i’m a girl like bob dylan was a girl when he sang house of the risin’ sun
shoplifting is part of tranny culture. it's our heritage. it should be protected under the first amendment.
For those with homes built to keep heat in, not let it out: aluminum foil your windows, shiny side out. Cover the window, tape up the sides, maybe tape cardboard behind it to help insulate from the heat outside and absorb heat that gets through the foil.
Love, a former Californian, whose had to keep houses cool without any electricity.
P.S. this is a method endorsed by FEMA and the Department of Energy, so if you need more than anecdotal evidence, there ya go.
I do this up in the PNW and it really helps during heat waves. So much.
Ok I'm just gonna say it, a phone is a tool for neurodivergent, social, and sensory processing issues. Yes it's important to have non-screen time and yes blah blah blah tech can be bad and social media can be worse but I'm also tired of people acting like phones are the devil. Being able to interact with people via tech means I can still have actual interaction and relationships while at a distance. My phone keeps me from being both under and overstimulated. I have a constant need to stim and have some kind of input for my brain, but like, fidget toys and crafts aren't always satisfying enough nor do I always have the physical capacity to do crafts. If I need space to myself to decompress before sensory overload turns me into a Huge Bitch? Phone. Creates a nice little bubble to Do Stuff while unbothered. Not to mention the dozen additional reasons related to physical disability why being able to do so much on a device is useful and enriching. I used to feel so bad about my amount of screen time but honestly? Nah.
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Solidarity Summer is well and truly ramping up. AS IT FUCKING SHOULD.
And another one! 📢
Barnes and Noble booksellers are working on forming a union as well!
Their flagship store and New York has unionized along with 3-4 other stores! This is happening! People are tired of being seen as dollar signs and being made to work just to get to work more, to survive instead of thrive. Keep it UP.
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Anonymous asked:
Hey if you're not physically disabled and just ND, please don't say "cr*ppling," or any variations thereon, since it's ableist toward physically disabled people. "Disabling," and "incapacitating," are two better words to use instead.
(It took me a while to figure it out; anon was bothered by this post.)
Okay, sure, I’ll try to do that. That said, I want to encourage people engaged in anti-ableism efforts that take the form of asking people not to use certain words to put their energies elsewhere. Firstly, I think they make the disability advocacy community inaccessible to a lot of people, since having to relearn which words are “allowed” is overwhelming and particularly difficult for people who have limited access to words in the first place.
Secondly, every time I’ve seen this implemented it…hasn’t made anyone less ableist? People who scrupulously remove “crazy” from their vocabulary in favor of “irrational” still treat the people they’re talking about like unpersons. Often the recommended replacement words are just as good at suggesting “less valuable person” as the words they replaced. I think there’s some value in asking “does our use of words surrounding disability to mean ‘bad thing’ come from a place of treating disabled people like tragedies?” and often it does, but that doesn’t mean that challenging that mindset is as easy as changing out the words. Thirdly, I think it emphasizes the wrong concerns. I saw a newspaper headline the other day saying “the president’s plan will be a crippling blow to the economy” and one about the “crippling burden of student debt”. I’d think that the fact the president’s plan includes making it harder to get SSI, or the fact disabled students are way less likely to graduate and likelier to end up in debt, is a much more urgent problem than the turn of phrase used in the headline.
Lastly, it seems like the anti-words advocacy often pretends at a false consensus in disability activism. There are physically disabled people who are bothered by that newspaper headline and those who are not. There are mentally ill people who are bothered by use of crazy and some who couldn’t care less. But no one ever says “hey, that word bothers me personally because people have used it to be mean to me”, they say “it’s ableist towards physically disabled people,” as if all physically disabled people agree on this (or as if the ones who disagree are just obviously confused poor souls and don’t merit a mention). “There are physically disabled people who dislike the phrase ‘crippling anxiety’ and there are physically disabled people who don’t care and there are physically disabled people who have, themselves, described their anxiety as crippling” is much more accurate, but less compelling.
Not to mention how constantly making previously common words or terms into ‘bad’ ones discriminates against older members of all kinds of communities, from queer people to disabled folks. So they suddenly become the enemies of younger community members over the use of words rather than behavior.
But yeah, treating any group like a monolith is a bad idea.
I’m 40 years old. This is relevant because in my lifetime, I have seen multiple renaming/rebranding efforts to find words that are not as hurtful to disabled people.
And each and every one of them failed. Within a very short time of going mainstream, the words that were supposedly neutral and less pejorative became, in practice, every bit as nasty and horrible as the word they replaced.
This is called the euphemism treadmill.
Why? Simple.
