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New research by Just Like Us has found that lesbians are the most likely of the whole LGBTQ+ community to be supportive of trans people. Lesbians are the most likely to say they know a trans person (92%), and also the most likely to say they are “supportive” or “very supportive” of trans people (96%). That’s compared to 89% of LGBTQ+ people overall, and just 69% of non-LGBTQ+ people.

The research was independently conducted and surveyed more than 3,600 adults aged 18-25. Even within a group of young adults, who would be expected to be more supportive of trans people, lesbians are still incredibly strong trans allies relative to the rest of the LGBTQ+ community.

But there are other reasons that the idea that lesbians are more likely to be anti-trans doesn’t add up. One is that being a lesbian and being trans are not mutually exclusive – sexual orientation and gender are different parts of our identities. You can be trans and a lesbian.

Secondly, as a lesbian, I see so much overlap with the experiences we and trans communities encounter in the heterosexist world we live in. Particularly, as a butch lesbian, I know that we are both used to living in the margins, to not having our identities respected or understood. Lesbians and trans people stand side by side – we always have done and always will. And this isn’t just my opinion, the research shows this is the case too.

So when you hear or read a nasty, false stereotype about lesbians being anti-trans, I hope you’ll be able to see it for what it is: a lesbopobic trope.

notice that this dumbass article makes zero mention of “transmisogyny”, only transphobia in general

moreover, while the Survey data isn’t linked (always a good sign), none of the quoted results make any attempt to distinguish cis lesbian attitudes towards trans women and transfems specifically from their attitudes towards trans men, transmascs, and nonbinary people who are not transfem. there is zero acknowledgement, using the word “transmisogyny” or otherwise, that cis lesbians might treat trans women much differently from how they treat trans men

which makes this part especially funny:

if the idiot who wrote this cared so very much about trans lesbians, maybe she would have noticed our (trans lesbians’) criticisms of cis lesbians specifically being hostile to trans women even while being supportive (or “supportive”) of trans men, transmascs, and nonbinary people who are not targeted by transmisogyny. many of us have had exactly this experience with cis lesbians who are supportive of trans men and transmascs in the sense of construing them as Female-Adjacent—or outright deem them to be Confused Lesbians who have just lost their way—whereas they view trans women as Predatory and Male-Socialized

for an example of a study which actually distinguishes between attitudes toward trans women and trans men, there’s Blair & Hoskin (2018), Transgender exclusion from the world of dating: Patterns of acceptance and rejection of hypothetical trans dating partners as a function of sexual and gender identity, doi:10.1177/0265407518779139

(in the table below, Exclusionary indicates “no trans people at all”; Congruent means inclusive of trans people in a way that’s consistent with being Straight/Gay/Bi and the respondent’s own gender; Incongruent means there’s inconsistency, such as e.g. bi people not including trans women, or lesbians including trans men)

notice that among those surveyed, 71% of lesbians were exclusionary to all trans people, but 19.8% of lesbians were “inclusive” to trans men, while only 9% were inclusive of trans women. cis lesbians were twice as likely to view trans men as prospective partners than they were for trans women

my point in citing this study isn’t even about dating: this is just a single facet of how many cis lesbians view trans men and trans women in general. if you aggregate the attitudes of cis lesbians toward trans men and trans women together, you’re just using cis lesbians’ affinity for trans men to cover up their stance toward trans women

the allusion to butch lesbians being particularly incapable of transmisogyny is also really funny:

there are literally butch meetup/support groups that are explicitly AFAB-Only lmao—not even just that they always happen to push out trans women, which is the more common pattern, I mean that they explicitly do not allow trans women:

the Organizer of this group, Lane, has been an on-the-ground organizer for TERF causes for years and years. like many transmisogynists, he conceptualizes trans men and butches as both just being Very GNC Females, while he despises trans women. there are many transmisogynists who are GNC women, or whose Gender Is Lesbian, etc. there are also transmisogynists who are transmasc or trans men

“we’re both marginalized” doesn’t mean being incapable of transmisogyny, especially when it’s being used as an excuse to not confront transmisogyny

as a disclaimer, the states of our communities vary widely by national context as well as local conditions: most of my comments here are focused on the first world and anglosphere. but that’s not the disambiguation that this article is getting at.

a better article could acknowledge progress that has been made at countering transphobia and transmisogyny in our communities, while also acknowledging that they both persist, especially transmisogyny. a better article could actually engage with the criticisms trans lesbians have levied at transmisogyny among cis lesbians specifically, while also engaging with transmisogyny among cis bi women and gay/bi men

but all this article does is paper over how differently trans men and trans women can be treated by the exact same people: the equivalent of plugging your ears and repeating “you just hate lesbians” when a trans lesbian talks about her experiences with cis lesbians

lastly

“as a lesbian who isn’t a trans woman, I haven’t experienced cis lesbians being transmisogynistic, so it must just be a Lesbiphobic myth!”....lmfao. this is so fucking stupid it would be funny if it weren’t so typical

this article is still being posted/linked elsewhere by insufferable cis lesbians (and otherwise transmisogyny-exempt lesbians) eager to pat themselves on the back about how they’ve totally never met a transmisogynistic cis lesbian in their entire lives, and that everyone who criticizes transmisogyny among cis lesbians is just being Sooooo Lesbiphobic™ :(

cis/TME lesbians are so committed to plugging their ears and crying “Lesbiphobia” instead of acknowledging (let alone combating) each other’s transmisogyny

(the OP here retracted the post, apologized, and deleted the original upload shortly after I responded to it, Do Not go bother her)

Another random late night outfit; this dress is legit my nightgown but I thought I’d try styling it in my usual goth way :)

This night gown I thrifted off depop, brand is The One 4 U lol; corset is Amazon and boots once again are demonia.

