it’s hard to regain your passion after a burn out. I read someone describe not as re-lighting the old torch, but as crafting a new torch to light, and that is what it feels like! it’s work!

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Fascinating to observe the difference when someone like Huw Edwards associates their transgressions with mental health issues, as compared to the response someone like Meghan Markle gets when her mental health struggles are revealed.

Compassion is conditional, it seems.

The number of pedos and pedo apologists within that circle is worrisome.

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Obviously, I hope that everyone in Ukraine stays safe and Ukrainians deserve all of our support right now but I also wanted to say that my heart goes out to all people in Eastern Europe and Central Asia who have been living with the fear of Russian intervention for years and now see their worst fears come true. I see so many posts about how "we shouldn't worry as Westerners because the war will not affect us directly" and while this is absolutely true, I wanted to take a second to acknowledge those who do have to live with the fear that it might affect them directly. I don't have anything more to offer than words and it's not worth much but if you are from Poland, Estonia, Kazakhstan or any other country close to Russia or Ukraine and you are afraid because you don't know what the current events means for the future of your country, I am with you in thought and sending you a warm hug with this post.

Hate to be that person, but WW3 trend on TikTok is not funny at all, especially your stupid POVs. Because no, Jessica from Chicago, you won’t have to hide in the basement to avoid being nuked and no, Kyle from LA, you won’t get drafted to the front lines. 

You again missed the whole point and managed to make this situation all about yourself, so I’m going to assure your stupid ass - this war is not going to affect you in any way, but you know who it’s going to affect? Actual people from Ukraine, who are going to lose their lives and be displaced from their homes, just like for the past 8 years. 

So congratulations on your stupidity, because it’s not about “I need a way to cope 🥺🥺🥺”, it’s about you celebrating and making fun of other people’s death.

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We are all as informed as we personally choose to be.

I'm gonna say three things, nice and calmly:

1) Not being personally exposed to a prejudice doesn't mean you have a good excuse not to know that prejudice exists.

2) You cannot claim your privilege blinded you to the suffering of other people when it takes two minutes to read the news.

3) Being "posh" doesn't have to equal being ignorant to the suffering of others. I will say it again for the people at the back: We are all as informed as we personally choose to be.

I read your notes and I wanted to say something nice and calmly:

I think the problem with ‘he said something’ as the excuse why you (and the majority of the fandom) are able to comfort yourselves in only having these conversations or post about Harry, is that, that’s not a good enough excuse.

It’s because if anyone’s being attention - silence is violence. So the BRFs silence, well....let’s not forget this isn’t just any white peoples silence, this is a monarch being silent.

Especially when these post feel so....inauthentic. Maybe it’s because I’m surprised to not see the points he should be criticized about but things that Harry didn’t claim excuses his past actions or ignorance. it just feels...odd, weird, uncomfortable, performative (and I know you’re not a performer on these issues, so I hesitate to use that word but this particular action feels performative)...

You have to wonder, are people finally picking apart Harry’s words right now because they care about racism, or because they care about shitting on Harry since they took issues (conscious or not) with him marrying a biracial woman and leaving the institutions with her and his son? Is it because as a working member of the royal family he was allowed to be ignorant with his actions, but since he was silent on racial issues means he got a get out free card from you guys? Why do working members of the BRF get a free pass for benefiting from racism while being silent on it? Not celebrating black history and only celebrating diversity in the most bare basic, no skin in the game, type of statements?

Just like we choose to how informed we can be, we can choose to cherry-pick when to care about racism, and how white people talk about it. It’s uncomfortable to see mostly non-black people have more outrage at Harry’s conversations, than their faves silence & performative action when it comes to this movement. that doesn’t feel genuine, it feels performative. It feels like ‘I’m comfortable with calling out this person, so I’m gonna do that and only that.’ It feels like these call out post about Harry in this fandom 9/10 are made for personal reasons to feel self righteous and be applauded by white woman who have shown to be extremely antiblack and have a high tolerance for it when it comes from their friends or their fave whites, and nonblack PoCs.

