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It is.

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bakwaaas

one day I woke up and realised all the waiting and yearning was actually me living my life and it’s happening right now and it’s still good even if it’s not perfect and there is no moment when all your dreams get fulfilled and everything makes sense. like… this is it. this is life. you’ll waste away your youth waiting for some imagined future if you don’t love life for what it is now and make the most of it

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kitschens

Comic by @shhhitsfine

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Simple Pleasures

  • sipping a warm drink 
  • cooking a meal 
  • creating 
  • coloring 
  • listening to music 
  • listening to a podcast 
  • sitting in the sun 
  • going for a walk 
  • taking a few deep breaths 
  • stretching
  • cuddling with a loved one 
  • sleeping
  • waking up early 
  • going to bed late 
  • watching the sunrise 
  • watching the sunset 
  • opening the windows 
  • going for a drive
  • going to a new cafe 
  • watching a movie or 2 
  • reading a book
  • connecting with someone 
  • talking on the phone 
  • sending a letter 
  • journaling
  • taking a shower 
  • soaking in a bath
  • hugging someone dearly 
  • a glass of wine
  • chocolate
  • indulging in something sweet 
  • being lazy
  • making someone smile 
  • a gentle breeze
  • lighting up a candle 
  • cleaning your room
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Try doing the one that’s physically easiest to do right now. Helps me, anyways.

Do you feel like doing something with your hands but don’t wanna use your brain? Try a repetitive thing like knitting, practicing drawing shapes, practicing your handwriting if you’re learning a language with a different alphabet, etc.

Feel like just being entertained and killing boredom? Pick up the book or movie nearest to you and dig in. Maybe make a drink and snack to enjoy.

Feel like thinking hard? Write something or look through the textbook or website you’re using to learn your new skill. Maybe draw something more complex. Make a plan for a new project or come up with a realistic study schedule for yourself.

Wanna lie down but still do stuff with your brain? There’s apps on your phone for that! You can plan out a cross stitch pattern, go on duolingo, read something on the kindle app, put a filter on a photo, do a doodle with your finger on a drawing app.

This way of thinking of things doesn’t always solve the issue but it helps me sometimes when I’m feeling indecisive.

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federer7

Ingrid Bergman takes a photograph in a break from filming ‘Visit To Italy’, in Naples. 30th May 1953

Photo by Bert Hardy

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leechs

its so crazay how being in a transitional period will have you obsessively reevaluating every decision in yr life to the point of actual insanity…hello

“I could not stop wasting time. It was crazy. I wanted to do something with my life, but instead I went to sleep, or sung in the shower, or sat and stared at the wall. I couldn’t even tell you about anything that I saw. I didn’t talk to anybody. The cicadas kept dying outside, and as I dreamed, my mouth grew thick and venomous with silence.” (Yiwei Chai)

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I gotta ask, how do people, like, do stuff???

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maulusque

here’s what i’ve figured out so far:

-gotta have eat first

-gotta sleep enough first

(seriously so many days i’m like “i have all afternoon I’ma Do a Thing” and then i just kinda buzz around and do Nothing and think “WHY” and then i’m like “oh yeah i’m really fuckening tired”)

-gotta be Excited About It (ADHD brain only does things if they’re Literally the Most Interesting Thing Happening Right Now) (so like, hype yourself up to work on a project, or think about how happy you’ll be with a cleaner room/all those chores done)

-gotta have small, doable first step (like, “get cloth from fabric drawer” or “open google docs”

-FUCK distractions (computer is in drawer, phone is Off)

-Engage the Senses (if task needs Brain, play vague background Music, if task needs No Brain, listen to audiobook/podcast)

-maybe set time limit so i don’t get lost??? e.g. i have a little egg timer that i use because the ticking isn’t distracting but is enough to remind me that Time is a Thing that is Passing Right Now

-gotta have Self Awareness and Thinky about the Moment (get into the habit of Consciously Noticing what you’re doing at the moment, so you’re more likely to go “wait, this isn’t what i wanted to be doing” and be able to redirect)

-be willing to redirect and try to do something else if whatever you want to do Just Isn’t Happening

-DON’T beat yourself up for only doing part of something, or failing entirely- all that does is make your brain associate “trying to do stuff” with “well that SUCKED”. Which means you don’t want to try again. Tell urself u did good for trying, and if it didn’t work, try again later, or figure out why it didn’t work and try a different way. Reward yourself for trying

this is what i’ve figured out about cajoling the Thinky No Worky Brain into Doing Stuff. it’s not 100% reliable, especially if I forget to do some of these things (like SLEEP), but it’s what i got, ya know??

