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How to Grow the Fuck Up: Guides to Life

I know it can be a nightmare to dig through the tags and see all those asks and not the guides. So here is a handy-dandy list of all the “official” how-to posts.

FYI: This used to be a rude advice blog. It is not any longer. Some of the really old guides still use that format, but as they are updated with more information, they’re edited to fit the new, less abrasive format. For more info, please visit the about page.

All posts are written by Jez (@typesetjez, formerly called “The Responsible One”) unless otherwise noted.

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alternative depression tips for when you read the ‘depression tips’ post and laugh hollowly, bc only in your fondest dreams could you manage to do any of those things

  • dry shampoo and face wipes are your friend. if you can brush your teeth you’ll feel maybe 2% less disgusting. wash your hands.
  • smelling nice is gr9, rubbing moisturiser in is Exhausting. perfume, scented candles and linen sprays are way quicker.
  • try to change your clothes at least every other day. wear sweats or pjs as often as you physically can.
  • you don’t need to put on underwear if you’re not leaving the house (that goes double for bras and binders)
  • drink any water that hasn’t been sitting out on your desk for a week. dust doesn’t taste good. stay hydrated. I fill one of those 2 litre bottles in the morning and keep it with me so I don’t have to get up and walk to the sink.
  • re: cleaning, try and keep one room vaguely clean. if everywhere else is a shit hole that’s fine, but you can go sit in your one tidy space and chill for a bit. it’s fine if that’s the bathroom or just the corner of your bedroom where there’s no crap on the floor. find a tiny space that isn’t horrifying and sit in it.
  • music helps.
  • eat a thing. +5 points if it has a fresh fruit or vegetable in it. take out is acceptable if it comes with veggies.
  • if your creativity curled up and died a long time ago try and find something that at least reminds you what it was like to feel inspired. watch a film, look at some art (probably not your own), read a thing. if that makes you feel worse, just?? don’t think about it??
  • grounding yourself is actually really helpful. open the window and breathe for 2 minutes. lay down on the floor and feel your whole body (unless you don’t want to in which case: lay down and don’t feel anything except the floor) 
  • human interaction is Good. text a family member you don’t hate if you have one. message a friend. reply to someone’s personal post with ‘SAME’. make your own personal post asking the void for validation. stare out the window at people and remind yourself that life exists outside of the black space inside your head. whatever works.
  • pets are amazing, agreed. watch some funny animal vines if you don’t have one.

My bummy ass seriously needed this 2 fucking days ago

This shit is a million times more helpful and realistic than the normal posts.

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Crock Pot Recipes for Fall and Winter

I love cooking hearty dishes, and warm treats in the Fall and Winter, which is why I also love slow cooker recipes. So here is massive list of recipes that are great for this time of year!

Soups, Stews, and Entrées

Desserts and Sweet Treats

Beverages

Breakfasts

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Ace Dating Sites

So, I just came across this thread on AVEN where someone listed a bunch of potential dating/friend-finding sites that Aces could find useful. I’m posting the list here for all of you who may want to check them out. Keep in mind that I have not road-tested all of these yet. 

  • Acebook - Formerly (?) A-Date; is a free dating site for asexuals, including integrated forums and chat software. .
  • Affectionate Friends is “a different kind of dating site”, made for people (not necessarily asexuals) who want to share time and affection without worrying about sex or commitment. 
  • Asexual Pals is an informal introduction service that brings together asexual and celibate people for romantic and platonic relationships.
  • Asexualitic describes itself as “the first free dating site for asexual people”, although technically it was released after the creation of A-Date, which is also free.
  • Celibate Passions is a dating and networking site for celibate people looking for platonic relationships. It comes with chat, message boards, and email.
  • Platonic Partners is a website celebrating celibate, platonic relationships, and allowing users to meet other like-minded people without the stresses of having to sexually perform. They are asexual-friendly and come with health resources and a newsletter.

Reblogging for all the Anons wondering about ace dating sites.

-Kieren

Thank You!

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The *real* “I just got my first apartment” post

That other post seems to be for people with money. But you don’t have money. So what do you actually need for your first apartment?