Especially because their was things to criticize from that interview, but nothing you listed touches on that. Which is why it kinda feels like this post is just stating the obvious in an attempt to sound ‘woke’ or state something profound. Especially because Harry never said (or in my opinion) came off as ‘sorry guys, I was rich and posh, so I have a perfectly good reason to not know about the suffering BIPOC face.’ It sounded like his reasons/context, not excuses.

Hey!

I'm glad you know I am not performative, as you know I have said very clearly and loudly on here that my role in these conversations is as a white person, and therefore I must listen to people, such as yourself, who have experienced these issues on a personal, painful level.

This is where my thinking came from. The basic fact here is that in that interview, Harry used the privilege of his upbringing to explain away his blindness, whilst also telling us that "ignorance isn't an excuse." Those two statements cannot exist comfortably side by side without Harry taking some responsibility for his earlier ignorance, which he didn't. If he had said "like many in privileged positions, I should have done more to inform myself," I would have heartedly applauded him for his honesty and insight. Sadly, he didn't take the opportunity to rise to the occasion (again, like many members of the BRF before him who have fallen at such hurdles).

Harry also made reference to the fact that his witnessing of Meghan's experience opened his eyes to unconscious bias. Now, I say this very carefully, knowing it may not be my place to say so: it shouldn't have been on Meghan to show Harry what people of colour experience, he should have been able to learn that outside of that up-close experience. I completely get that marrying Meghan would have added a whole new perspective to his life, but it shouldn't have been the first educative experience he had. That means he went over 30 years, 30 years of meeting people from all walks of life, not knowing about the huge issue in our society. That's... Worrying.

Harry shares his Achellies' Heel with many, many other members of the BRF- he fails to align his own behaviour with the behaviour he expects to see in others. He does it when he takes private planes and tells us to watch our carbon emissions. He does it when he talks about conservation but is happy to shoot animals for sport. If I were close to him, I would say to him, as a friend, that he needs to consider how his values align with his own actions, and perhaps challenge him to recognise how privilege has affected both.

I certainly don't want to fall out over this or come across as offensive or performative, but Harry, I know, is capable of much more than these kind of comments. I live in hope we will see it.

‘And no one's blaming anybody. That's the way that I look at it. No one's pointing the fingers. You can't really point fingers, especially when it comes to unconscious bias. But once you realise or you feel a little bit uncomfortable, then the onus is on you to go out and educate yourself, because ignorance is no longer an excuse. And unconscious bias, from my understanding, having the upbringing and the education that I had, I had no idea what it was. I had no idea it existed. And then, sad as it is to say, it took me many, many years to realise it, especially then living a day or a week in my wife's shoes.’ - Prince Harry

I’m assuming this is the quote you’re speaking about. I don’t see explaining away. I see explaining away as ‘ignorance isn’t an excuse BUT, here’s my excuse.’ I didn’t read that.

I read you’re uncomfortable, don’t take that as a sign to step back or get offended, but educate yourself. Then, him bringing he never learned about unconscious bias in his upbringing or education, but until after. He’s talking about his own ignorance and when he finally began to break past them. That doesn’t feel like excuses, but a very summarized version of his enlightening moment that all white people have. Harry doesn’t say this in a way that puts it on Meghan’s shoulders to educate him, but regret that, it took ‘many, many years’ and through seeing Meghan experiences, to start getting the full weight of it all.

Harry did speak about unconscious bias last year so I don’t think this should read as something just hitting him this year.

So I see valid points in your points - like, your upbringing and posh privilege doesn’t excuse him not taking the time to educate himself and not be actively racist - but I don’t see any validity in saying Harry uses his upbringing and education to excuse his ignorance. It’s a fact - unless we have evidence otherwise - that his upbringing and education would be a part of that ignorance, besides the other major factor: Harry soaking it up and allowing it to shape him into a rich, racist white boy until, ‘many, many years’ later. Both are true and both should be spoken about.