I wasn't actually expecting any answers when I made that post but damn this is really helpful, thank you <3

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small stress relievers for when life feels messy

  • swiffer your bedroom floor or vacuum your bedroom rug
  • wipe down your desk with a cloth or clorox wipe
  • clean off your computer screen
  • clear out your emails
  • do a load of your laundry
  • wash your bedding
  • maybe delete photos or apps on your phone that you don’t need
  • go through a drawer and get rid of things you don’t need
  • fold some clothes
  • organize your stationery or desk
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Free MIT online courses that sound interesting

Arts & Literature

History & Social Studies

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Film Noirs you can watch free online.

The Letter (1940) / They Drive By Night  (1940) / Among the Living (1941) / High Sierra (1941) / I Wake Up Screaming (1941) / Johnny Eager (1941) / The Maltese Falcon (1941) / The Glass Key (1942) / This Gun For Hire (1942) The Night Has Eyes (1942) / The Seventh Victim (1943) / Shadow of a Doubt (1943) / Double Indemnity (1944) / Laura (1944) / Ministry of Fear (1944) / Murder, My Sweet (1944) / Phantom Lady (1944) / The Suspect (1944) / The Woman in the Window (1944) / The Mask of Dimitrios (1944) / Conflict (1945) / Cornered (1945) / Fallen Angel (1945) / Mildred Pierce (1945) / Scarlet Street (1945) / Spellbound (1945) / The Strange Affair of Uncle Harry (1945) / Leave Her To Heaven (1945) / The Big Sleep (1946) / The Blue Dahlia (1946) / The Chase (1946) / The Dark Corner (1946) / The Dark Mirror (1946) / Gilda (1946) / The Killers (1946) / The Locket (1946) / Notorious (1946) / The Postman Always Rings Twice (1946) / Shock (1946) / Somewhere in the Night (1946) / The Spiral Staircase (1946) / The Strange Love of Martha Ivers (1946) / The Strange Woman (1946) / The Stranger (1946) / Suspense (1946) / Three Strangers (1946) / Undercurrent (1946) / Born To Kill (1947) / Brute Force (1947) / Cry Wolf (1947) / Dark Passage (1947) / Dead Reckoning (1947) / Deep Valley (1947) / A Double Life (1947) /  Framed (1947) / Johnny O’Clock (1947) / Kiss of Death (1947) / The Lady From Shanghai (1947) / Lady in the Lake (1947) / Nightmare Alley (1947) / Out of the Past (1947) / Possessed (1947) / Riff-Raff (1947) / They Won’t Believe Me (1947) / The Two Mrs. Carrolls (1947) / The Web (1947) / Desert Fury (1947) / The Big Clock (1948) / Rope (1948) / Blonde Ice (1948) / Bodyguard (1948) / Call Northside 777 (1948) / The Dark Past (1948) / Force of Evil (1948) / He Walked by Night (1948) / Hollow Triumph (1948) / I Love Trouble (1948) /  I Walk Alone (1948) / Key Largo (1948) / Kiss the Blood Off My Hands (1948) / Larceny (1948) / Moonrise (1948) / The Naked City (1948) / Parole, Inc. (1948) / Pitfall (1948) / Road House (1948) / Saigon (1948) / Sleep, My Love (1948) / Sorry, Wrong Number (1948) / The Street with No Name (1948) / They Live by Night (1948) / The Third Man (1949) / The Accused (1949) / Beyond The Forest (1949) / The Big Steal (1949) / Cover Up (1949) / Criss Cross (1949) / A Dangerous Profession (1949) / Flamingo Road (1949) / House of Strangers (1949) / Impact (1949) / Jigsaw (1949) / Johnny Stool Pigeon (1949) / Knock on Any Door (1949) / Manhandled (1949) / Take One False Step (1949) / Too Late For Tears (1949) / Trapped (1949) / Whirlpool (1949) / White Heat (1949) / The Window (1949) / A Woman’s Secret (1949) / The Asphalt Jungle (1950) / Backfire (1950) / Black Hand (1950) / Born to Be Bad (1950) / Caged (1950) / The Capture (1950) / The Damned Don’t Cry (1950) / Dark City (1950) / Destination Murder (1950) / D.O.A. (1950) / Edge of Doom (1950) / The File on Thelma Jordon (1950) / Gun Crazy (1950) / In a Lonely Place (1950) / Kiss Tomorrow Goodbye (1950) / A Lady Without Passport (1950) / Night and the City (1950) / No Man of Her Own (1950) / No Way Out (1950) / One Way Street (1950) / Quicksand (1950) / Sunset Boulevard (1950) / Walk Softly, Stranger (1950) / Where Danger Lives (1950) / Woman on the Run (1950) / The 13th Letter (1951) / Ace in the Hole (1951) / Appointment with Danger (1951) / Cause for Alarm (1951) / Cry Danger (1951) / Detective Story (1951) / The