  • A bed. Not an air mattress. Not a blanket fort. Not a mattress pad with a fitted sheet over it. An actual bed. You’re going to try to avoid it, especially if you live in a city where bed bugs mean not buying a mattress from Craigslist. Beds cost money (unless you can take the one from your childhood bedroom, in which case, do that and use the couch when you visit home). But fuck it, you need one. If you’re desperate, you might go with a futon, but the futon you can afford will break with the quickness. You might also go with a mattress on the floor, which seems like a good idea until it suddenly seems really dirty, which is because mattresses need air flow to stay dry and sanitary. If you don’t have a box spring and don’t want to drop the $40 on a cheap bed frame, you can use these guys to build a platform, and if you find plastic drawers the same height, you can even build some storage in there.
  • A dresser. You will try to find a way around this. It will end up with your floor covered in clothes within a week. Just find a dresser on Craigslist or go to your local auction (a great place to find cheap furniture in general). And don’t buy a cheap dresser to build yourself from K-Mart or Wal-Mart, because it will break and it will likely be more expensive than a Craigslist/auction dresser anyway.
  • A TV. It doesn’t have to be new or huge or advanced. But you want a TV. Don’t try to skip the TV for something more trivial. You’ll regret that quick.
  • A couch. Specifically, an old, comfortable couch. One you don’t mind falling asleep on or letting guests sleep on. Don’t spend a lot of money. Couches will find you. Don’t overthink it. It’s your first apartment. Nobody expects you to have a perfectly curated adult home. Just get a comfy fucking couch. And if you get two, you can use cinder blocks to make stadium seating in your living room!
  • A table. You will ruin it, so get a shitty one. Learn your lessons on something cheap and disposable.
  • A full(ish) kitchen set. If these things don’t appear from your parents or your roommates’ parents, you need to buy a pot and pan set, silverware, a silverware organizer, at least one sharp knife (and let’s be honest, you’re gonna want a knife block and they’re only like $11), at least one mixing bowl, a colander, a cutting board, a couple of storage containers, plates, bowls, glasses, and mugs. You’ll figure out what else you need as you need it, based on your own kitchen habits. A lot of this can be picked up at the dollar store if you have one near you. And if you don’t bake often, disposable baking pans are your friend. 
  • Hand soap, dish soap, wash-your-ass soap. Nobody likes poor hygiene. You also need toothpaste and floss. And deodorant.
  • Flashlight and candles (nothing fancy). In case something goes wrong.
  • A plunger. In case something goes really wrong.
  • A toilet brush. Your momma probably never let the toilet form rings (or let you let that happen), so it might come as a shock how quickly and easily those shits form.
  • A shower curtain and liner. Or even just the liner. Don’t get the floor wet.
  • Sponges. You have no idea how many sponges you’ll need.

The rest, you’ll stack over time, but these are the things you need.

Thrift shops and charity shops may have silverware and pots and pans for cheap, as well as furniture, sheets, etc.

When buying used furniture: look in the cracks and under the edges for pin-sized brown/black spots. Bedbugs are tiny and they live in upholstery and any wood with enough crevices to allow it. You almost certainly won’t be able to see the bugs themselves, but they leave little spotted trails along seams and in places that don’t see a lot of light. You cannot get them out of furniture; it’s not worth the extreme measures it takes to do it.

Also, don’t forget laundry detergent and a rubbish bin and bin liners. Rubbish, laundry, and dirty dishes are 90% of the mess in a messy home and 99% of bad smells. Keep up with them and your home will always be at least clean-ish.

Oh, and bleach is a good cheap substitute if you can’t afford specific cleaners for your toilet, tub, vinyl counters/floor, etc., but test it on a small spot to make sure what you’re cleaning can handle it, dilute the fuck out of it, and never use it on wood or mixed with dish liquid. Use white vinegar or diluted Pine-sol for mirrors, glass, and sealed wood floors.

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Ed Brubaker's Captain America Reading List

This reading list only focuses on Ed Brubaker’s run, which defines the characters for this generation. This is a large undertaking as the story went on for years, over several volumes and various titles in 25 trade paperbacks and five omnibus.

It’s fairly straight forward until the end, where two books were coming out alongside each other. Even then it’s not too difficult as the books didn’t really impact each other so you can just read them in the order shown.

The only thing that complicates matters is that Captain America is one of those tent pole characters that gets dragged into every major event storyline and is often impacted by the fallout. The events are included in the order they should be read to fully appreciate what’s going on.

Here’s the key:

Bold text: Main Series Normal text: Supplemental CAPITALS: EVENTS/CROSSOVERS Italics: Notes

Pre-Reading

THE MARVEL’S PROJECT - Ed Brubaker & Steve Epting An 8-issue mini-series showing the origins of Captain America and other silver-age heroes. Can be read at any time but sits here for the sake of chronology.

Captain America: Man Out of Time - Mark Waid & Jorge Molina Another mini-series not unlike Waid’s Superman: Birthright. It shows Captain America’s freezing and subsequent defrosting in the modern day.