Him saying that I don’t think is placing blame elsewhere, and I don’t think it’s a reason to baby him like others do.

This is something I do appreciate about Harry’s conversations around racism lately. He doesn’t act as if he’s not right there with all the white folks doing the work and need too. He’s explicit including himself with the group that needs to tear the system down and rebuild it. He’s not talking about it as someone who is past it, but is in the process of learning and acting.

That’s what I have an issue with I think with your post and ones similar. There’s this behavior that you’re speaking down to him. Like they’re coming from a place they’re the ‘good’ or ‘better’ white. To be clear- no one in this fandom is above Harry or better than Harry when it comes to the topic of unpacking their racism - and only that specific topic.

I remember Sam Smith tweeting something five years ago about how racism is alive and it’s awful. Now this tweet came about because he saw his friend attacked for racial motivations - can’t remember if it was with words or physically - and he was dragged by black people. Because it was like, you’re just realizing that….? You have all these black friends, connections, and interactions and it took you seeing explicit racism in front of your white eyes to realize how bad it is?

That question and resentment can be applied to Harry, your post and others like it. Because it is all white privilege. It is the privilege to discover a white man doing charity work doesn’t equate to understanding racism. It’s the privilege of not understanding unconscious bias until your wife experienced it from your people.

It’s a privilege that still leaves me shocked. And resentful people can actually have that. Especially seeing it from people who either didn’t give a lot of effort to correcting the antiblackness, or didn’t start to truly give a fuck about the racism (whether in terms of Meghan or the antiblackness within this fandom , of antiblackness/racism in general) until black people started dying.

You’re by far one of three white women in this fandom who has taken the time in the last few months to speak to Black women, listen, and use your platform to share black voices. But I don’t think you or anyone here should be mistaken when it comes to the topic of racism, especially white people and racism, they’re above and beyond Harry. The last three years of silence, brushing aside, shrugging off, if not actively actively being a part of the racist abuse - whether explicit or micro - proves that the Cambridge/BRF fandom is not above needing to see black pain - whether in a personal setting or on their TV screens being murdered, or ran out of a country - to finally step back and say whoa, racism like real, real bad. And even then, most of them just shrugged their shoulders and continued to be racist/antiblack.

And you don’t have to be better than Harry in terms of anti-racism work, but sometimes it feels like white & non-black PoCs lean on Harry to be the big bad white, that phew, they’re better than and can lecture about how to not be racist, when they’re not.

So it will always leave a sour taste in most black mouths here when we see these harry posts, not because he’s the woke white, way, but because of the messengers and the tone.

As far as Meghan, I agree. I don’t agree (and I think that’s what you’re suggesting) he doesn’t get how bad that is. I think his delivery and words conveyed the opposite, that he does get how fucked up that is. I think I’m just shocked so many non-Black people are just figuring out how worrying that is. Harry, like his white counterparts in the BRF, have only had relations with black people (other than the few and far between) when they’re doing charity work with them.

Now that you (and hopefully others) realize that, I hope you take that worrying thought to not just Harry, but the working royals who continue to be silent about racism while directly benefiting from it.

Idk, I just shake my head, get that kick up of resentment that this is so shocking and astounding to people. It’s like when people make fun of Harry’s statements about climate change, just being so awe-struck that the world is dying, and whatever else. Like it hasn’t been for decades and him and his family and many of their friends are a lot of the rich and powerful doing a majority of the damage to the planet.

That’s what I feel like when I hear statements shocked and awed from long-time royal watchers Harry is just finding out about how bad racism is now. Even though he did a bunch of charity work for black people. He’s never shown growth up until the last few years, in terms of anti racist work. Because first off, when did white people doing charity for black people help them understand racism, rather than embolden their racism and superiority complexes? This is where people’s environment and education might explain (but not excuse) why this can all be a ‘whoa’ to them now, but it never was for say, Black women.

Idk, it’s like a train of white people all shocked by the timetable of when other white began to understand the magnitude of racism & antiblackness.