If someone thinks a group of people are scum who shouldn’t exist, and you tell that person “please don’t use [old word] for that group, use [new word] instead” you have not actually changed their mind about the group they hate one bit. They still think they’re scum who shouldn’t exist! It’s just now they have two words that mean “scum who shouldn’t exist,” [old word] and [new word]. There is no vocabulary change that will make them think about the group they hate any differently. You can shame them into not publicly discriminating (if you have the social buy-in from other people) and sometimes, sometimes if you have a relationship with someone you can over time influence them to be less hateful*, but just changing the word they use does absolutely nothing.
*If you want to work to change peoples’ perspective, the Hidden Brain podcast has an excellent episode on how to handle conflict that touches on “how can you influence people who disagree with you to move their position closer to yours.” Relationships 2.0: How To Keep Conflict From Spiraling
So while I try not to use words that will hurt people (because knowingly hurting people is a jerk move), I also don’t put that much effort into policing mine or other peoples’ language. Because there are so many other things that are more important to spend my time and energy on.
frankly the harder my disabilities are hitting me the more appreciation i have for the word ‘crippling’
honestly, the ableist word stuff makes me so angry nowadays.
Which. Historical context.
I cannot prove this, but I am about 90% sure that the way we talk about ableist words and ableist language has strong roots in the Ableist Word Profile series run by FWD, a blog by feminists with disabilities that ran 2009-2011. I was hanging around there from the start, guest-posted once, and not only was it the first time I had ever seen anyone call out the ableist underpinnings of some common terms like that, I remember it taking off wildly from there through the social justice sphere even at the time. By now it’s gd everywhere, but hey, things do start somewhere.
At this point I would like to quote the bloggers who contributed to the column:
Here’s what this series is about: Examining word origins, the way in which ableism is unconsciously reinforced, the power that language has. Here’s what this series is not about: Telling people which words they can use to define their own experiences, rejecting reclamatory word usage, telling people which words they can and cannot use. You don’t necessarily have to agree that a particular profiled word or phrase is ableist; we ask you to think about the way in which the language that we use is influenced, both historically and currently, by ableist thought.
It was never about saying “these words are bad, don’t use them”. Nor was it ever the main focus of the blog. I’d ballpark estimate that it was less than 5% of the overall posts. And my friends, there was so much cool stuff on there, media criticism, awareness raising, intersectionality guest posts, information on web accessibility, so many incisive thought-provoking posts that stuck with you. The site’s still up, you can check them out.
Even back in 2010, people noticed that there was a… weird imbalance… in exactly which of those incisive thought-provoking posts were getting spread more widely and which stayed consigned to a smaller readership. Anna’s post Why Writing about Language Isn’t Enough is still absolutely worth a read over a decade later:
And yet, when trying to have discussions about ableist language, we’re back to the silo of disability. Instead of talking about ableist language as part of the manifestation of the disdain and abuse of people with disabilities, it’s treated as isolated – the problem, instead of a symptom of the problem.
Ableism is not simply a language problem.
and yet, and yet, of that amazing blog, the thing that seems to have made the absolute most impact in the social justice sphere in the long run is… language.
and not even in the nuanced, let’s examine how ableism influences our language historically and today, way it was intended as. In the incredibly reductive “hey, these are Bad words, use these Good words instead” way that the original bloggers actively wanted to prevent. The way that can make spaces hostile to non-native English speakers, people with specific verbal or cognitive disabilities or some people with OCD. The way that is both incredibly punitive and, at the same time, has ceded such important ground in the fight - oh, it’s a simple replacement, say Y instead of X, it’s just that the etymology is ableist you see, it’s that the word is triggering. It’s not like you need to worry that the concept you are trying to express in and of itself might have ableist underpinnings. no need to think about it that deeply.
ableism is just a language problem, don’t you know.
Even the goddamn web accessibility stuff hasn’t gone big to the same point, and that contained some serious low-hanging fruit for improvement. But I’m not sure I’ve ever seen someone be publicly berated for no image descriptions, no subtitles on video, or non-descriptive link text the way people get over language. and when’s the last time I saw someone talk about whether a website was screen-reader accessible.