AVENGERS DISASSEMBLED - BRIAN BENDIS & DAVID FINCH

The Steve Rogers Era

Captain America: Winter Soldier V1 - Ed Brubaker & Steve Epting Captain America: Winter Soldier V2 - Ed Brubaker & Steve Epting The first two volumes of Brubakers run are available in a variety of formats including an Ultimate Collection, two trade paperbacks or an OHC..

SECRET WAR: BRIAN BENDIS & GABRIELLE DELL'OTTO Features Captain America and explains Nick Fury’s absence from the subsequent volumes.

New Avengers - Brian Bendis Bendis’ Avengers run begins in earnest at this point. For a full reading list of that run check out Bendis’ Avengers Reading List

Captain America: Red Menace V1 - Ed Brubaker & Mike Perkins Captain America: Red Menace V2 - Ed Brubaker & Steve Epting Available in an Ultimate Collection or separate paperbacks. The omnibus collecting the first five volumes is long out of print.

CIVIL WAR: MARK MILLAR & STEVE MCNIVEN Civil War: Captain America - Ed Brubaker & Mike Perkins The tie-in issues work really well as part of the Civil War story, which is strongly recommended as Captain America is the protagonist and it alters the landscape of the Marvel Universe significantly.

Fallen Son - Jeph Loeb & Various A series of one-shots focusing on different characters and how they deal with Steve Rogers death. Each issue represents one of the five stages of grief.

The Bucky Barnes Era

Captain America: Death of Captain America V1 - Brubaker & Epting Captain America: Death of Captain America V2 - Brubaker & Epting Captain America: Death of Captain America V3 - Brubaker & Epting Available in a Complete Collection, three paperbacks, or an OOP omnibus.

SECRET INVASION: BRIAN BENDIS AND LEINIL YU Features Captain America, Bucky Cap joins the New Avengers from this point.

Captain America: The Man With No Face - Ed Brubaker & Luke Ross Captain America: Road to Reborn - Ed Brubaker & Various Captain America: Reborn - Ed Brubaker & Bryan Hitch These volumes are available in the Captain America Lives! omnibus as well as the usual paperbacks.

SEIGE - BRIAN BENDIS & OLIVIER COIPEL Both Steve Rogers and Bucky Barnes appear in this storyline.

Captain America: Two Americas - Ed Brubaker & Luke Ross Captain America: No Escape - Ed Brubaker & Butch Guice Captain America: Prisoner of War - Ed Brubaker & Butch Guice Captain America: Trial of Captain America - Ed Brubaker & Butch Guice

Steve Rogers: Super Soldier - Ed Brubaker & Dale Eaglesham This mini-series came out alongside the regular Captain America book and tells a Steve Rogers-centric story with a villain that will return later.

Secret Avengers: Mission to Mars - Ed Brubaker & Mike Deodato Secret Avengers: Eyes of the Dragon - Ed Brubaker & Mike Deodato Ed Brubaker did a short run on Secret Avengers which Steve Rogers featured in. It doesn’t connect to the Captain America story but is here if you want more.

FEAR ITSELF: MATT FRACTION & STUART IMMONEN This story is significant to Brubaker’s run as it takes the series goes in a new direction after the events of this book. 

The Two-Title Era

From this point on there are two different titles being published side-by-side, with Captain America & Bucky eventually being replaced by The Winter Soldier.

Captain America: Volume 1 - Ed Brubaker & Steve McNiven Captain America: Volume 2 - Ed Brubaker & Alan Davis The last seven volumes are collected in the Trial of Captain America omnibus.

Captain America: Volume 3 - Ed Brubaker & Patch Zircher Captain America: Volume 4 - Ed Brubaker & Scott Eaton This is the finale of the Captain America story for all intents and purposes. The majority of the volume is co-written, but the final chapter is a goodbye issue by Brubaker and Epting,

Captain America & Bucky: Life Story of Bucky… - Brubaker & Samnee Captain America & Bucky: Old Wounds - Brubaker & Francavilla These stories flash back to WWII, but are narrated in the modern day.

Winter Soldier: The Longest Winter - Ed Brubaker & Butch Guice Winter Soldier: Broken Arrow - Ed Brubaker & Michael Lark Winter Soldier: Black Widow Hunt - Ed Brubaker & Butch Guice The last seven volumes are collected in the Captain America: The Return of the Winter Soldier omnibus.

That is the entirety of Ed Brubaker’s run on the character. If you like Ed Brubaker you can also check out the Daredevil reading list, which highlights his work on the character and also includes Immortal Iron Fist. Thanks for reading.

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I also now have an Etsy shop! For now, it holds some of my Lightning Jewelry, but I plan to expand it to contain some small props and nerdy accessories soon!

