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Fanfic, fanart, fandom.  MBMBaM, the better Supernatural that exists in our heads, TFaTWS, making things, trying not to be an asshole, mental health. I'm a White Settler, cis, Canadian, and queer. Pronouns: she/her. The wonderful Poupon made this Anders.

So, Andre Dickens has lied about the total cost of cop city to the citizens of Atlanta.

Instead of the 30 million originally planned,

Cop City will instead cost tax payers 67 million!

That's more than twice as much as promised!

The majority of Atleans oppose cop city being built so that's tax payer money going to a unsupported cause without any vote.

If you are in Atlanta please attend the second public comment on June 5th. If not from Atlanta make sure this problem is heard about all across the world. With all the misogynic, transphobic, homophobic, and racist laws being pass right now, I fear that this facility will be used to further the fascism present in the U.S.

Not to mention the ecological disaster this will cause

These pictures were taken by drone only three months from each other. The sediment and runoff from this alone far exceeds the national limit and it will only get worse with the chemical runoff from the explosives that will be used.

I know the world's sort of gone to the dogs lately but please please please don't let this go out of the public eye. If the police force can't train then the police force can't enforce these laws. I have a list of petitions and funds pined on my blog as well as phone numbers to blast if you want something more direct.

Stop Cop City!!!

I want a show or movie like Chronicle but not cis boys. Is there one? Unhinged supernatural powers from some unexplained phenomenon and the immediate widening of both personal and interpersonal fault lines. Some feral girl absolutely shredding her body to flip cop cars. Her transmasc bestie/unrequited love mercy killing her and then hike/flying the Alps to prove that living is worthwhile and he hasn’t forgotten than she was just a kid. The one who dies 2/3 through the story to show that the stakes are Like, Super High can be a cis dude I guess.

He gotta be white, tho.

i think if we’re going to have conversations about consent we should talk about how consenting to something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be a good experience, and having a bad experience doesn’t necessarily mean someone violated your consent. this can apply to a lot of situations but the two i’m thinking of right now are sex and transition.

you’re getting it on with someone. you enthusiastically consent to having sex with them. afterward, you feel a little weird about it. maybe even distressed. maybe they did something you didn’t enjoy and in the moment you just didn’t say anything. maybe you just realized after the fact that you were not in a good headspace for sex and now your mental health is declining. that doesn’t inherently mean the person you had sex with violated your consent. sometimes it just means you need to take a break from sex or work on communicating your needs or boundaries better during sex.

and with transition, i feel like this is something that gets consistently overlooked but like. there will never be zero detransitioners. there will always be people who decide that actually transition wasn’t right for them. they could have had the best most thorough doctors in the world who did everything by the book and got full informed consent at every step. and some people are still going to decide they don’t like the changes and wish they hadn’t transitioned. that doesn’t mean that the doctors violated their consent, and that doesn’t mean that transition shouldn’t be available to anyone. it just means that we need to have more resources available for folks who detransition.

regret does not automatically mean someone did something wrong. regret is simply one possible result of having bodily autonomy, and i think we need to get more comfortable with that.

anyway, here's some things i've learned and some things i'm working on as a survivor of sexual assault/rape and prolonged abuse that might help people.

one of the things i struggle with is communicating what i want during sex, because it was something i was punished for while i was in an abusive relationship. this means whenever i want something during sex, instead of just asking for it, i panic and start overthinking about how to ask for it and if my partner will be upset if i ask for it and what if they say no and am i a bad person for even asking and maybe i should just shut up and wait for it to be over and you see how this can make sex very unpleasant, yes?

one way i'm working on coping with this is trying to talk to whoever i'm having sex with before we have sex. it's easier if you have a partner, but really anyone you're going to sleep with should be cool with you talking about your likes and dislikes before you have sex. sometimes it even helps to write it out, a list of likes or dislikes or things you want to try or things you notice that trigger you. for me, it's hair pulling, so i always make sure to say something before i hook up with someone. it can feel really really awkward at first, so this one just takes practice.

another thing is i used to get triggered during sex, and occasionally still do, and the biggest issue i had was asking the person to stop. usually i'd just be frozen in place and they'd have no idea anything was even happening. instead of trying to figure out what to do when i got triggered, i practiced telling them to stop while i wasn't triggered so i could practice what i was going to say and do and how i was going to handle it. once i had that skill on my roster, it was easier to say or do something if i did get triggered during sex, whether that was saying "stop" or tapping their arm to let them know to stop. this, again, is even easier if you have a partner or a consistent sexual partner you trust.

another thing i've started doing is telling my fwb anytime he does something i do like. it's a lot easier to communicate because i'm not worried about rejection, and once i got more comfortable communicating that way during sex, communicating what i wanted got a little easier.

it's still an uphill battle for me sometimes, there are still times during sex when i just can't get the words to come out of my mouth, and i'm working on being gentle with myself. if you struggle with this stuff too, it's not your fault, and you also don't have to be afraid of sex. focus on getting to know yourself and your limits, practice communicating, check in with yourself after sex, and know that it does get easier!

pulling this out of the tags bc this is also a really good point!!!