Enforcer (1951) / FBI Girl (1951) / He Ran All The Way (1951) / His Kind of Woman (1951) / Hollywood Story (1951) / House on Telegraph Hill (1951) / M (1951) / The Prowler (1951) / The Racket (1951) / Roadblock (1951) / Sirocco (1951) / Storm Warning (1951) / Strangers on a Train (1951) / Three Steps North (1951) / Two of a Kind (1951) / Affair In Trinidad (1952) / Beware, My Lovely (1952) / The Captive City (1952) / Clash by Night (1952) / Deadline - U.S.A. (1952) / Don’t Bother to Knock (1952) / The Las Vegas Story (1952) / Night Without Sleep (1952) / On Dangerous Ground (1952) / The Steel Trap (1952) / Strange Fascination (1952) / Sudden Fear (1952) / The Thief (1952) / The Woman Is Dangerous (1952) / The Turning Point (1952) / Assignment: Paris (1952) / Man Bait (1952) Stolen Face (1952) / Inferno (1953) / Niagara (1953) / Angel Face (1953) / The Big Heat (1953) / The Bigamist (1953) / A Blueprint for Murder (1953) / Count the Hours (1953) / I, Confess (1953) / Jeopardy (1953) / Pickup on South Street (1953) / Vicki (1953) / Human Desire (1954) / A Life At Stake (1954) / Loophole (1954) / The Miami Story (1954) / Naked Alibi (1954) / The Other Woman (1954) / Pushover (1954) / Rogue Cop (1954) / Suddenly (1954) / Witness to Murder (1954) / 5 Against the House (1955) / The Big Combo (1955) / The Desperate Hours (1955) / Female Jungle (1955) / Kiss Me Deadly (1955) / Murder Is My Beat (1955) / The Night of the Hunter (1955) / Queen Bee (1955) / Hell on Frisco Bay (1955) / Violent Saturday (1955) / Rififi (1955) / Les Diaboliques (1955) / A Before Dying (1956) / Beyond a Reasonable Doubt (1956) / A Woman’s Devotion (1956) / Crime Against Joe (1956) / A Cry in the Night (1956) / The Harder They Fall (1956) / The Killer Is Loose (1956) / Over-Exposed (1956) / Please Murder Me (1956) / The Price of Fear (1956) / While the City Sleeps (1956) / The Wrong Man (1956) / Yield to the Night (1956) / A Kiss Before Dying (1956) / The Burglar (1957) / Crime of Passion (1957) / The Unholy Wife (1957) / Hit and Run (1957) / Nightfall (1957) / Slaughter on Tenth Avenue (1957) / Sweet Smell of Success (1957) / The Tattered Dress (1957) / The Girl in Black Stockings (1957) / The Long Haul (1957) / Istanbul (1957) / Murder by Contract (1958) / Screaming Mimi (1958) / Step Down to Terror (1958) / Party Girl (1958) / Thunder Road (1958) / Vertigo (1958) / Touch of Evil (1958) / Party Girl (1958) / Lonelyhearts (1958) / City of Fear (1959) / Odds Against Tomorrow (1959) / The Trap (1959) / Guns, Girls and Gangsters (1959) 

Nearly all the films on this list are American Noir’s, If there are any other Film Noirs that are not on this list that you think should be, let me know and I will add them, also let me know if any of the links are broken and l will fix them. Just click on the title and it will take you to the movie. Enjoy!

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dykedangel

i mean this completely seriously but… a cup of coffee can save your life a little, a shower can save your life a little, making your favorite meal can save your life a little…….little things actually add up to really big things in the long run if you let them, the secret to surviving everyday is infusing a little bit of magic into the mundane i truly believe that

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btw most universities to my knowledge keep their reading lists behind access barriers (ie. only students enrolled at the institution on the course in question can see them) so i thought i’d just let you all know that durham university has all of its reading lists available online for free without needing student access. do with this information what you will.

the lists are downloadable btw - i haven’t gone through and checked every single one but the ones i’ve looked at seem to be at least

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metamatar

MIT’s courseware is available using OpenCourse Ware, completely downloadable without registration and can be remixed under very permissive licenses. some courses have full videos of lectures, notes, slides and problem sets, others may have only have syllabi, reading lists and exams. before edx and coursera were the big names in for profit online education we had khan academy and ocw.