If you need prop work done, I can’t recommend Joy enough! She did both the armor bits on my Wiccan costume and the Prefect badges for The Gathering Storm

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Lately, social media has been swamped with the story of folks who were burned by a creator for hire. I won’t be weighing in on that case, or even mentioning the name, as I don’t like to use this blog for negativity and the information is already out there on dozens of sites. I am not writing this solely because of this particular Maker, but because I have seen an unsettling number of incidents, including friends being burned by less than honest Makers. What I would like to do is address what you can do to protect yourself in costuming commissions and understand how the process works and what red flags to watch out for. Many of the victims of scammers and bad businesspeople are first time commissioners, but even those well experienced in the process can get scammed. Thus, this guide is gonna go over everything, from the most basic tips to tips for the experienced, and even then you may get burned. The fact of the matter is that not every bad deal comes from a career scammer, sometimes well-respected and well-meaning makers can fail to deliver an item on time and/or to the client’s satisfaction. Hopefully this information will also help to figure out if someone was out to scam you from the beginning or just had something go wrong despite good intentions.

Vetting your Maker(s)

So, you wanna have something made, that’s great! Since materials and equipment is getting cheaper and more and more information is available about how to make stuff, there are literally thousands of costume, armor and prop makers out there now. How the heck do you choose? Whether you find them via their personal website, a facebook page, an RPF or coscom thread or elsewhere on the net, you mustn’t just throw your money at the first one you see. You must vet them! No, I don’t mean take them for their distemper shots and heartworm preventative. Vetting is to verify the credibility of a Maker. You need to get a feeling of how likely they are to produce your commission to your desired quality by your deadline. Scammers count on the fact that many people don’t know how to properly vet a Maker, or get so caught up in the transaction that they completely forget to do so. Some scammers are good at hiding their prior bad deeds, and some actively try to obfuscate their dealings, so even if you do your very best to vet everyone, you may still get scammed. It’s terrible, but the best thing you can do at that point is deal with your own commission, either by refund or arranging alternate compensation, and then make your experience known! If they are on a forum or some place that allows feedback, post an account of what went down and why you are unsatisfied. Try to be objective and keep emotion out of it if you can, as that leads to personal attacks which make it very easy for the party in question to call your credibility into question and glaze over the actual issue. Also, as tempting as it is, it is usually pointless to post on the person in question’s webpage, facebook page or any other place where they have the administrative ability to delete posts. They are going to try to keep their face clean, so any place they can sweep it under the rug, they will. Stick to public forums or your own social media presence. And if you had a great experience with a Maker? Post those same places! It’ll help others find Makers worthy of trust and business. So where do you look to vet? All of those places I just mentioned to post your experience! Often times just Google searching will get you some good information. In general:

  • Public forums are the most likely to yield accurate accounts, especially when others can join the discussion, this keeps down agenda posts, as anyone with an agenda will be shut down by actual personal accounts.
  • Watch out for posts made by known friends of a Maker or shills. Scammers often post bogus good reviews. Short, vague reviews are definitely a red flag, especially if you can’t find the actual piece that was supposedly made. Costumers love to show off their purchases.
  • Look for good, high rez photos of previous work, with lots of angles. Makers that post the progression picks as a piece is created are also a plus. Look for quality in the construction, an obvious obsession over details and pride in the quality of work.
  • Look for pictures from clients of their finished commission. There’s some amazing tricks Makers can do with photography to make a piece look better than it is, and never ever forget photoshop exists.
  • Forums like The RPF have feedback tools built in, and coscom has a whole subforum devoted to reviews. Ask for or find out the Maker’s handle in places like these.
  • If you do find a bad transaction or dissatisfied client, how did the Maker handle it? Don’t be ashamed to PM the client and ask if the Maker made it right. Did they ultimately deliver? Did they give a refund?
  • Watch out for those who seem to only deliver to “Important” people. Some Makers do not treat clients equally, and will quickly deliver a piece to a well respected forum member, well known costumer or professional commissions but take their sweet time or deliver a sub-par product to everyone else. Money is money, and yours should spend just as well as anyone’s.