I talk to many people who say things like "oh I have trauma but I don't have PTSD", but then when I talk to them a little more I realize that they most likely do, they just can't recognize it as such due to how lacking PTSD awareness is, even beyond the whole "it's not just a veteran's disorder" thing.

The main reason they think they don't have PTSD usually has to do with flashbacks and nightmares, either they have one but not the other or have neither. But here's the thing, those are only two symptoms out of the 23-odd recognized symptoms. Flashbacks and nightmares are two of the five symptoms under Criterion B (Intrusion), which you only need one of for a diagnosis. The other three symptoms are unwanted upsetting memories, emotional distress after being reminded of trauma and physical reactivity after being reminded of trauma (i.e. shaking, sweating, heart racing, feeling sick, nauseous or faint, etc). Therefore you can have both flashbacks and nightmares, one but not the other, or neither and still have PTSD.

In fact, a lot of the reasons people give me for why they don't think they have PTSD are literally a part of the diagnostic criteria.

"Oh, I can barely remember most parts of my trauma anyway." Criterion D (Negative Alterations in Cognition and Mood) includes inability to recall key features of the trauma.

"Oh but I don't get upset about my trauma that often because I avoid thinking of it or being around things that remind me of it most of the time." Criterion C (Avoidance) includes avoiding trauma-related thoughts or feelings and avoiding trauma-related external reminders, and you literally cannot get diagnosed if you don't have at least one of those two symptoms.

"Oh I just have trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep, but I don't have nightmares." Criterion E (Alterations in Arousal and Reactivity) includes difficulting sleeping outside of nightmares.

"But I didn't have many/any trauma symptoms until a long time after the trauma happened." There's literally an entire specification for that.

Really it just shows how despite being one of the most well-known mental illnesses, people really don't know much about PTSD. If you have trauma, I ask you to at least look at the criteria before you decide you don't have PTSD. Hell, even if you don't have trauma, look at the criteria anyway because there are so many symptoms in there that just are not talked about.

PTSD awareness is not just about flashbacks and nightmares.

For years, the people of the Kitasoo/Xai’xais First Nation watched over their waters and waited. They had spent nearly two decades working with Canada’s federal government to negotiate protections for Kitasu Bay, an area off the coast of British Columbia that was vulnerable to overfishing.

But the discussions never seemed to go anywhere. First, they broke down over pushback from the fishing industry, then over a planned oil tanker route directly through Kitasoo/Xai’xais waters.

“We were getting really frustrated with the federal government. They kept jumping onboard and then pulling out,” says Douglas Neasloss, the chief councillor and resource stewardship director of the Kitasoo/Xai’xais First Nation. “Meanwhile, we’d been involved in marine planning for 20 years – and we still had no protected areas.”

Instead, the nation watched as commercial overfishing decimated the fish populations its people had relied on for thousands of years.

Nestled on the west coast of Swindle Island, approximately 500km north of Vancouver, Kitasu Bay is home to a rich array of marine life: urchins and abalone populate the intertidal pools, salmon swim in the streams and halibut take shelter in the deep waters. In March, herring return to spawn in the eelgrass meadows and kelp forests, nourishing humpback whales, eagles, wolves and bears.

“Kitasu Bay is the most important area for the community – that’s where we get all of our food,” Neasloss says. “It’s one of the last areas where you still get a decent spawn of herring.”

So in December 2021, when the Department of Fisheries and Oceans withdrew from discussions once again, the nation decided to act. “My community basically said, ‘We’re tired of waiting. Let’s take it upon ourselves to do something about it,’” Neasloss says.

What they did was unilaterally declare the creation of a new marine protected area (MPA). In June 2022, the nation set aside 33.5 sq km near Laredo Sound as the new Gitdisdzu Lugyeks (Kitasu Bay) MPA – closing the waters of the bay to commercial and sport fishing.

