i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because: 

my white friends that have reblogged this give me life

4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP

If ur white and like this post I fux with u

^absolutely

5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.

i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this

6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death

Waits for my white mutuals to reblog😌

yesyesyesyes

7. I still don’t know how to season chicken

reblog if you’re gay, believe in mothman, or just really fucking love knives

This is the newer version of Mijuku DREAMER that I’ve been working on. Emotion wise, I like this one more.

I, Orgel, have decided that I will be taking a break from any requests for the time being. Mainly due to me being stressed out, not sleeping well, not taking care of myself, skipping meals, and hurting other around me due to it all.

I’m going to guess that I will be absent for maybe a week or two, I’m not quite sure yet. I’m doing this so I can focus on myself, and bring out better content when I feel more confident about everything I post.

- Orgel.

Requested by anon, enjoy!

Just a bit of an indicator that I will update the Kanan, Dia and Hanamaru solo comps this weekend.

Just so you know, this blog fully supports HIV+ people, including sex workers and drug users and will fight for the right for their lives not to be criminalized.

i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship

So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.

communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough - communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too. ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give. be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him - it helps a lot. use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable - ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days. be willing to give each other space.  But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you.  acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem. call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way - just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening. learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes. These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.

This is great and I would like to add some things since almost all of my relationships have been with someone else with mental health issues.

One, it’s important to remember that one person’s pain does not negate the other’s. In a lot of my relationships, if someone was feeling shitty, the other person would keep to themselves something on their mind and try to take care of the other person whether they were capable or not. You can both have a bad day at the same time, and one person does not have to take care of the other.

Two, you have to be careful about feeling the other person’s feelings. I think a lot of people get this confused with empathy, but you can learn to be empathetic without doing this. If you feel shitty because another person feels shitty or vice versa, you’re going to feel shitty a lot more than you have to.

Take care of each other, everybody.

i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship

So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.

communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough - communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too. ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give. be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him - it helps a lot. use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable - ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days. be willing to give each other space.  But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you.  acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem. call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way - just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening. learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes. These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.

This is great and I would like to add some things since almost all of my relationships have been with someone else with mental health issues.

One, it’s important to remember that one person’s pain does not negate the other’s. In a lot of my relationships, if someone was feeling shitty, the other person would keep to themselves something on their mind and try to take care of the other person whether they were capable or not. You can both have a bad day at the same time, and one person does not have to take care of the other.

Two, you have to be careful about feeling the other person’s feelings. I think a lot of people get this confused with empathy, but you can learn to be empathetic without doing this. If you feel shitty because another person feels shitty or vice versa, you’re going to feel shitty a lot more than you have to.

Take care of each other, everybody.

Friendship Week continues! Reblog this and Elmo will point to your name, so you can tell the world that Elmo loves you!

this is the only good corporate tumblr post ever. i love you too elmo.

okay cool whats the opinion on girls who have high strength and power level big muscle but are also generally soft and squishy to the touch maybe a lil chubby round the tum area

reblog if you support the stronk but soft girls 

#‘killing him slowly’ how do you kill him faster

reblog to kill him faster, like to kill him slowly

Look, i know we throw around the words “toxic masculinity ” and “toxic heteronomativity” a lot, but THIS.

If your ideas of gender and relationships and women renders you of being incapable of normal friendships with women because their pressence is “killing you” …that’s suuuuper unhealthy.

Is Today My Graduation Day From NYU? 

Today is May 17th, 2017 and NYU’s Class of 2017 is at Yankee Stadium right now celebrating one of the best moments of their lives. I don’t remember or really know what that feels like. I don’t know because despite participating in graduation exercises in May 2015, I have not graduated and, thanks to the University I gave so much of my life  (AND MONEY) to,  I don’t even know if today was my graduation day.

What? How can this be?!? I saw the pictures! I was there with you when you graduated! Surely, Marissa, you must have your degree after TWO WHOLE YEARS.

Nope. The last two years have been filled with emails, petitions, countless phone calls, sleepless nights, tears, and frustration as NYU holds my future hostage. Buckle up because this is a long story, one that I’m telling today because I am TIRED of WAITING and BEGGING to simply graduate.

You can read the full story on how my future is being held hostage HERE.

Reblog and help my get my story told. Maybe the University will listen.

why are people mean to Steve Buscemi?  People literally go to live events and tell him he’s ugly and freaky to his face.  Why would you ever do that? Steve Buscemi has never done anything to you.  Steve Buscemi is really nice.  He does volunteer work.  He used be a firefighter.  He was the best man at Stanley Tucci’s wedding.  There is literally no reason to be mean to Steve Buscemi.

steve buscemi was piloting his own helicopter and airlifting people out of hurricane katrina’s aftermath before the national guard even showed up he’s such a good dude

Always reblog for good guy Steve Buscemi.

immediately after the 9/11 terrorist attacks on New York in September 2001 Buscemi returned to Engine Co. 55 and spent several days working lengthy shifts with other FDNY firefighters (without publicity), helping to sift through the rubble of the destroyed World Trade Center:

STOP HITTING HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

who here is

please reblog this if your blog is safe for asexuals

(an ace safe space)

This is an acephobia free zone <3

o'course :)

This is specifically for expenses that will probably arise when my daughter receives her kidney transplant (whether living or deceased). It’s a three to four month stay across the state; even if her brothers and our dog end up staying with my mom or with a trustworthy sitter, it’s essentially maintaining two separate households for a quarter of the year. Even staying at the Ronald McDonald House (as I plan to), living expenses (like groceries) will come up. If possible, the Ronald McDonald House requests $20/night from people staying there. I’ve already run into unexpected co-pays from labs.

So as always, if you can donate that’s greatly appreciated; if you can’t, a reblog is also great. Share this far and wide on your social media if you can.

I have deleted my other post and campaign to consolidate with this one. (And I greatly appreciate everyone who donated and shared that one). People are also stepping forward to see if they’re a possible donor match, and that’s wonderful. Hopefully that’ll make this happen sooner rather than later, or at least on a manageable schedule, if it happens. Donors need to between 21-45, in reasonably good health, and O+ blood type. If this is something you’re interested, please contact the University of Washington’s living donor program at 206-598-3627, and mention you’re interested in donating to Dessie McAdams. That begins the process.

She is now officially on the transplant list! She is on-hold status, accruing time. They want to do some more bladder studies, their nephrologist wants to take out her less functional kidney and is going to consult with her local nephrologist about whether to take it out prior to transplant or during, and she needs some additional vaccines.

We’re in the prep stage, basically.

Thank you so much everyone who has donated, reblogged and shared this! Please continue to keep this circulating.

Please, please keep boosting and circulating this. My children no longer want to see my ex-husband, and I am afraid he will follow through on the eviction threats he and his family have made since I initiated divorce.

I’m truly sorry to keep putting this on everyone’s dash but I’m worried and panicky.

I’d like to spend time with gay men too tho. where’s my small beloved group of fun. kind. casual gays and lesbians

2 days after this post I got invited by a lesbian couple I just met to stay the night & watch Moana with them & my friend who’s a gay dude & another gay I just met so this is the gaypost, reblog to bring gay friends to you