Having to call out your male friends on their misogyny is never fun, especially when they try to defend themselves and tone police you and you're left feeling like shit because you felt like it was useless to try and educate him so you let him have his little victory and now you feel like a coward and shitty that you're now obligated to distance yourself from him and lose a friend because his ego was more important than your comfort and safety
ah yes. the classic "I can't sleep because it will be tomorrow in an instant and tomorrow requires things of me and I Simply Do Not Vibe With That". so I'll go through said tomorrow on 2 hours of sleep. very smart and once again no lessons will be learned
Lesbian love teaches you to love yourself. When you love another woman’s body you are loving your own body.
I reach down and grab my own hip. It’s soft and covered in stretch marks and I wonder if anyone could ever find me beautiful. I reach down and grab my lover’s hip. It’s soft and covered in stretch marks and I wonder if Aphrodite is reborn in every woman or just this one.
To learn to love another woman is to learn to love yourself.
This first thing I thought when I woke up from surgery was I am so hungry and I need ramen right now! but the second thing I thought was Oh my god, I'm safe.
I was safe.
I thought about having kids someday, but the thought was always divorced from the concept of having to grow them in my body. Whenever I thought about it, I would either start screaming or my mind would shut down. My worst nightmares featured discovering I was pregnant, and realizing I would have to keep it, and go through childbirth. I was terrified.
I got the surgery, and realized I was safe, and I never had those nightmares ever again. It was like finding out I was bulletproof.
Later, I looked at the broken condom, and I didn't see my life flash before my eyes. I didn't see my hopes and dreams turn to ash as I pivoted all my energy into a child I didn't want. I didn't see a possibility of starvation or homelessness because my already modest income went to a child I couldn't afford. I didn't see my disabled body becoming further disabled, or killed, by a pregnancy that I didn't want.
Read more between the pages commentary: https://www.patreon.com/posts/68216364 (free post, no paywall)
This post was flagged as "adult content" but I successfully (and very quickly) got my appeal approved.
To whatever conservative fuckhead who reported this as inappropriate, it didn't work, and it's still here, and I'm going to keep posting it forever so I can help people obtain the medical care they need. I hope poison ivy fills your yard, and may all your pets forevermore be maliciously incontinent.
I’ve officially forgiven Dublin Bus for all the times they were late or never showed up cos the pride Bus they done with proud dads was the most wholesome thing i’ve ever seen in my life & i still can’t watch it without tearing up omfg
i thought i could keep it together but i lost it at “let’s go to pride, son”
I too lost it at that part
I’m not crying.
You’re crying.
Okay, fine, everyone is crying.
say it george!!
Just gonna go off topic and mention how many times I, a cisgender woman, shave my upper lip because facial hair feels out of sync with my gender identity. I don’t understand why cis people fail to see all the little ways we affirm our gender every day and fail to extrapolate how much more intense it is for trans people.
ah! Everything in this! the switch leading! the hand on the back of his neck! the grace!
Is it too soon to reblog this? Oh, wait: I don’t care. Here it is again.
an explanation is not owed
I’m kinda surprised at how many ‘likes-but-did-not-blogs’ there are on this post….there are absolutely no downsides to not sharing it, regardless of whether or not it fits your aesthetic or even if your page isn’t sexual in nature.
Unfortunately, many guys still need to see this….. (but ovviously it applies to everyone).
Consent is paramount, and the ability to remove consent at any time (yes even after sex has started, if it hurts or you get cold feet or whatev)
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ALWAYS REBLOG WHEN YOU SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS PLEASE; ITS SO MUCH MORE THAN IMPORTANT TO PEOPLE. IT MEANS EVERYTHING TO SOMEBODY AND EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT SEE THIS IN THE SAME LIGHT, SOMEONE MIGHT. INFACT YOU REBLOGGING THIS COULD STOP SOMEONE TAKING THEIR LIFE TONIGHT.
I noticed there isn’t one here for Ireland, so
Irish free suicide helpline: 01-116 123
last time i reblogged this, i got this ask:
so please, please reblog. this could actually save a life.
@everyone
I truly hope you’re all doing ok
[ID: an image of a hand reaching out with an Oreo edited onto it. The hand is offering the Oreo to you.]
