thinking about jkr using remus’ relationship with tonks to feminise her and centre her narrative around a man....thinking about how remus calls her nymphadora even though she prefers her more masculine name and the reader is supposed to understand that this is because she has Matured out of her tomboyish ways....thinking about how her entire character was focused around wanting a relationship with remus and we lost all her nuance and personality....thinking about what a fun amazing cool character she was before joanne decided to enforce her lover/mother/dead model of fictional women onto her......