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paralyzed male,sitting in a wheelchair since birth

@nanan0

answers on ALL questions about my life with a disability with pleasure, if desired also sexual matters related to my life with a disability

OMFG….. this is a MUST repost….. 100% true!

i feel like its time for the PSA again…..

PSA

Reblog this if you are literally suprised when people find you attractive.

Spina bifida

I was born with an open back. In medical terminology, this birth disorder is called "spina bifida".

My disability is a malformation of the spinal cord. Simply said, this means that even before birth, even in the womb, some of the spinal nerves, at a certain height that varies and is different in each affected person, don't all have nerves in the spinal cord grown together and some of the spinal cord remains open, so not covered by skin, as it's usually the case. The open part of the spinal cord must be closed immediately after birth, in a surgery, as the spinal nerves otherwise be completely unprotected outside the body in a bag and it would come to bacterial infections Inflammations that can lead to death. During the inevitable surgery, there is an additional risk, that the additional manual intervention of the doctors will damage other spinal nerves and increase the disability. But a surgery is inevitable in such a birth and even life-sustaining. Here a picture of myself as a baby after birth, but just before the surgery to close my "open back".

does your disability have a specific term? in what way are you disabled? how does it affect your daily life? what can able people do to make things more accessible for you and others with disabilities like yours? (additionally, are any of those questions offensive?)

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Hello! Thank you very much for your questions about my disability! First of all: None of your questions will offensed me or get me offens. I am very open-minded and I like it, when people are interested in my disability and ask me questions about my disability and my life with this disability. Unfortunately that happens very rarely that someone is interested in my disability. So you can still ask more questions about my disability and my life with my disability without shame. You are allowed to be curious. 😊 I will gladly answer ALL your questions tonight if I have more time. I have spina bifida and my lower body is paralyzed - also my bladder and my bowel are paralyzed and I sit in a wheelchair. 🙂

it’s officially been 1 year since i got my hardware! most, if not all, of the numbness has gone away. there’s still some pain, but my body feels so much better. my scar has faded drastically and i’ve been complimented more on my posture than everything else combined.

tue, feb 12th, 2019

DO NOT CATH A PERSON WITHOUT WARNING THEM. Seriously, please. You need to warn a patient and get their permission before shoving a painful tube inside them. I can’t believe I have to say this but psa for medical professionals. The last few times I’ve been cathed, it’s been without warning and even knowledge they were going to do it which makes it more painful and makes you unintentionally clench up. So please warn a person before cathing them. It’s common fucking courtesy.

Who the fuck is doing this? Who?!? This is horrible and UNPROFESSIONAL. Stop it. You always, always ask a patient before you touch them, explain the procedure, and warn for any discomfort. This is nursing 101 people. Hell, this is being a decent human 101.

Exactly. It’s happened the last two times I’ve been cathed outside the hospital at two totally different doctors offices/practices. You’d think it’s decent fucking human 101 but apparently not. Idk if they think sneaking it in will make it easier on the patient but because I have pelvic floor dysfunction (which is why I’m at that doctor in the first place) if I don’t get warning, it’s super extra painful. It’s fucking ridiculous. I just don’t understand how you can touch a patient or perform a procedure without their knowledge. It happens constantly to us and it just makes no sense.

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I think the most annoying part of people saying “It’s so cool you don’t let your disability stop you” to me is that it’s just, it’s so ignorant to my life. Like I just want to scream “Of course it does! Of course! My disability stops me at every turn because the world isn’t accessible to me. I can’t go to my friends houses or half the restaurants or certain entire neighborhoods! I have to turn down jobs in inaccessible buildings and I haven’t seen a therapist in years, because on top of regular difficulties, most of those who were available didn’t have offices I can get inside. It stopped my friendships in their tracks because people can’t understand fatigue. I‘ve had to turn down fashion campaigns I’ve been offered multiple times because I can’t reliably travel alone on an airplane, lest my wheelchair gets lost, or the staff injures me, or when we land cabs refuse to take me. Not to mention I can’t stay in just whatever hotel or airbnb I find that’s affordable to me. Beyond that, just imagine the opportunities I’d get if people were less afraid to work with disabled people. If you think I’m doing things now just IMAGINE what I’d be doing if the world wasn’t designed in a way I have to actively fight against every second of every minute of every day. This is me being stopped and the fact that I’m doing things nonetheless isn’t proof that I’m not letting things stop me, it’s proof that I’m talented and driven. If the world wasn’t so inaccessible I would be a force to be reckoned with. The fact you think I’m not being stopped means you not only underestimate me, but you don’t pay attention. I get it. It’s easy to not notice the obstacles when they’re not in your way. It’s certainly easier to pretend that other disabled people are “letting things stop them”, than admit that the world is rigged against us. That’s not an easy realization. Of course, It’s easier to ‘compliment’ me than to address inaccessibility and ableism, but it’s ignorant, and it downplays everything I, and other disabled people have to fight through to survive (let alone succeed.) I’m “letting” things stop me at every turn and I’m still killing it through this obstacle course. And that is, in my (not so) humble opinion, so much cooler.”

