her in the forest. And then he risked his life and fought a dragon. He didn’t even know her real name, he thought she was some random peasant from the woods and he was ready to walk away from his kingdom. Why isn’t he on trial here?

Prince Charming, same thing. He’d met Snow White before, but he didn’t know she was the maiden he was looking for. He literally heard about some dead girl in the woods and was like, “I must have her for my bride.” We’re going to blame that on Snow White? She was unconscious. And aside from singing one song about him, she was kind of wrapped up in her own thing with her dwarf friends.

Jasmine didn’t even want to get married at all for like 90% of the movie. Aladdin pursued her, going so far as to completely overhaul his image to impress her.

Cinderella didn’t ever say she wanted to get married, either. Her Prince dancd with her once, then tracked her down by her shoe size. Again, he was the one who wanted to get married. She kind of just went back to her regular life with a bittersweet memory.

WTF is up with blaming princesses for the princes’ bad judgment?

^^^^^

This post is amazing

Was he just born ripped as fuck or something?

This is his father.

It’s quite possible Rock was indeed born ripped as fuck.

Dwayne Johnson comes from a even bigger rock

The Boulder Johnson

I laughed so hard at this in the middle of class

Nobody is more done with people than Steve.

DO YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT IS FOR ME TO LAUGH WHEN I’M STILL RECOVERING FROM MY CHEST CONGESTION???? I’M LIKE HACKING OVER HERE 

I just read all of these and I can’t stop laughing 😂

There’s a song that’s been proven to reduce anxiety by 65%. It’s called Weightless by Macaroni Union, and it was specifically designed to slow your heart rate, reduce blood pressure, and lower cortisol levels. It’s so effective that it’s dangerous to drive while listening to it because it can make you drowsy. Source Source 2 Source 3

starring kate mckinnon as hillary clinton