What to expect when you contact a maker:

So, you’ve saved up your hard earned cash and you are ready to approach some makers about creating your dream prop/costume. You should be armed with a clear idea of what you want, not just the character or the outfit, but how you want to wear it, what materials, any special needs you have. Have as many references as possible for the maker. Tip #1: It is your responsibility to provide accurate and clear references and instructions for what you want. If you want anything to differ from your provided references, if you need the piece to collapse to fit into a suitcase, if you need pockets added to a skirt, if you want it lined, you need to make this clear when you first approach the maker. A Maker is in no way required to make a change to what you both agreed on when prices and timelines were set after the piece has been started. However, if something does need to change, whether it is from the client side or on the Maker’s side, discussion needs to occur as soon as possible. Often, Makers will discover while working on a piece that a technique or material originally planned for will not work in practice, a good Maker contacts the client immediately and discusses this with the client before moving forward with the change. If a maker waits until it is time to deliver to discuss the change with the client, they have not upheld their side of the deal and the client has every right to take issue or cancel their order. You’ll also need to provide a clear deadline. Tip #2: Do not just list the day you’ll leave for the con/event as your due date! Many folks think this is a favor to the Maker by giving them a few more days to get done. It is not! Even the greatest of commissions will probably need a few days to try on and double check for problems. And if you have a question once you have it in your hand about how the heck this one strap is supposed to work, you want to be able to have the time to contact the maker and find out. Makers have lives too, and often a “real job”, so you want to give then at least 48 hours to reply. You also don’t want to depend solely on shipping days to be accurate, things happen, deliveries get delayed. My rule of thumb is to list the due date at least a week before you’re going to need it. This means you’re gonna need to start shopping for Makers early, especially if you have your heart set on a high-demand Maker, who often book a year in advance. By having a due date earlier than you need it, you can also hopefully have a bit of insurance in case the Maker gets a bit behind due to poor time assessment or unforeseen circumstances like discovering a crucial supply is on backorder. The earlier you make your deadline, the better off you will be, and it will make those chaotic few weeks before the con a lot less stressful. Once you have given this information to the Maker, they will quote you a price. Some makers give firm, set in stone quotes, while others give an expected quote, which may change as the project progresses. The second type will typically give a range, so that you don’t agree to a $200.00 expected cost only to be hit with a $3000.00 cost at the end. Tip #3: You get the quality you pay for. Matt Munson did a great little write up on the cost of custom commissions. If you want custom cast resin weapons, or custom tailored Victorian garb, it will carry a higher price tag than a bondo covered cardboard prop or a simplicity pattern in broadcloth. If the price is out of your range and you ask the Maker to cut corners to meet your budget, you are specifically asking for a lower quality item and forfeit some of your ability to complain later. Some Makers (myself included) will not cut corners to meet a budget and put out a less than stellar piece, as that still carries their name and reputation. Conversely, if you ask for a high quality prop and get a price quote that seems like an incredible steal, beware. This is Red Flag #1. A skilled and experienced Maker is going to value their time and reputation, and charges appropriately. An unskilled or inexperienced maker often undercuts themselves just to get some work and experience (I did it too in the beginning) and may fail to deliver the agreed upon quality on time despite never actively intending harm. A dishonest Maker will quote low and deliver a known inferior product or not deliver at all. How do you know if it was a well meaning newbie or an uncaring veteran? Newbies usually are concerned with how they are doing, they are trying to grow and do well, and will ask if it was to your liking, ask to see photos of it with the rest of your costume and talk about what they are proud of in it. A dishonest maker will typically answer any complaints with “well, you got what you paid for”, or that lots of other people they have sold the same thing to were perfectly happy.

Making the Payment

So, you’ve vetted the Maker, been clear with your expectations, set a reasonable deadline and agreed on a price, time to let go of your hard earned money and start the commission. Most Makers require money up front, and that is 100% reasonable. Nothing can be made without materials, and there is a huge risk for the Maker that they will spend months working and hundreds of dollars in materials just to have a client decide they don’t want the piece later or cannot afford it. Every Maker who knows what they are doing will require a deposit. This usually covers materials and a bit extra as security to make sure the client has the money and is not going to walk out on the deal. The deposit amount varies drastically, but as an example from my shop, it is typically between 35-50% of the total expected cost. Very few Makers will require the full amount up front, unless the piece in question has a very low price point, for me, typically under $100.00. If a Maker does demand the full payment on an expensive commission up-front this is Red Flag #2. Now, a disclaimer here, this is not always a deal breaker, it is entirely in the Maker’s rights to do this, and it may not be a means to scam you. If the Maker has a good rep, you have vetted them well and there are no other red flags, this is probably not an issue, but it is still your right to refuse and move to another maker if this is uncomfortable to you, just try to not make a stink about it and step away from the transaction. However, if it occurs with other red flags and/or the Maker could not be well vetted, proceed at your own risk. Once the deposit amount has been agreed on, you’ll need a way to pay. Most makers use a payment service such as Paypal. As a third-party service, this offer some protection. However, they do charge a fee for payment, which is borne by the seller. Most Makers are going to include this fee in their quote or assume their own responsibility for it, if they do not state so, feel free to ask. You can find a breakdown of Paypal’s fees here. However, there is a way to use Paypal that has no fees, this is to “send money to friends and family”. If a Maker asks you to use this option, beware! This is Red Flag #3! Paypal offers buyer protection, a 48 day window in which you, the buyer, can open up a dispute and potentially get a refund. This dispute will push to the seller, and be reviewed by Paypal. The seller has a chance to settle the dispute, either by delivering the product or at least communicating with you and coming to an agreement. However, this protection only applies to payments for goods and services. If you use the pay to friends and family option, you forfeit any protection. Now, 48 days is a lot shorter than the production time for most custom commissions, but by then you should have a good idea of the direction the project is going. If you have serious concerns that you have voiced to the Maker and not gotten an acceptable response from them, open that dispute before the 48 day cutoff! Now, don’t just open the dispute after sending no word of your concerns, use it when no other outlet has given you the peace of mind you need. What about other payment options? You can pay via check, which offers some protection as you can contact your bank if the commission goes south and you are scammed. I have also heard of Makers who accept hidden cash and money orders, This is Red flag #4! Neither of these options offer -any- protection. Are there any ways to further protect yourself? Documentation, documentation, documentation. Tip #4: Save all e-mails/PMs between you and the Maker, make sure all terms are spelled out clearly. You can even ask that the maker send you a physical invoice via mail. This doesn’t need to be extravagant, but at least a basic description of the piece in question, the agreed price, how you paid, the appropriate dates and a signature from the Maker. This may help if you need to bring it to your bank. These still may not help get your money back, but it will provide proof of bad deeds that you can post to discourage others from doing business with an untrustworthy Maker.

