I was gonna just stay quiet but “anyone with 100 followers or more is a leader” is absolutely sending me so here’s me using my leadership position to inflict some opinions on my poor misguided followers, since I’m an influential leader who leads people and never had any idea.
- - don’t trust callout posts.
- - don’t trust screencaps that are cropped all to hell or that only provide minute shreds of context.
- - don’t trust cancel culture. period.
- - don’t trust anyone who is hell-bent on making you feel a certain way about a person or a group of people.
- - if shit seems suspect, look into it yourself. talk to the people involved. draw your own conclusions.
- - it’s okay to be into some weird shit. having an [X] kink does not mean you support [X] irl. ;)
- - people make mistakes and do stupid things. that’s normal. what’s NOT normal is using those mistakes as weapons against people long after they’ve apologized and tried to move on.
everything that’s happened recently has done nothing but cement my absolute hatred for cancel culture and callout culture as a toxic, ill-informed, and all-around absolutely shit way to deal with anything. period. never have I ever seen a callout post that wasn’t fueled by personal petty drama and now I am 100% sure that I never will.
I was going to keep quiet about this because this blog is not supposed to be a discourse blog, but I can’t anymore. I’m not letting Kallist deal with everything alone to protect us. I’ve had enough and I can’t watch this go on any longer.
- -Don’t trust people that defend people in callout posts about groups that support horrible things including animal abuse and Nazis that they have proof of.
- -Don’t trust people that are too scared to post their own screencaps in conversations they were both part of. Contacting discord to get your server back is something a person could potentially try and Sora has claimed to have a record of some of these conversations anyway, has he not? He could be making everything up if he doesn’t have proof and you would have no way of knowing.
- -I agree with this. I also don’t think we should let Nazis and animal abusers into our spaces. It’s a shame that it had to get to the point where a callout post was needed in the first place. I believe they rarely should be.
- -Trust people who are passionate and motivated by events they have witnessed or experienced but can back up their arguments and claims.
- -Don’t talk to people that are being accused of being pathological liars and manipulators one on one that won’t show anything out in the open. This is very tricky, but usually if someone wants to clear their name using evidence and doesn’t have other motives they will show what they have out in the open and you can draw conclusions from that. No one likes being accused of things, so they will always claim they are in the right even when they are not.
- -I took down my last statement about it because I no longer want an apology or will accept one, but if Sora wanted to apologize to us for how we were treated at any point and/or felt Kallist was being manipulated with doctored evidence, all he would have had to do was reach out on discord, seeing as we never got around to blocking him. I’m not completely sure because they are very angry right now, but I get the feeling that even if none of us would have forgiven him for the other things that were done to us, Kallist would have backed out if there was proof none of the heavy accusations were true. So I am almost certain that there isn’t any.
- -It’s not ok to lie about people for your own personal gain. Especially when you lie about something they are scared to even bring up anymore and you make it very hard for them to defend themselves. You should also not be allowed to hide behind kink for animal abuse if you want to use that talking point no matter what side of the shipcourse you are on.
- -People do make mistakes. However, a skilled manipulator can just lie about changing and if there is evidence suggesting that they have not then they are not to be trusted.
I’m disappointed in both of you. You knew what kind of person he really was and you were warned about him, but you did not stop to think that there was a possibility of him lying to you when you decided to contact him.
Anyway, please leave my spouse alone. You didn’t even try to do any research on facts. You didn’t even stop to think that Sora might be lying and he definitely did lie about the shipcourse if nothing else. Did you even stop to read what you were posting?
Anyway, I am taking Kallist out of this fight because Sora is specifically picking things that he knows will get under their skin and it’s causing them a lot of distress. From now on everyone should speak to me about this. I will also be taking over the discourse side of our dreamwidth if this continues. Which I deeply hope that it will not and we can leave it where it is.
first off no offense but I actually have no idea who you are, so I’m not sure what impact being “disappointed in us” is supposed to have.
second I appreciate the immense amounts of passive-aggressiveness oozing out of your reply but the bottom line is that after seeing full, uncropped screens of the stuff that prompted the “cult” accusations, I don’t agree that the assessment of “cult” is accurate. I hopped on the bandwagon and spread the post because I had personal beef with Sora over some years-old shit. that was a bad decision on my part and I own that.
gotta wonder why you’re so angry that a handful of people here and there are disagreeing with you though. like I can understand being frustrated but the amount of rage going into this is concerning.
