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Nerdy Gay Mormon

@nerdygaymormon / nerdygaymormon.tumblr.com

I live in Florida, work at a university, am a Mormon...oh, and I'm gay
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I hope the people in our little tumblrstake we have on here know just how much their words have helped me. Just seeing queer mormons is such a privilege. You’ve brought me a lot of guidance in this past year and you have strengthened my testimony to great heights. It is so simple what you do on here, yet so powerful. It has changed my life, and probably my future too. If church leadership was as progressive, accepting, and informational as tumblrstake then the church wouldn’t be viewed as it is today.

I told my classmate today that I was going to mormon prom, which led her to ask me if I was mormon. When I told her I was, her jaw literally dropped. It was obvious that she couldn’t imagine someone like me ( queer af ) being in the church. She has a small perspective of who I am, and a small perspective of what the church is. Unfortunately, they were far too different things in her head, to be seen mixed together. It hurt realizing that some people see the church that way, as this bad thing. I’ve been so fortunate to have a mostly accepting ward and a special place in queerstake, that I’ve forgotten our reputation and our dark history and our not very accepting “brothers and sisters” that when I say I’m mormon to someone, they react like I just came out to them.

know that our LDS blogs in our tiny corner of tumblr proves to be more than just a small community. It is a life line keeping me holding on to that iron rod and I’m sure so many others aswell. I thank everyone for all that you’ve done here. You represent the real church of jesus christ of latter day saints.

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Just a reminder that you (yes, you) are always queer enough. While yes it can be a spectrum, if you fall anywhere on it you have the right to identify as such. There’s so such thing as being more bisexual or more asexual than someone else. You also can’t be a bad aromantic or a bad pansexual.

You just are. And that’s enough :)

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In the 1970’s, Anita Bryant was the spokesperson for the Florida Citrus Commission and a phrase she regularly said in commercials was “Breakfast without orange juice is like a day without sunshine.”

In 1977, Anita began her anti-LGBTQ crusade, which marked the beginning of organized opposition to gay rights that spread across the nation. This led to a boycott of Florida orange juice and gay bars all over North America stopped serving screwdrivers. In reaction to Anita Bryant's national crusade, this now-famous sign appeared at the 1979 Gay Freedom Day parade in San Francisco.

Bryant's reputation as a self-righteous bigot ruined her career as companies didn't want to be associated with such a controversial figure.

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And in what seems like karma, in 2021 Bryant's granddaughter, Sarah Green, came out publicly as gay on an episode of Slate's "One Year" podcast by announcing her pending marriage to a woman.

Sarah also shared that on her 21st birthday, her grandmother sang Happy Birthday and said that one day a husband would come along for her.

“I just snapped,” Sarah Green told “One Year.” “[I] was like, ‘I hope that he doesn’t come along because I’m gay, and I don’t want a man to come along.’” To this, Bryant replied that homosexuality is not real.

“It’s very hard to argue with someone who thinks that an integral part of your identity is just an evil delusion,” said Green. “She wants a relationship with a person who doesn’t exist because I’m not the person she wants me to be.”

Despite her grandmother’s hardline stance against a core aspect of her identity, Green mostly takes pity on Bryant.

“I just kind of feel bad for her. And I think as much as she hopes that I will figure things out and come back to God, I kind of hope that she’ll figure things out,” Green said.

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Anonymous asked:

This might be a weird question, but do you know if the church still considers masturbation a sin? Recently had a temple recommend renewal and answered yes to living the law of chastity (as I see it, as a bisexual woman not in a relationship), but now I'm beginning to doubt. I've always thought of it as not breaking the law of chastity, but now I'm wondering if I was being to technical about it. I don't feel guilty for it, but I do feel guilty for maybe lying on the interview, if that makes sense. I don't know, I'm just confused.

We can get the answer to your question from the Church’s General Handbook. Go to 38.6.5 Chastity and Fidelity.

This section says Chastity means having sexual relations only with your spouse. What does “sexual relations” mean? Google says “sexual behavior between individuals, especially sexual intercourse.” Or put another way, sexual activity involving 2 or more people. 

If you’re not involving anyone else, it’s just you alone, I don’t see that masturbation fits into this discussion about chastity as far as the Church’s handbook goes.

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Masturbation is absent from the scriptures or on important church sites about chastity.

For example, there is a section of gospel topics on lds.org where you can get a brief overview of our church’s beliefs. Chastity is one of the topics“Chastity means not having any sexual relations before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage.”

The page goes on to say that to help us abstain from sex before marriage, we should avoid things that awaken our sexual feelings, such as controlling our thoughts, staying away from porn, and not doing the following with a person we aren’t married to: “passionate kissing, lying with or on top of another person, or touching the private, sacred parts of another person’s body, with or without clothing.” 

Notice masturbation is not mentioned at all.

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Christ taught “by their fruits ye shall know them.” Masturbation yields positive results, especially for people like you and me who are not in a relationship. 

Our marital status does not change the fact we are people with sexual needs and drives – which are God given. Be willing to trust yourself. 

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Here’s something else that may be helpful. When you feel the Spirit, then you’ve been forgiven or are being made clean, or don’t have a major sin you need to repent of, “for the Spirit cannot dwell in an unholy tabernacle.” If you’ve felt the spirit recently, you’re doing just fine.  

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 Nephi 7:16—9:2 - And it came to pass

The phrase "and it came to pass" is used over 1,400 times in the Book of Mormon. For instance, from 1 Nephi 7:16~9:2, of the forty-seven verses, twenty-three begin with "and it came to pass."

It's used to indicate "and then this happened."

And it came to pass that when I, Nephi, had spoken these words unto my brethren, they were angry with me. And it came to pass that they did lay their hands upon me,

But I like to think of it like this - if you are going through something really hard, every trial "comes to pass," it doesn't "come to stay."

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Anonymous asked:

(lds teenager) I think I'm aroace and that scares me -- what should I do

First, congratulate yourself! Recognizing the absence of something is really much more complicated than what most people go through as they figure out their queerness.

Aromantic people still want acceptance and emotional connection with others as much as any other person. Aromantic people can have long-term, happy relationships with a partner.

While romantic love is not something you experience, you do have the capacity to love. You can experience a deep love for your parents, children, pets, and yourself. You can develop intense friendships, have nurturing and rewarding relationships and build strong bonds of love and respect with whomever you choose. However, these relationships will always feel platonic to you, not romantic.

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. As for sex, there's a spectrum. Some ace people are sex repulsed but enjoy other forms of physical intimacy like cuddling, holding hands, and affectionate touching. Others enjoy sex, or sexual pleasure even if it’s not with another person.

I know ace people who are happily married. They don’t desire sex, but they recognize it’s a need for their partner and together they figure out when and how often and so on.

For any relationship to last, there needs to be friendship, trust, interest, commitment, collaboration. You can excel in all those things. You can learn your partner’s love language.

One thing I've seen over the years is most people find someone to share their life with. Most people wind up marrying a friend. If you want to marry, make friends. Find people who you enjoy being with. You may develop a squish for someone, that desire to have a more intensely personal friendship with them. There is absolutely no reason why you cannot have the life you dream of.

Being aroace is not a reason to be afraid. Being aroace is not a tragedy, it's simply a different way of experiencing life.