Production Time

So, You’ve paid. Now you wait. Custom stuff takes quite a while. During production, you should get periodic e-mails or PMs on the status of the piece or to ask questions and clear design decisions. You may also see posts on the Maker’s site as they work on your piece, progress photos or discussions on what techniques they’re using. Makers vary in how often they touch base, and it can also vary according to what other work is going on in their workshop. E-mail takes time away from working on your piece, but it is still a part of the process, and if you contact them, you should get a reasonable reply. Nothing makes a customer worry like lack of communication (trust me on this). Makers often have many things in the shop at once as well, so don’t immediately freak out if it’s been a bit since your last update and you see them post another commission in progress on their facebook page, yours may be just out of shot, also being worked on. However, if you ever feel like you’re not getting the communication you need, ask for it! It never hurts to send an e-mail saying you are excitedly waiting for more updates. If you’ve sent gentle requests before and still gotten no reply, be more firm. If communication refuses to move, state that you are no longer satisfied with the service, and are considering a refund. If you’re still in the 48 day protection window on Paypal, this is a viable reason to open a dispute. Just keep at them if they refuse to contact you, and post on those public places if the communication lapse becomes too great, again being objective in your criticism.

Receiving Your Commission

The piece is done! Now is the time to pay the shipping and verify your address, especially if using Paypal. Be sure to ask how the piece will be packaged, since the last thing you want is for it to be damaged in shipping, and I -highly- recommend shipping insurance. Now is the time to pay the final payment as well, which you can also request an invoice for. The Maker should send you an update when it is shipped and provide a tracking number if the service provides one. When the package arrives, make sure to check it for obvious damage. If anything seems out of sorts, if there are dents in cardboard, water damage, loose tape or if it looks like it has been opened, get your camera before opening it! You’ll need to take photos of the unboxing if you want that shipping insurance to do anything. Take photos of the outside of the box and every step of opening, including very clear photos of any damage to your pieces. You can contact your Maker and let them know, but ultimately you will need to bring this up with the shipping carrier. Their website should provide a number to call or an online form. Be sure to have your tracking number, unboxing photos, and any invoices you have. If the package arrives safe and sound, examine it well. Make sure it meets your agreed upon specifications. Try it on if it’s appropriate. If there are any issues, photograph them and contact the Maker to see if there are ways to remedy the issue. Sometimes a Maker will have you send the piece back and do major fixes, other times it may be something the customer can do. A good Maker eats the cost for this if they are at fault, either refunding the cost of materials for the customer to do the fix or the shipping to do in-shop fixes. If the Maker is not at fault, and the client misunderstood something or expected something without actively stating it in the original agreement, they may still offer to help work it out, but they aren’t required to, be sure to thank them. If the Maker provides a product that is not acceptable according to the agreed upon terms, you can ask for a full refund and send the piece back, ask for a partial refund and keep the piece or choose to not press the matter, depending on the severity. The Maker may deny refunds all together, negotiate an alternative solution or accept your terms. Keep their response in mind when it comes to your review of their service.In the case of a Maker refusing a refund, use whatever financial repercussion you have available, either by speaking to your bank or opening a Paypal dispute. No matter what the outcome, write a review in a publicly accessible space about your experience, good or bad! The absolute best way to help keep good Makers in business and bad Makers out is to let the world know what your experience was like! The more information about our dealings we can put out there, the more likely customers will be able to find and support Makers worth supporting, and protect our investments into our hobby.  

