“No matter how attractive a person’s potential may be, you have to date their reality.”

• Figure out what you want out of this reset. Everyone's journey is different. I personally want to get back to where I was, you could want to turn a new page after heartbreak, or you could want to completely abandon your old life and your old self and start from the beginning. Everyone's going to have different needs, identify them.
• Reflect on your current situation
• Figure out exactly which areas of your life that you've neglected, and find out why
• Identify bad habits you want to get rid of
• Identify your triggers
• Try to get a clear idea of where you want to be at the end of winter (this is going ti be different for everyone)
• Notice if anything's been bothering you lately (do you seem to have less energy, are you forgetting things easily, that sort of thing)
• Remember good habits/ routines you had implemented but now no longer engage in
• Identify the situations/ people/ events/ habits that do not serve you, and let go of them
• If it does not make you feel good, it has no place in your life
• Find out which situations/ trauma remain unresolved, and sit with yourself for while and try to work them. Feel free to reach out to someone if needed.
• Shadow work is perfect for this!!
• Get crystal clear on who you are as an individual, what you stand for, what you believe in, what you like, what you dislike, etc. get to know yourself!
• re-examine your goals and re-focus if needed

• Get back on your diet (if you were on one like keto, paleo, Mediterranean, intermittent fasting, plant-based, etc.)
• This time of year I find that people tend to eat heavier, more sugary meals, I for one am guilty, and they tend to upset my gut. I would recommend you find out which foods make you feel bad/ sluggish/ heavy/ nauseous/ bloated/ etc. and limit them
• Now is a great time to go on a water fast if you're experienced with fasting
• Try to walk and dance more
• If you've stopped working out, ease your way back into it, starting with once a week, twice a week, etc until you're back at your regular pace.
• Swap out your usual routine for something less intense (walking instead of running, lighter weights, etc.)
• Get your blood tested!!! check your vitamin D, B12 and iron levels
• Tea has so many benefits and will keep you warm!

• clarifying treatments
• henna masks
• hair masks in general
• get a trim or look into dusting if you want to maintain your length
• ACV rinses are great
• Give your hair a break from relaxers, heat, bleach, etc.

• How to smell good from head to toe, AKA my scent routine
• Also, figure out if you have BO and try to get rid of it (I can make a post on this!)

• Give yourself a social media detox, whatever that looks like for you (take a break/ edit your followers and following lists/ completely delete/ deactivate your account/ only use social media on your laptop/ use extensions to limit your social media usage/ only for 30 minutes a day/ etc. figure out what works best for you and what you need)
• Cut out toxic people from your life and people who do not make you feel good
• Find out what drains your energy (people, places, situations, social media, listening to too much music with harmful lyrics, partying, gossiping, etc.)
• Get clear on your personal values
• Get clear on your personal boundaries (in relationships, friendships, at work/ school, mental boundaries as well)
• Identify any self-sabotaging or people pleasing behaviour
• Let go and detach yourself from anything that does not serve
• Release shame
• Forgive yourself
• Recognize and stop comparison
• Get clear on what you will and will not tolerate
• Place some rules on yourself and your life, if you find yourself going down a slippery path (I will not vape, I will not entertain a man just because I'm bored, I'm will not gossip, etc.)
• Work on getting eight hours of sleep
• Journal to organize your thoughts
• Once again, shadow work!!!
• Go on a dopamine detox
• Recognize red flags in relationships, friendships, work place, etc.
• Recognize your own red flags and work on them
• Give yourself closure if you need to
• Vent to a friend who is willing to help
• Remove yourself from harmful situations
• Choose to be happy
• Reconnect with old friends
• Smiling is an instant mood booster
• Work on your insecurities
• practice intentional kindness, to yourself and others
• Speaking of, self-compassion is so so important during this journey
• Find your comfort shows/ movies/ food for fun
• appreciate and find joy in the little things
• Work on any traumas you may have (childhood, generational, relationships, friendships, etc.)
• Identify unhealthy patterns in your life
• Recognize what your grateful for
• Recognize the areas in your life where you have improved, things your proud of yourself for, no mater how small
• Heal energetic cords
• Choose to put things behind you and to move on
• Be intentional with everything, with your healing, with your emotions, with your thoughts and your actions
• Journal for self-reflection
• celebrate small victories
• Positive self talk in the mirror is life-changing
• Find out what fulfill you
• Let go of limiting beliefs
• make your self and your wellbeing a priority
• Remind yourself of moments life has been kind to you
• Focus on healing
• Stop caring about other people's judgements of you
• learn to control your emotions and reactions

• Now is a great time for any of your usual reset rituals
• Spend time with people you leave you feeling good
• Do something nice for someone
• Yoga + meditation for new beginnings
• Practice LOA, whatever that means for you
• Get back on track with your studying
• revisit and relearn old skills
• Do small things that make you happy (baking brownies, buying flowers, painting your nails, etc.)
• Explore your city!! there are so many fun things to do
• Consider taking a trip somewhere
• Buy yourself a symbolic piece of jewellery
• Asses your money habits
• Make any and all lifestyle changes necessary
• Work on reimplementing any good habits/ routines back into your life
• Get enough sleep!!
• Go out in nature! it's so healing
• make plans for days when you are not feeling so great