Comedy People: Characters → Pam Beesly (The Office) “I’ve been trying to be more honest lately, and I just need to say a few things… I did the coal walk! Just… I did it! Michael, you couldn’t even do that. Maybe I should be your boss”.
The office has to be the greatest show of all time 😩
me chastising myself after i finally put myself out there and get played
lately i’ve been replacing my “i’m sorry”s with “thank you”s, like instead of “sorry i’m late” i’ll say “thanks for waiting for me”, or instead of “sorry for being such a mess” i’ll say “thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally” and it’s not only shifted the way i think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with others who now get to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity
Every time I read this I appreciate it a little more 😭♥️
lately i’ve been replacing my “i’m sorry”s with “thank you”s, like instead of “sorry i’m late” i’ll say “thanks for waiting for me”, or instead of “sorry for being such a mess” i’ll say “thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally” and it’s not only shifted the way i think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with others who now get to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity
lately i’ve been replacing my “i’m sorry”s with “thank you”s, like instead of “sorry i’m late” i’ll say “thanks for waiting for me”, or instead of “sorry for being such a mess” i’ll say “thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally” and it’s not only shifted the way i think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with others who now get to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity
Black women are not bitter simply because we expect to be treated as human beings (versus negative archetypes, a collection of stereotypes or animals) and demand such from others.
Black women are not bitter because we vent sometimes about our very human struggles that other humans experience as well, or human struggles unique to Black women.
Black women are not bitter just because we get angry sometimes. Humans get angry. It’s a normal emotion to feel when one experiences pain or injustice.
Black women are not bitter just because we seek support from other Black women from the hurt that other humans (including some other Black women) have caused us.
Black women are not bitter just because we might be single.
Black women are not bitter just because we might decide to date outside of our race.
Black women are not bitter just because we might not buy into the illusion that the only reason to date outside of our race is because somehow White men’s ice is colder than Black men’s ice.
Black women are not bitter simply because we do not want to take emotional, physical, sexual or spiritual abuse from Black men.
Black women are not bitter because we might need a break from Black men. It’s not easy being in a world that hates both Black women and Black men, but then also deal with some Black men’s sexism and misogyny. All humans need space at times.
Black women are not bitter simply because we refuse to smile on command when a street harassing man demands we do, as if we are dogs or a circus act. Maybe we’re having a serious day. Maybe we’re in a rush. Maybe we’re sad and hurting that day. Maybe we’re happy (though not engaged in masturbatory giggling or smiling) and a street harassing man actually RUINED it with his demand.
Black women are not bitter just because we aren’t interested in giving some random man a phone number, a conversation, time, a date, sex or love. We have the right to choose.
Black women are not bitter just because we desire quality partners. Women’s standards and desires for men do not magically become “unreasonable” when a Black woman has them, then reasonable again if a non-Black woman has them. The only way this would be true is if the world is confirming that Black men are permanently inferior, thus anything Black women could want is not possible, thus making us “unreasonable.” Black men should reject this, versus applauding anytime the media suggests that we are “unreasonable.”
Black women are not bitter just because we may choose taking care of ourselves over taking care of a man. We may choose to reject the label of “support” if that term becomes defined as accepting abuse, ignoring major flaws and spending money that we cannot afford on a male partner.
Black women are not bitter simply because some are in same gender relationships. Patriarchal thought has people thinking that women who are lesbians are only lesbians because of male rejection or past problematic relationships with men. FALSE.
Black women are not bitter simply because we speak of the impact of colourism and light skin privilege in our communities, in jobs, in the criminal justice system, in the media, in entertainment and in film/music/art. We have every right to voice this issue (within or outside our community) of active erasure engaged against us.
Black women are not bitter simply because we decide that Christianity or theism itself isn’t for us. Many decide that the abuses of the Black Church and religion itself are too much to bear, and we find morality, emotional support, and political/social justice action outside of the church.
Black women are not bitter just because we don’t behave exactly like White women. First of all, all White women do not even behave alike. Secondly, all Black women do not behave alike. Third, only internalized White supremacy within the Black community dictates that being absolutely anything like Whites means being “better.”
Black women are not bitter simply because we demand to be paid the same wage for the same work as White women, let alone White men. All women do not earn the same wages. ALL WOMEN DO NOT EARN THE SAME WAGES.
Black women are not bitter simply because we speak of issues specific to our existences that are NOT issues specific to White women’s existences.
Black women are not bitter just because we are fully aware of the challenges of living at the intersection of gender and race (with other crossroads that may include sexuality, identity [if trans* not cis], class, complexion and weight/size).
Black women are not bitter and know how to love, support, be kind, be funny, be intelligent, be passionate, be charming, be beautiful, be wise, be resilient, be clever and be true.
Black women are not bitter because we embrace life-saving, self-affirming and empowering ideologies such as womanism that identifies with feminism with intersectionality, anymore than a person would be called bitter for craving food, water, shelter, clothing and love. I’ve never heard a person who is nearly dying and needs help or CPR called bitter. No, we applaud their desire to live. Black women too, desire to live.
And, even if SOME Black women are bitter at a certain point in time in their lives, WE ARE entitled to feel this emotion just like everyone else is upon hurt. It’s not a “plague” specific to Black women. It does not then become our “personality type.”
Scream this from the mountain top
Since you are black and proud, I will test you with this question: How does a woman carry a child in her stomach for 9 months, go through all the pain, hold it in her arms, and end up calling it Laquisha?
Laquisha is a French variant of the Swahili name “Lakiesha“ which means ”favorite”. In addition, the name is also a French variant from the original Latin ”Leticia” which means gay, delighted, or joyful and is the name of an old Roman Goddess, Laetitia. I’m not only black and proud, I’m also a former linguistics student, avid reader of mythology, and Tumblr. Your tests mean nothing to me. So to answer your question, how does she end up naming her daughter after a Goddess? Pretty pridefully I’d hope, our women are Goddesses.
here’s a visual representation of what just happened…
now pick up your face and go sit your racist ass down in the corner.
I’m glad that I was alive to read this .
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Because “Agnes,” “Gertrude,” “Buffy,” “Mildred,” and “Cassidy” are all such classy names, huh?
The orphans of Aleppo send the world their last message.
i think i am ugly. no guys ever look my way. sometimes i say to myself maybe if i were the standard of beauty my life would be a little better.
1. How guys view you should not validate your beauty, like everrrr2. I know you aren’t ugly but you really have to see that yourself to get where you should be mentally because I know you’re rolling your eyes at me saying that (i used to be the same)
Im not up to most conventional standards of beauty either, I have a big nose and my skin isn’t the best. Plus I used to have a lot of self hate so the way I got over that was to not compare myself (superrrr important!), do what makes me feel pretty and take cute selfies (optional but highly recommended). This is weird but when I feel good about myself I’ll make sure to say something like damn I’m lookin like a snack and I begin to say it more and more often. My confidence isn’t A1 yet and I have days where I wonder if I’m dying alone but I’m getting better so constantly work on convincing yourself that you’re as cute as I know you are. Stay poppin Ma 😘
Pretty privilege is real ngl but recognizing the way you are beautiful truly is the way to make life better
When you hear your mom lying about you on the phone
On God