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I totally agree!

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Anyone can help!

(Real pen the last picture)

It is important for EVERYONE to know how to help ANYONE. Not everyone can give them selves their medicine under every circumstance. Be educated, help out.

In the last year, i have gotten about five new violent allergies from foods i used to be able to eat. Next time i eat a fruit, my throat could close. I may not be able to inject myself. My boyfriend and i played with my trainer pen for like 30 minutes. He knows how to inject it. I know how. This is important.

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Very good instruction! 👌👍👍👍

This is the first and only time, i am going to show my body on here.

I have also struggled with how my body looks. But i am starting to love it, even though i have days where i can’t bare to even look at myself. But that happens a lot less now. So, that’s a bonus.
*May delete this later*
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@charlottealicec You have a very beautiful body! 👌👍

This is the first and only time, i am going to show my body on here.

I have also struggled with how my body looks. But i am starting to love it, even though i have days where i can’t bare to even look at myself. But that happens a lot less now. So, that’s a bonus.
*May delete this later*
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@Charlotte-alice You have a very beautiful body! 👌👍

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Way too personal Nsfw asks

1. First sex experience?

2. Celebrity threesum?

3. Would you ever have a devils threesum?

4. Ever been rimmed?

5. Would you ever rim someone?

6. Weirdest sexual experience?

7. Weirdest solo sexual experience?

8. Every have a one night stand?

9. Thought on rape play?

10. As a guy, what do think is a female’s idea penis?

11. What’s your ideal penis?

12. Ever have sex in public?

13. Describe a sex fantasy that you want to try in detail.

14. Do you consider your genitals attractive?

15. What bra size do you find yourself most attracted to?

16. Favorite sex position?

17. Least favorite sex positions?

18. What makes sex ‘bad’ to you?

19. Ever have sex with someone loud?

20. Have you ever thought a partner faked an orgasam?

21. Have you ever faked an orgasam?

22. Thoughts on accidental anal?

23. Have you ever had sex with food?

24. For giving oral to a female, you prefer them to ride your face, or them laying down (or other)

25. Weirdest thing someone’s ever said to you during sex?

26. Ever prematurely cum?

27. Do you prefer you or your partner to cum first?

28. Ever have a kink a partner thought was weird?

29. Thoughts on drunk sex, or sex where your sober and your partner semiconscious?

30. If your partner made you a sex toy from their genitals would you be creeped out or…?

31. Ever have a safe word, if so, what was it?

32. Thoughts on partner sharing?

33. Weirdest sex story you’ve heard?

34. What gives you the most confidence during sex?

35. What feels better for you sex or oral sex?

36. Do you like sloppy blowjobs?

37. Which feels better blowjob or blowjob and hands?

38. Most viewed porn categories?

39. Thoughts on knife play?

40. Can you be intimate if your pet is in the room?

41. I’d you ever had the chance for a threesum with twins would you do it?

42. Are you ok with your partner owning sex toys?

43. Are you ok with your partner using toys to finish after sex?

44. Are you ok with your partner mastubating. (Instead of going to you for help)

45. Are you a fan of cuddles after sex?

46. Do you care how many sexual partners your partner had?

47. If you had the chance to join an orgy, would you?

48. What’s your thoughts about watching porn with a partner?

49. Are you ok with your partner watching porn to get off? (Instead of going to you?)

50. As a guy, do you consider your girlfriend kissing other girls as cheating?

51. If you and your partner broke up for a week but got back together how would you react finding out they had sex during that time?

52. Are you ok with your partner posting nudes online?

53. Has anyone ever said the wrong name during sex with you?

54. Ever had sex to just get it out of the way?

55. Have you ever had sex in your parents bed?

56. Favorite place to cum?

57. Do you prefer your partner to a Bush or shaved? (Which do you find more aesthetically pleasing)

58. How old were you when you first bought condoms?

59. Have you ever tried flavored condoms?

60. Would you ever let a stranger watch you and your partner have sex?.

61. What’s the worst thing that’s aroused you?

62. Would you ever have sex with a guy who had a spliced dick?

63. Would you ever have sex with someone with genital piercings?

64. Thoughts on sleep sex?

65. How easily do you get aroused?

66. Explain the time you got aroused at the worst time?

67. Have you ever received oral from someone with a tongue piercing, did it feel any different?

68. Have you ever accidentally hurt your partner during intimacy, how? And did you continue after?

69. Ever 69 :p

70. Would you ever give someone oral underwater?

71. Would you ever have sex on the beach?

72. Do you prefer your own touch or a partners?

73. Why do men slap their penis on their partner? Does it feel good???

74. For mastubating do you use lube?

75. Is there some place you don’t like being touched during intimacy?

76. Do you prefer your partner to knead you head or pull your hair?

77. Has a condom ever fallen off during sex?

78. Have you ever lost arousal during intimacy, did you keep going?

79. Have you ever gotten cum in your eye?

80. Weirdest compliment you’ve gotten?

May as well…

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75. Is there some place you don't like being touched during intimacy?

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