But really. Every time I see the “X word is ableist, don’t use it” it’s like I’m seeing the horrible bastardized knock-off version of the beautiful work my friends and community put so much of themselves into back then. And yeah. It makes me angry.
what. I heard chemical sunscreens were the scam.
mineral sunscreens are at best lying to the public and at worst actively harming its users. mineral suncreens have a problem with formula texture and will often recommend people use a "pea sized" amount of sunscreen to combat this, which is not Nearly enough and result in people being inadequately protected from the sun while convinced that they are. mineral sunscreens also dodge regulations and use misleading language when promoting their products (like saying theyre 100% chemical free when they use zinc oxide, a chemical. oops!) and will even use unsafe ingredients in their products in an attempt to avoid "chemicals". chemical ingredients are highly regulated and very specific about how much youre legally allowed to use because there have been tests done about risk and its been tested over and over. ironically enough, some mineral suncreens are actually hybrid sunscreens (its almost like you need ~Chemicals~ in order to create literally anything) and will still market themselves as being Clean and Chemical Free while literally containing the same ingredients as the brands theyre bashing!
mineral sunscreens are by and large capitalizing off of people's fears surrounding their health and risking people's lives to do it. this is not to say that omg my chemical sunscreens are my precious babies free of criticism, but mineral sunscreens are not the saviors of the reefs nor your skin and if you want to be protected you need to have more than a pea sized amount on your face!
took a minute to find the video i wanted to send but here is a good breakdown
the thing about anti-kink people ive found is that they would rather cut off their tongues than discuss subs who get off on being slapped around and degraded. literally they are incapable of discussing kink without making the entire thing about evil doms hurting their subs so they can get off. idk maybe it's related to how they can't make an argument that doesn't deprive subs/women of autonomy over their own desires & the ability to knowingly consent to kink. because that is their one fucking argument
^ example of "their only argument is that women shouldn't have autonomy over their sex lives and can't consent"
The Enlightened Radfems have deemed all kinky sex you have as abuse. And since they have decided that this is a fact of your reality, you are incapable of consenting. You may think you can consent, but you can't- you're too stupid indoctrinated by the patriarchy to actually think for yourself. You can't actually know what is hurting you, you need someone else to decide what is right for your body and mind for you. The Enlightened Radfems just want to help you, so you need to ignore everything you think and feel and trust that they know best, they know better than you because they are Educated In Feminism. You need to learn to distrust everything you think and feel, and seek out the advice of Enlightened Radfems to tell you which thoughts are Wrong and which thoughts are Right.
Dislike this? Think its patronizing and eerily similar to how the patriarchy acts towards you? Well, you would think that, because you haven't been Enlightened. Its in your own best interest for them to ignore all those silly little thoughts about what you "want," since if you only listened to them you'd realize you don't actually want the things you want! What do you mean this sounds abusive and extremely controlling! We're Feminist Females so we're automatically better and safer!!!!!
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Turns out the knife was cursed
“I pick up the knife” is now a mini-meme among my party and obviously it just means “I did something impulsive and now it’s going to take two sessions to solve.”
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“I pick up the knife” saga continues because listen we can sit around failing investigation checks all day or we could play d&d
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They’re learning
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unfortunately I’m watching supernatural and someone on screen said ‘there are No Wolves in pennsylvania’ and I was like. what a bold incorrect statement. where did they possibly get that idea from. so I googled it…google is insisting there are no wild wolves in pa?? except I’ve Seen wolves here?? there used to be a wolf that would hang out in my backyard and roam around the neighborhood?? like Everyone knew about this wolf we assumed he lived on the golf course and would come to our yards if he got spooked by golfers (very quiet block). like we all thought he just lost his pack or whatever so people just gave him a wide space and let him chill, he didn’t try to break into any houses or attack any pets but this was definitely. a wild wolf. where. where did he come from what do you MEAN there aren’t wolves in pennsylvania I’m literally spiraling right now
still feeling so gut-punched over this
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To be fair, PA also said “we did not reintroduce mountain lions, they are not there, you’re seeing really big house cats, please keep coming to the parks and camp sites and ignore that video, that was totally not a mountain lion, someone took last week”
okay I’m sorry but this came up on pinterest and I Screamed
you are the state of Pennsylvania (allegedly)
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i just showed this to a friend from pennsylvania and 1. theyre losing their mind bc theyve seen mountain lions which prompted them to look it up which leads me to 2. this fucking bonkers article
[caption: “We’ve been here 45 years and I’ve probably been told by people at least 100 t imes that they’ve seen a cougar or mountain lion,” said owner Vince Hall. “I kind of doubt they saw a cougar, but I’m not God.”]
PA: I can’t believe we’ve lost all our native apex predators Citizens of PA: there’s a mountain lion right there PA: sometimes we can still hear the sound of them scaring away tourists
…PA has fucking EMUS and you want me to believe we have no wolves or mountain lions?
what the fuck do you mean we have emus
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Guys, I’ve cracked it
This thing goes all the way to the top
what the fuck is happening in pennsylvania
As a regretful born and raised Pennsylvanian, we have wolves, coywolves, mountain lions, lynx, and coyotes. Not a single person in authority will admit to there being anything but coyotes and lynx. If you see a cougar, they will tell you you saw a lynx. If you see a wolf, they will tell you you saw a coyote. Ignore the massive differences in sizes. No one knows what a coywolf is but we have them. I have seen a cougar with my own two goddamned eyes. There is an entire nature park whose main attractions are the cougars and wolves (and bison but we’re not talking about them) - it’s called Penn’s Cave, it’s been there forever. Everyone I know has seen a cougar or wolf at least once in the woods.