Working in charity, or doing Charity work with communities of color has never equated to understanding or emphasizing with systemic racism for white people. Unfortunately that’s a case by case kinda thing.

It’s probably why a lot of us are past the shock and awe someone can be rich, royal, do charity work with PoCs, and be ignorant, and it took him seeing it firsthand from someone who he loved & respected, and stepping out of an environment that has never adjusted itself to be a safe environment for PoCs. It’s probably why we’re able to appreciate Harry has shown a ton of growth this year alone, in terms of racism.

I will say, Harry’s actions align with his message. He’s talking about it. He’s using platforms, and his own, to spotlight black voices. From the movement to entertainment. I hope we see more things from him, and I think we will. Harry and Meghan have continued to make this part of their conversation even when the hashtags died down.

I respect you. It’s why I want to have a discussion with you. I think it’s especially important to talk about these different view points about the same statement. And acknowledge why these kind of post can rub some fans the wrong way. Thanks for the open discussion! ❤️

I enjoy and like both of the people in this conversation so I’m glad to see a really honest discussion going on for once <3 

He is stepping towards the right direction.He is evolving positively.That's good news, that's "go Harry".

This very lovely conversation has made me want to present a slightly different point of view. I do believe every person has blinds spots regarding certain topics because of the circumstances of their lives. This is not an excuse for ignorance but an acknowledgement that even when we know something is bad (like racism) it takes us time away from our bubble to understand the subtleties that exists in that aggression.

When Harry was young, he put on a nazi custom and no one in his inner circle thought it was a bad idea before he went out in public. Not one person from his life thought it was a bad idea for him to go out like that. That doesn’t excuse, but explains a lot of how he was able to believe putting that outfit as “joke” was ok. After that, he apologized and started on his own journey of understanding plights outside of his own bubble. He has done the work. No one can say he hasn’t. He is also someone that until Meghan, did the work but never lived the experience that can truly change a perspective.

I am a Biracial Latina from a small island in the Caribbean. I was raised in an abnormally progressive household and even with a clear racial identity and upbringing like mine, it took me 42 years to actually see and acknowledge some of my unconscious bias regarding race, gender and sexuality. What bothers me about the posts that complain about Harry’s shortcomings is that they never want to acknowledge that we never stop learning and that all our choices are informed by our lived experiences and the paths we take to unlearn things depends a lot on what affects us directly. Is that right? Of course not but it is a reality for many of us and those of us doing the work can also understand certain personal interests will not only inform but dictate our choices.

The use of private planes is always brought up to point hypocrisy in Harry specially ,but we also have to acknowledge that his use of private planes in this specific moment in life has more to do with the safety of his family than mere privilege and not acknowledging that it’s a disservice to all the work he has done for conservation. No one could ever be the perfect advocate because circumstances will always exist for one to make personal choices to safeguard their own life. I believe in climate change but I can/won’t give up meat or dairy so I make other choices that offset what I’m not willing to give up. Harry faces security issues we will never truly know so he flies private sometimes and offsets that choice in other ways and I don’t think that takes away his right to “preach” about the issue.

In terms of racism he has obviously grown a lot and learned a lot but information given to you will never have the same impact as living an experience, and each experience will open you to a different perspective that you were blind too and that is what unconscious bias is. In my own personal experience, I can give you a clear example: I always thought of myself as a supporter of Trans rights, but last year for medical reasons I had to have a full hysterectomy and In the aftermath I felt less of a woman! Realizing that, made me take a second look at myself and made me dive into research I was never interested in and made me acknowledge some unconscious bias I had to work on

. For Harry having a Biracial wife be abused by the media and not defended by his family and a son who at 2 days old was compared to a chimpanzee obviously changed the way he saw things because those were things he never expected or even truly believe could happen.

Personally his GQ conversation only showed his willingness to learn and to acknowledge that he is still a work in process and that should be celebrated. Obviously, this is just my opinion

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