Disclaimer

Everyone screws up sometimes. I most certainly have, which has given me good insight to the frustrations of a bad commissioning experience. In the four years I have been doing this,I have stumbled occasionally. I took on too many orders to fulfill while not realizing how much time my other obligations like university took. I have lapsed in communication. I have even once completely forgot that a deadline was coming up on a piece, even though it was in my commission log. In each case I have done my best to own up to the mistake or failing and work with my clients to remedy the situation, and most importantly learn from it and not let it happen again. I have included comments about inexperienced Makers in this for that purpose as well, hoping that if you see that sort of behavior, you can better handle the situation from the client side as well. Hopefully the inexperienced will keep their good intentions and become better Makers, and those with ill intent will have fewer victims to feed on, and if someone has good intentions and just can’t seem to learn, it may be best for them that they not get more business to drive them into a hole.

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Thor Reading List

Here is another Marvel reading list, this time focusing on everyones favourite Asgardian. Please make sure you check out the rest of my reading lists here, and remember to visit my page and follow me to subscribe to future content.

Thor is a character that has been through several notable writers hands in a relatively short period of time, this reading lists breaks it down by creator and covers the major Marvel happenings that factor into the story.

As usual, here’s the key:

Bold text: Main Series Normal text: Supplemental CAPITALS: EVENTS/CROSSOVERS Italics: Notes

Pre-Reading

Thor: Ages of Thunder - Matt Fraction & Various This is a series of one-shots set during the early days of Thor’s life in Asgard, but it’s also possibly the best thing Fraction has done with the character.

Avengers Disassembled: Thor - Michael Oeming & Andrew Divito Ragnarok story that ends with the apparant death of all Asguardians

CIVIL WAR - MARK MILLAR & STEVE MCNIVEN Estabishes status quo that Thor awakens in

J. Michael Straczynski’s Run

Thor: Volume 1 - Joe Straczynski & Olivier Coipel Thor: Volume 2 - Joe Straczynski & Olivier Coipel Thor: Volume 3 - Joe Straczynski & Olivier Coipel JMS wrote some of the best Thor stories ever during his short tenure on the book, re-establishing the character, his supporting cast, and Asgard in a new setting of Oklahoma.

Kieran Gillen’s Run

Thor: Latverian Prometheus - Kieron Gillen & Billy Tan Gillen took over the book as it approached the Siege event. This volumes nicely ties up a lot of the loose ends JMS left.

SIEGE - BRIAN BENDIS & OLIVIER COIPEL Siege: Thor - Kieren Gillen & Various I would consider this event essential as it is set on Asgard and heavily involves Thor. The tie-in issues mainly focus on the supporting cast. Thor: Siege Aftermath - Kieron Gillen & Various One of the less essential books, but tells a decent story and has some ties to Gillen’s work on Journey into Mystery.

Matt Fraction’s Run

Thor: The World Eaters - Matt Fraction & Pasqual Ferry Fraction’s first volume is under the old branding, but is still important to the story he’s telling as it re-establishes Odin, who plays a big role moving forward.

Mighty Thor V1: The Galactus Seed - Matt Fraction & Olivier Coipel

FEAR ITSELF - MATT FRACTION & STUART IMMONEN 

Journey into Mystery V1: Fear Itself - Kieron Gillen & Doug Braithwaite Journey into Mystery V2: Fear Itself Fallout - Kieron Gillen & Various From this point on Journey into Mystery runs parallel to Mighty Thor. Gillen returns to the franchise to focus on Loki.

Mighty Thor: Volume 2 - Matt Fraction & Pasqual Ferry Mighty Thor: Volume 3 - Matt Fraction & Various

Journey into Mystery V3: The Terrorism Myth - Kieron Gillen & Various Journey into Mystery V4: The Manchester Gods - Kieron Gillen & Various

Mighty Thor/Journey into Mystery: Everything Burns - Fraction/Gillen This crossover is the grand finale that concludes both series.

Jason Aaron’s Run

Thor: God of Thunder V1: The God Butcher  - Jason Aaron & Esad Ribic Thor: God of Thunder V2: Godbomb - Jason Aaron & Esad Ribic The first two volumes of Aaron’s run tell one big story. It is available in separate PHC’s, TPB’s, or an oversized hardcover.