So what I’m getting at is don’t trust the government.
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“the state of Pennsylvania is gaslighting its citizens about the native wildlife”
My spouse was born in PA (Bethlehem, Mt Sinai) and he is enjoying this entire thread, which we might show his cousins who live in Philly and have seen the These Aren’t Cougars.
"Why is your house the way it is?"
Landlords.
Landlords are why my house is the way it is.
The previous owner turned this house into a rental for 2-3 families at one point and did everything as cheaply and unsafely as possible for maximum capacity.
This house passed multiple inspections because they hid a multitude of plumbing, electrical and structural issues behind fake walls and a fresh sheen of landlord magnolia beige paint and shiny fixtures that looked fine (if a little dated) until you realized they were held up with the wrong type of screws, zero anchors, and gravity-defying hope.
Every time we take down a wall, we never know what we will find. Sometimes it's another wall with a sealed door that's been welded shut. Other times it is mold or asbestos that they sealed up.
But we always know it's going to be some landlord, cheap build, mind-bending fuckery.
My local network habitually aired Power Rangers episodes all out of order when I was a kid – we were lucky if both parts of a two-parter ended up airing consecutively, much less anything further-reaching – so I always had a fuzzy idea of how some of the plot points lined up.
For example, I didn't realise until just now that the gag where Bulk and Skull got turned into chimpanzees wasn't a one-off thing? Apparently they just stayed that way for the next fifteen episodes, and continued to serve as the show's comic relief B-plot in spite of being monkeys, voice-acted Garfield style by their regular human actors?
Now I'm wondering what else the out-of-order airing made me fail to connect the dots for.
be pro-aging but wear sun screen. sun protection is not beauty industry propaganda it will save you. wear it. or else.
my grandad was killed by skin cancer please wear sunscreen
You know what, fuck you. *Romanticizes the monstrous in a way that is deeply compelling to people who feel they've been ostracized from mainstream society in one way or another, and also at least a little bit horny*
Rewatching Truman Show for the first time in a long time, and the detail that’s stuck with me this time is the set design.
The characters drive modern cars and hock modern products, but it’s all presented with a veneer of 1950s wholesome applecheeked Americana. Truman’s life is presented as an escape for the audience from the drudgery of the modern day, and the aesthetic they’ve chosen for this is the post-war economic boom. This is the simple time, the movie says. This is the good time. Doesn’t the modern day suck? Let’s go back and see our friends from the days when life was good.
And it’s a lie. Truman’s life is a lie, and the image of white picket fenced suburbia they’ve presented is a lie. It’s an elaborate construction to recreate a false memory that’s comfortable for advertisers. The movie is a satire, but it’s also a very blatant statement against the nostalgia for a golden age which never existed. It’s a lie. It doesn’t exist.
I don’t know. I’m spitballing. I’m biased because I despise mid-20th century Americana and I naturally treat it with hostility, but it’s very gratifying to see a movie kind of agree with me.
Let me tell you a story.
Earlier in the summer, I went to Florida with my friend. We decided to visit a town nearish to where we were staying called Seaside, as we had heard it was a cute place. What I did not know at the time was that Seaside is the place where they filmed The Truman Show. It was a "master-planned community," constructed in the 80s to be the perfect beach town.
Seaside, FL
Seahaven
And yes, it really does look Like That. Not just in their tourist-agency photos, in real life it looks like that. Arguably the irl Seaside is even prettier than movie Seahaven, because the the office buildings where Truman works don't exist; the town is 100% cutesy homes and little shops.
The other day someone told me "Oh, bless your heart" with complete sincerity and I had to take a minute to be like "Madam, I appreciate the sentiment but I need you to understand that in my culture this would be a declaration of war"
"Oh, bless your heart," "I'll pray for you," and "That's nice" are the three Killing Words for which one can legally initiate the holmgang
"Name your shieldmaiden, DEBORAH."
"You know it will be Mabel, my husband's sister. Do you have anyone who will stand on the isle with you, SHARON?"
"Beatrice, who is my friend since cottillion, you doxy to a coal-chewer."
"Beatrice? Of the knock knees and round heels? I hear she spends most of her time on her back... both within the circle and whenever her husband it is out of town!"
"You're just jealous because everyone knows she sucks dick better than you... including Fred."
"...I will gut you like a salmon and feed your eyes to your children, Sharon."
-Saga of the Mobile-daelar Folk, Chapter 4, often called "The PTA Meeting"