Ungovernable

i cant stand seeing these ppl say shit like "oh but tiktok has opened up the world for so many people!!" "it introduced me to so many amazing friends!!" "the community on tiktok has saved my life!!" you are sitting in your bed staring at your phone for hours not moving and not having a single original thought. you are SHUT OFF from the world. you're avoiding your life. you're not connecting with people or joining a community you're wasting your life watching strangers who you will never meet pretend to live. its sad & pathetic & we deserve better than this sort of existence

oof

I want every sociologist or psychologist to explain to me one thing:

If you truly believe that boys are hardwired to do poorly in school, or that they are several years behind their female classmates because of biological reasons…

Why were they able to outperform female classmates before now?

Boys and men have gone to college, become doctors and judges and politicians and mathematicians for hundreds of years. Thousands, technically.

Why the fuck is it that just now boys are suddenly completely incapable of concentrating in class.

What rapid biological change happened between say 1980 to now that led to a mass deterioration in boys’ ability to succeed in school.

Where did you see contemporary sociologists say that’s due to biology??

By Mary Ruefle

A truly healthy attachment is built on consistent caregiving and connection. Meaning that you become attracted to someone over time when you receive signals of interest, devotion, banter and other forms of connection specific to you. Wherein the other person tries to make you laugh, or tries to do things for you etc. of course there will be a baseline attraction that exists on looks and personality traits independent to that person, ie nothing to do with interaction with you. But from there on, it has to build on the interaction with you.

This is why it is possible imo to be friends with someone you dated or for men to be friends with female friends who are platonic/there is no romantic interest from their side imo. so long as they have a healthy attachment.

The only way that you can be attracted to someone who isn't giving you anything is if you have an unhealthy attachment / view people as a vessel for your fantasies. You project your ideas and fantasies onto them when in reality, they aren't doing anything to signal or attract you in anyway.

This is also why I don't really believe in love at first sight. Most likely people like that have an unhealthy attachment. Sure you can know that there is something special about someone early on. That there might be something different about this person for you. But you will never know that until you go through this song and dance of explicitly expressing interest and doing things for each other that build attraction over time.

Doing everything on this list has truly changed my life for the better

2025

BE A STUDENT OF WHAT YOU ADMIRE

DO IT BADLY RATHER THAN NOT AT ALL

TO DESPAIR IS TO CEDE VICTORY TO THOSE WHO DO NOT DESERVE IT

BROADEN YOUR CULTURAL HORIZONS

REVEL IN THE ANALOGUE

ACTION ABSORBS ANXIETY

GRIEF IS PRODUCTIVE; GUILT IS NOT

One of the common mistakes I see for people relying on "AI" (LLMs and image generators) is that they think the AI they're interacting with is capable of thought and reason. It's not. This is why using AI to write essays or answer questions is a really bad idea because it's not doing so in any meaningful or thoughtful way. All it's doing is producing the statistically most likely expected output to the input.

This is why you can ask ChatGPT "is mayonnaise a palindrome?" and it will respond "No it's not." but then you ask "Are you sure? I think it is" and it will respond "Actually it is! Mayonnaise is spelled the same backward as it is forward"

All it's doing is trying to sound like it's providing a correct answer. It doesn't actually know what a palindrome is even if it has a function capable of checking for palindromes (it doesn't). It's not "Artificial Intelligence" by any meaning of the term, it's just called AI because that's a discipline of programming. It doesn't inherently mean it has intelligence.

So if you use an AI and expect it to make something that's been made with careful thought or consideration, you're gonna get fucked over. It's not even a quality issue. It just can't consistently produce things of value because there's no understanding there. It doesn't "know" because it can't "know".

its been just over a year since i posted this and i still encounter people saying things like "i asked chatgpt and..." or "i made this with chatgpt and...". and these arent like teenagers or students they're adult professionals using this shit for their job. i dont know how people live like this

I don't know how to make this any more clear but if you use ChatGPT to do work you're only hampering yourself.

If you stop using it (or Co-Pilot or any other bullshit AI helper) you will learn and grow more, develop new skills, and become a more valuable employee at work and/or do better at school. There's no shortcut to developing useful skills, you just gotta keep working on it.

2025 is a good number, it’s a quarter of the way through the 20 hundreds and it’s got that nice set of 2s separated by only a 0. not bad. whatever happens this year at least it’ll be happening during a good number 😌

and IT'S A SQUARE. IT'S 45 SQUARED. THE LAST TIME THIS HAPPENED WAS IN 1936 (44 squared) AND IT WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN UNTIL 2116 (46 squared)

It's not just any square, it's the square of a triangle number - 45 = 1 + 2 + 3 + 4 + 5 + 6 + 7 + 8 + 9. (Which is also the sum of all the squares in a Sudoku grid, an inescapable tool if you like to do more mathematically intense sudokus.)

The squares of triangle numbers, also known as Nicomachus numbers, have a very interesting identity - the square of the sum is equal to the sum of the cubes! So we have

The previous Nicomachus year was 1296, and the next is 3025 - and given that the Gregorian calendar wasn't in use until the 16th century, I'm not holding my breath for a second Gregorian Nicomachus year to happen at all.

I don't really fuck with inner child therapy not bcs I don't understand and respect the concept but just bcs I hate the verbiage, like I don't have an inner child, I have wounds that have persisted from childhood - the adult I am is scared, rather than the child I was

I think it's kind of infantilising

Like I think it's weird that you can only acknowledge the way in which trauma has hindered you and other people thought the lens of still being a child, rather than just recognising that childhood is a formative part of life.

If something deeply traumatic happens to you and 35 and irreparably changed how you relate to the world are you going to be 52 saying 'ah it's my inner nearing 40 adult",

I think it's uncompassionate to only be able to recognise the other peoples wounds by viewing them as proxy children. My mother was deeply traumatized as a child but it wasn't her inner child attacking me when I was an actual child it was her fully grown, traumatized, adult self.

I think I only really started healing when I recognised that I was in fact an adult with the power to change things, I still have lots of compassion for other people, but I view them as adults

Wow i just found two new articles with headers that fucking completely misrepresent that wat Michael Moore's recent open letter said:

what the fuck man, are you expecting people not to actually read the rest of the article?

do you think people aren't going to read this part?

fuck off with that, the man is 100% cool with Luigi

don't numb it, nurture it, navigate through it.

Why do they keep accidentally making him look like the coolest person alive don’t they want us to hate him

Why tf are they treating him like they caught osama bin laden 😭

This is exactly what I though too. It's fascinating (in a bad way) how they've created this snake eating its own tail like "why do people care so much about this case" while simultaneously acting like this is the worst crime that's happened since 9/11 and therefore generating even more interest for the case.

J. R. R. Tolkien: no, my books aren't about the war I experienced. It's just a story

J. R. R. Tolkien's works: you cannot go home, war ends entire bloodlines, you are mourning the death of your brother alone, you dug into the earth and permanently scored the land, you cannot explain what you have been through, you cannot go home, "that wound will never fully heal. He will carry it the rest of his life", leaving the women behind does not save them, the young die first, you cannot go home, the parent will bury their child, you have lost the wives and you will never connect with them again, "how shall any tower withstand such numbers and such reckless hate?", you are not the same, you cannot go home, you can never go home, your father will only side with those he sees as worthy bloodlines and you cannot change his mind, it is more meaningful Not to kill, sometimes your sacrifice accomplishes nothing, you cannot go home

James Baldwin: From Another Place (Sedat Pakay, 1973)

parked car conversations are lowkey unofficial therapy sessions.