It is a largely unprecedented move. While other marine protected areas in Canada fall under the protection of the federal government through the Oceans Act, Kitasu Bay is the first to be declared under Indigenous law, under the jurisdiction and authority of the Kitasoo/Xai’xais First Nation.

Pictured: "In some ways, I hope someone challenges us" … the Kitasoo/Xai’xais stewardship authority.

Although they did not wait for government approval, the Kitasoo did consult extensively: the declaration was accompanied by a draft management plan, finalised in October after three months of consultation with industry and community stakeholders. But the government did not provide feedback during that period, according to Neasloss, beyond an acknowledgment that it had received the plan...

Approximately 95% of British Columbia is unceded: most First Nations in the province of British Columbia never signed treaties giving up ownership of their lands and waters to the crown. This puts them in a unique position to assert their rights and title, according to Neasloss, who hopes other First Nations will be inspired to take a similarly proactive approach to conservation...

Collaboration remains the goal, and Neasloss points to a landmark agreement between the Haida nation and the government in 1988 to partner in conserving the Gwaii Haanas archipelago, despite both parties asserting their sovereignty over it. A similar deal was made in 2010 for the region’s 3,400 sq km Gwaii Haanas national marine conservation area.

“They found a way to work together, which is pretty exciting,” says Neasloss. “And I think there may be more Indigenous protected areas that are overlaid with something else.”

-via The Guardian, 5/3/23

it fucking sucks how you can do all the therapy and self healing in the world and you still have to wake up living under a capitalist death cult that's killed community and crushes your soul

congrats you want to live and be happy

bad news the world doesn't want that for you

I'll still love fully and crawl to hope until my body gives out anyway I guess

your tools do not have a morality but you do

such a bad argument around AI where folks ask: 'what is difference between human finding inspiration and AI scraping data?'. BUD how is this not obvious? despite what we call it AI is not human or intelligent. there are different moral expectations between human and object

AI scraping data is theft but it is not the AI who is guilty of this because IT IS NOT A HUMAN IT IS NOT A REAL MIND it is the illusion of a mind. it is a tool. if you believe AI stealing data is morally just because ‘humans get inspried too’ then gotta believe that of all tools

if someone fires gun to murder are they not guilty because THE GUN DID THIS not the person? gun is also tool and only difference is there is not huge group of scoundrels tryin to say gun is ‘intelligent’. you do not get to do bad things and call your tool 'intelligent' for a pass

in other words, whole discussion is actually attempt to create appearance of 'sentient brain'. when we create a real sentient brain the discussion will immediately be about philosophy and the rights of the brain, whether or not it is ethical to turn off etc. we are not there

where we ARE is that capitalism has found new tool to suck heart out of everything it touches like dang vampire, and it is shocking to see buds fall for it. wes anderson making star wars is not fun it is ghoulish and sad.

It’s not autism acceptance if you need to hear that it is autism in order to accept it.

Took me a minute to process what this says. But yes this, very much.

If something needs to be called The Right Word in order to tick your Internal Tolerance Box then it’s not acceptance it’s lip service.

watching the 2018 milwaukee ballet production of dracula and y'all the dracula/jonathan pas de deux is amazing

it's beautiful and creepy and sensual and horrifying all at the same time

crap, i don't know enough dance terminology to make this coherent, but the way they've been utilizing going en pointe in act 2 is fascinating. like, aside from when they're doing turns and stuff like that, all the women are walking around on the flat part like regular people. but then dracula bursts in and everyone is down in the dark except lucy, who is now on her tippy toes and basically floating across the floor to him in a trance and the contrast is so eerie

also i just realized it was mean of me to talk about this without telling anyone where to watch it. here's a link to the official video from the milwaukee ballet account's @ Home series https://vimeo.com/469873929/5ee47dee00

continuing the trend of being both sensual and beautiful and horrifying, the drac+lucy pas de deux is also fantastic.

also, repeated theme the way dracula just kind of flings them around at times, like they're not dance partners but just toys to be played with and literally tossed aside. in the jonathan one he just like yote him 15 feet or something crazy across the stage, and in this one he's just positioning her like a ragdoll, the choreo is so good

agh no no no i hate this! D: lucy! :(((

looking forward to and dreading the drac+mina one if they're all gonna be this good but also upsetting lol

oh good, an ensemble mourning scene, that's cool that's fine i'm handling this gracefully

oh damn, though, she does feral really well too. cool thanks this is a great place for an intermission because i'm feeling totally emotionally stable (:

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