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GALLIARDISE
[noun]
extreme gaiety; merriment.
Etymology: from Middle French gaillard - lively, vigourous; a lively dance.
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I suspect quite a few people on this site don’t realize they are struggling with the effects of chronic trauma. In particular I think more people need to learn about the symptoms of C-PTSD.
Distinct from general PTSD, Complex PTSD is caused by prolonged, recurring stress and trauma, often occurring in childhood & adolescence over an extended period of time. There are many risk factors, including: abusive/negligent caregivers, dysfunctional family life, untreated mental/chronic illness, and being the target of bullying/social alienation.
I’m not a mental health professional and I’m not qualified to diagnose anyone, I just remember a million watt light bulb going off in my head when I first learned about C-PTSD. It was a huge OH MY FUCKING WORD eureka moment for me—it explained all these problems I was confused and angry at myself for having. The symptoms that really stood out to me were:
- Negative self-perception: deep-seated feelings of shame, guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, and stigma. Feeling like you are different from everyone else, like something is fundamentally ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ with you.
- Emotional avoidance of topics, people, relationships, activities, places, things etc that might cause uncomfortable emotions such as shame, fear, or sadness. Can lead to self-isolation.
- Learned helplessness: a pervasive sense of powerlessness, often combined with feelings of desensitization, wherein you gradually stop trying to escape or prevent your own suffering, even when opportunities exist. May manifest as self-neglect or self-sabotage. (I remember watching myself make bad choices and neglect my responsibilities, and having no idea why I was doing it, or how to stop myself. Eventually I just stopped caring, which led to more self-neglect.)
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Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron (2002) dir. Kelly Asbury, Lorna Cook
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September is Suicide Prevention Month and I wanted to share some reminders
- suicide should not be labeled as “selfish”. people who commit suicide are in incredible pain and think there’s only one way out. that pain is unimaginable if you’ve never experienced it. think about what drove the victim to do it, not just what you think about it
- not all suicidal people will self harm or commit suicide. many struggle to live everyday, but continue on. this doesn’t mean that their struggle isn’t as important as those who are actively life threatening
- self harm is not an indicator of suicidal thoughts all the time. many people who self harm do it for a release from the pain, not to die. this doesn’t mean their struggle is less important because they aren’t actively suicidal. but it’s also important to keep an eye on them because the release from pain can turn deadly very quickly, and they may become suicidal over time
- suicidal people don’t think about dying all the time. they can have moments of happiness, anger, love, compassion, and any other emotion. they can also still be suicidal when they’re not in immediate danger.
- speaking of moods, if a suicidal person suddenly is very calm, it’s best to check on them. they may have come to terms with a plan to commit suicide and need help. yes, it can be just a good mood, but it can be life saving to check in on them
- being suicidal is not attention seeking. people who are suicidal need help and attention, yes, but they aren’t feeling this way to get it.
- suicidal people may not be suicidal because they want the pain to stop. they may feel like people are better off without them, that no one will miss them, they’re tired of reliving trauma, or they just can’t imagine a future with them in it
- many suicidal people who make it past their expected death don’t know how to continue on in life. if someone has spent the last few years thinking they won’t make it past a certain age, becoming an adult or getting older and having new challenges can be very difficult to handle because they didn’t plan for it. this is why having a therapist or counselor even once they’re out of the direct suicidal thoughts is important
- having someone to cry to and call when you need help is one of the most effective suicide preventers. if a suicidal person thinks they can come to you, please be there for them, it may just save their life
- suicidal people may be living for things you don’t see as important, like tv show or waiting for a new book to come out. don’t shame people for what’s keeping them alive, it’s better than nothing
that’s just the beginning of stuff to know about suicidal people and suicide in general. please call a hotline or text a service if you are in crisis. from personal experience as someone who’s been suicidal, i know how hard it is to pick up that phone, but i promise you someone is there to help
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I actually don't recall ever seeing a positivity post for ppl w ongoing amnesia caused by trauma disorders. I'm not talking just repressed childhood memories, I mean perpetual long-term memory loss. I mean continuing to forget non-traumatic things that happened or ppl you knew a few years or even months ago. I mean struggling to retain any information you're learning if you don't constantly go over the same material over and over again, and losing it all once you stop repeating it
If you have amnesia like me, you matter. We navigate the world a bit differently but that's okay. Just bc our brains are broken doesn't mean we can't live happy and fulfilling lives. Be patient w yourself when learning new things. Surround yourself w compassionate ppl who love to tell you stories abt past exploits you may have forgotten. Also, hey, who else gets to watch a movie for the first time every time? Above all be kind to yourself.
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Narcissistic ≠ Abusive
I might get cancelled or whatever for this, but can we banish the idea that narcissists are always abusive? Like yeah, I know someone irl who is diagnosed NPD and yeah she's pretty abusive, but I also know someone else diagnosed NPD who is quite pleasant to be around.
These sorts of stigmas exist for many disorders, it seems like. People with BPD are known to be emotionally manipulative. Some people with BPD are super toxic. But a lot of them aren't.
It's almost as if everyone in the world follows this model. Some people are abusive and some people aren't. Neurotypicals can be just as toxic and abusive as someone who isn't. Especially if the person they are abusing happens to be neurodivergent.
Stigmas exist for many disorders.
NPD ≠ Abusive
BPD ≠ Manipulative
DID ≠ Murderer
ASPD ≠ Sociopath
Etc etc etc. The really sad part is that oftentimes it's people with these disorders that stigmatize each other. People with DID and BPD will talk about narcissistic abuse. They'll completely demonize people with ASPD. Someone with NPD might call someone who is schizophrenic "crazy." Everyone with DID has likely been asked if they have an "evil alter." I feel like we really all need to work together to end stigma. Because your abuser being neurodivergent does not mean ALL people with that disorder are like that. Not to mention not all abusive people have a disorder. Some people are just bad people and to use an already demonized disorder to try to describe them is just shitty as hell. Stop demonizing already stigmatized disorders. It's abusive and ableist.
-Jules
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"I just want someone to say 'you've done a good thing, now you can rest, just rest.'" Benjamin (2018)
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The book is 1984, which is neither. It's anti-authoritarian, which tells you a lot.
Ya know, sometimes I wish the joke *didn’t* write itself.
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I hope I live long enough to see the children of Palestine, Afghanistan, Iraq and Syria wake up to the sound of birds not bombs
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white lgbt ppl dont know how much trouble theyve caused for us -_-
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white lgbt ppl will constantly have to be informed about racism and nonwhite issues bc they're only ever friends w other white people, speak over lgbt ppl of color when it comes to representation and problems in media, not acknowledge when white supremacy feeds into intracommunity bigotry. and then say things like "the lgbt community shouldn't be at odds with each other! 😤" i don't know if you guys know how big a split there is between you and us at the best of times
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white gays can reblog this if u can keep ur mouth shut