Thor: God of Thunder V3: The Accursed - Jason Aaron & Nic Klein Thor: God of Thunder V4: Last Days of Asgard - Aaron & Ribic The second two volumes are available in PHC, TPB, and an upcoming OHC.

ORIGINAL SIN - Jason Aaron & Mike Deodato Thor isn’t too heavily involved in this story, but it’s written by Aaron and the ending is very significant for the character so it is recommended.  Original Sin: Thor & Loki: The Tenth Realm - Aaron/Ewing & Bianchi This mini is co-written by Aaron, and it establishes Angela as Thor and Loki’s secret sibling, and her home-world of Heven as the tenth realm of Asgard.

Thor V1: Goddess of Thunder - Jason Aaron & Russell Dauterman Thor V2: Who Holds the Hammer - Jason Aaron & Russell Dauterman Picking up where Original Sin left off, this series focuses on a new Thor.

SECRET WARS - Jonathan Hickman & Esad Ribic Secret Wars Battleworld: Thors - Jason Aaron & Chris Sprouse Aaron’s Thor story continues during Secret Wars with this mini-series.

It’s unclear what the landscape will look like post-Secret Wars, but Aaron is expected to still be writing Thor. He has said in interviews that he plans to tell a long enough story to fill three omnibus’. This reading list will be kept updated as these things become clearer.

Thanks for reading, if you found this useful please check out the rest of my reading lists and feel free to send me any questions you might have.

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*cracks neck* my time has come

Okay, first? Pay off all your debts. Take out a small loan and pay it off right away.

Buy several hundred vacant houses. Schedule repairs for said houses with reputable contractors and make sizable down payments in advance. Get everything in writing and hang onto those deeds.

Buy a large open parcel of land that is being auctioned for development. And when I say large, I mean LARGE.

Sink millions into paying off people’s Kickstarters / college loans / medical bills / mortgages, and give generously charity organizations. That alone will carry off a lot of money.

Once you’ve got things down to a reasonable level, say $1m, buy yourself a house, furnishings, appliances, and a dependable car. Pay everything off so that you own it free and clear. Purchase about $200k worth of something easy to liquidate (i.e. gold, gems, bonds, stocks). Put the rest onto prepaid credit cards and wait for Monday to roll around.

NOW THE FUN BEGINS.

You now have commendable credit and a shining public reputation.

Fix up and flip those houses, sell them for fair market value or below to families who need them, or create non-profit homeless shelters. (After all, it’s not like you need to “make” money, this is all running on the proceeds from the property sales.)

Sell the parcel of land to developers, or donate it to public works as a park or open space. Have them name it after you.

Retire to your fully furnished home. Liquidate your extra assets, or leave them to appreciate in value for a later date. Make Christmas epic with those gift cards. Keep the extra money in the bank and keep your day job.

And don’t worry about taxes when return time rolls around, because you’ll be able to write off several millions’ worth of charitable donations.

Basically this

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Crow babies are important

those are literally not fucking crow babies goddammit how many times do i have to tell you fuckers those are rail chicks

Crows build nests. Their young are helpless and not very fluffy. They can’t walk when they’re tiny like these are doing.

These are baby crows:

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persisting

this is 10000% a completely unnecessarily nasty response, jesus god. you’re screaming at a sixteen year old kid on the internet for making a completely innocent and harmless mistake (one that google images also makes) i guess because you feel the need to prove you are the MOST BIRDEST? i don’t know. tumblr, you do this shit a lot, turning what should be a gentle and friendly correction about unimportant stuff into a bellowing tirade about how you can’t belieeeeeve someone could be so stupid as to not know the difference between altricial and precocial birds. it’s fucked up. stop fucking doing it.

i know it’s easy to get frustrated by misinformation touted as fact on tumblr, but shit like this is not life or death. it’s not social justice. youranimeprince isn’t in some position to forever destroy the nesting habits of corvids. they are sixteen, and they wanted to look at some cute fluffy baby animals. have like a fraction of a SMIDGEON of compassion for how upsetting it is to innocently post something cute and inoffensive and return to find people furious at you.

if you want those misinformed tumblr kids to stop being so misinformed, then fucking educate them kindly. if you feel that you can’t be kind, then honestly fuck off and let one of us be the adult instead.

^This. So much this. We need to be kind in our corrections. We need to make it OKAY to be wrong. If you are the teacher (literal or metaphorical) who makes a student feel like an idiot, eventually everyone will stop raising their hands and learning will stop.  It is OKAY to make mistakes. It is okay to be wrong. Encourage, do not condemn.

MOST BIRDEST THOUGH.

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wilwheaton

^TTTTTTHHHHIIIISSSSSSSSSSSS "if you feel that you can’t be kind, then honestly fuck off and let one of us be the adult instead."