;) the necklace is thrifted too

Have to show off the bow you know lol

this is so upsetting, PLEASE rb to spread awareness

PLEASE, PLEASE REBLOG THIS, WHETHER YOURE JEWISH OR NOT.

THIS IS A SUPER IMPORTANT PART OF OUR HISTORY, DONT LET IT GET DESTROYED.

perhaps help take steps to stop them now from future attempts...

this is peak trans culture because this would have been easier with very nearly any other guitar design but she just haaad to use one shaped like the letter e. Not afraid of a challenge. Respect.

I would like to add that their name is E, literally just the letter E, like they’re in a spy movie. As if that wasn’t cool enough already she went and got a guitar shaped like her name. Fucking icon.

19

i am 19, an extinguished fire too kind when i ought not to be too complacent with the heaviness of grief and today i couldn't kill the cricket i found in the hallway. i admit, i do not dance like my mother wanted, & i am not even a tenth as cool as my father was at my age. and car rides make me drowsy, and my silence makes people fight.

i am 19, and everyone i love has undergone a metamorphosis of sorts. flesh & breath & blood now compartmentalized into little icons, 128x128, on this screen. you ask me to picture their faces and it takes me a moment. i live in a world that is pixelating by the hour and one day i am afraid i'll be 24 and forget how to use my brain and mouth – and whether that's a result of my own transformation into a human-shaped statistic or Good Old Fashioned Growing Up, My Friend! only time will tell.

i am 19 and a fool because i always hold on when i ought to let go. i know the last names of all my old classmates i see their faces in my dreams and they never age, and i have never learned how to get over everything that happened. my veins ache with memories of old medicine my hair grows quick & earnest as if one day i'll change my mind. and i miss everyone i've ever known every day. i have a canine sort of loyalty to the idea that there is a God because when he strikes you down, really makes you feel that hard, divine rage of his, at least you know he's there. cares about you enough to make you suffer. but there are less rules here in the world than you think, and God only made the world because he was lonely. remember that the next time you turn 16. 17. 18 years old.

one day i will find it in me to bite through this collar and leash and go so far and so fast for so long that i end up outrunning myself, leaving behind only my shadow on the concrete as proof i was there and maybe once i've learned to disobey and bark and yell and scream and use my fucking teeth for once and stick these spotless cuspids into every damn vein in the Hand of God, maybe that's what it'll take for this to feel real. 19 and on fire, someday soon.

tumblr stop fucking with my formatting, i had to screenshot from my notes app :/

anyways, i love what op wrote so much that when i went to repost, i immediately started a response

this is insane this is like. crazy. oh my god. i love this so much oh my god

so, this is something i've noticed in fandom spaces and want to see how people ~generally~ feel regarding genderbends & genderswaps, especially if they are transgender themselves!

if there's a reason for why you like/dislike genderbends please share in the tags, this is something that genuinely interests me

Please??

They look as if they will either destroy each other in a world-ending battle or band together to take over the land.

Her name is zim, yes, the zim from invader zim

His name is Carbon, as in Carbon based life form. Their bond is unbreakable now.

Butterscotch.

Her name is Evie

"you cant get married platonically, marriage is about LOVE and COMMITMENT" yeah love for the bit commitment to the bit

its been an hour and a half and this has 800 notes can you understand my pain

"do you take this person to be your partner, to have and to hold, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, until death do you part?"

"yes, and..."

HERE WE GO MOTHERFUCKERS

CAST CAST NOW CAST NOW DO NOT HESITATE CAST FUCKING NOW

MANIFESTING

MANIFESTING

PLEASE LET THIS EVIL CHEETO BE DUMB ENOUGH TO PULL A GUN ON THE COPS. PLEASE. LET HIM GET TAZED ENOUGH SO THAT IT WOULDN'T KILL A NORMAL PERSON BUT IT KILLS HIM BECAUSE HE HAD SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIS HEART THAT NOBODY KNEW ABOUT. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

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For all your dnd purposes

Here’s a site that has literally every official (and most UA) dnd stuff

including the books and campaigns

and you can add homebrew

Hey rb this!!!

Guys don’t share this kinda thing people may use it to get access to the dnd source books for free instead of paying for them. This is extremely dangerous for the flawless company that wizards of the coast is.

i know what happened to jesus i was there

christians keep telling me he died for my sins when i already Know what he died for. he died because he uhh. [looks at smudged handwriting] got railed on a cross

self-flagellation and self-bullying are all bad motivators for change BTW. it can be hard to escape from a spiral but genuinely u have to be nice to urself or nothing will change

you have to take care of yourself and not punch yourself down because you feel like you 'deserve it'. if you feel like the world is against you, you should at least be on your own side while you work through things.

we love when studies confirm shit we already know 🥳🥳🥳

(me on a first date) and what do you think of the inherent intimacy of surgery? have you considered the love someone must have to put their hands under your skin and hold the most grotesque parts of you and put them back together nicely? is anyone really closer to you than that? we all get uh a little enamored on the surgery table don't we haha. wait come back

game companies should be fucking EMBARRASSED about being inaccessible. it should be mortifying to ship a game with shit captions or no UI scaling options or no option to disable flashing / strobing effects. games lauding their character customization should be laughingstocks for not including hearing aids or congenital disorders or prosthetic limbs. EA should be publicly fucking humiliated for the sims series being 23 goddamn years old and include cats and dogs and horses and werewolves and zombies and mermaids and star wars and not FUCKING WHEELCHAIRS.