REBLOG OR FUCK OFF
Fear is not consent
I WILL REBLOG THIS FOREVER. F O R E V E R
For those in the back;
A lot of you ask how to manage your time efficiently and properly organise your work. We all know it’s impossible to stay motivated and organised all the time, but there are some tricks, that we decided to share, that could at least improve the way we manage our time.
1. Use your calendar You can either stick with the traditional paper version or use a calendar on your phone (Goolge Calendar is a winner for me). Whichever you choose remember to record all of your classes, meetings, deadlines and activities for a week (I strongly recommend to do a brief plan of your week on Sunday afternoon or evening). This way you will see when you have any spare time to fit your studying in. Hovewer remember to leave some time for unexpected events that might show up.
2. Morning planning Each morning spend 5 minutes (or 10 if you’re a very busy person) to plan your day. You can make a time log by dividing the day into hours, if it seems more clear for you. Don’t start any task or check your phone before you get your schedule fixed, because it will get you distracted and time will only fly.
3. Make a to-do list In order not to cover up my whole calendar with tasks I prefer to make a to-do list each day on a different sheet of paper and stick it above my desk. That way everytime I look up I remind myself of the tasks I want to accomplish. I write down a lot of things, but there’s a trick I’ve learned one time: don’t write down things that take less than 5 minutes to do. Just do them the moment they come up to your mind and move onto other chores. It really does save a lot of time.
4. Block out distractions There can’t be anything worse than the moment you realise you’re scrolling through your Facebook or Tumblr again (!) instead of studying. The temptation to check social media is the worst when you need your computer to write an assay or a report. There are some great Chrome extensions that block sites that distract you, such as StayFocused or Cold Turkey. You set a time afer which they are blocked and you can’t visit then anymore. Great tool!
5. Hide your phone It’s also extremely tempting to check your phone all the time, you know just to check if someone liked your new Instagram photo ;) But a quick check usually turns into minutes (or even hours) of scrolling through social media and funny websites. The best idea is to put your phone away so you don’t see it, possibly in a different room. However, if you’re in the library or a coffee shop it’s impossible to do so. In those cases, you can either leave your phone hidden in your bag or use one of the “productivity apps”, such as Forest or Chicken Clock.
6. Know your productive hours If you happen to have a free day form school during the week you probably want to use it to catch up on some studying. The same applies to weekends. A great number of us are most productive and focused in the morning and early afternoon. That’s when we should plan to do our most demanding assignments. When we’re done with them we can then move onto some smaller tasks that don’t require as much focusing.
7. Make a revision schedule —> This one’s really important! A couple of weeks before your exams sit down with your list of exam topics in one hand and your coursebook in the other. Now mark all the chapters or sections in the book that you’ll need to go through for the exam and count the total amount of pages you’ll need to learn. Then divide the number of pages by the number of days you want to spend studying this subject. You’ll get a number of pages you need to cover each day. Then write down in your calendar what section you’re going to learn each day (if you have enough time plan some rest days too!). I find this method extremely helpful in order not to get overwhelmed by the huge amount of work to do and divide my studying into a lot smaller chunks. It’s also super useful at times when I’m feeling totally unmotivated, because I get up and try to do my work anyway.
8. Take regular breaks It’s impossible to work for 4 hours straight without taking a single break (or maybe it’s possible, but the next day you’ll feel dead). Divide your study material into smaller chunks and after completing each part get a short break. Go make yourself a cup of tea or strech a little. After clearing your mind you’ll quickly get back to work with a better attitude.
9. Review your progress Regularly go through your to-do list and calendar to see if your tasks are being achieved. Award yourself with little things is you accomplish your goals and see that you have used your time wisely. But don’t ever punish yourself if you didn’t manage to do everything! We’re only humans and sometimes despite the greatest organisation we can’t manage to cover everything.
10. Be realistic As I’ve said above, don’t get frustrated when you happen not to get everything done as you’ve planned. Sure being organised is great, but don’t let a schedule dictate your life! Take an unplanned day off, have some me-time or randomly meet up with a friend. You’ll see that the next time you get down to work, you’ll have double as much power to get things done.
Good luck!
~gomedorgohome
Hello! I decided during the school year to compile all the resources I used while writing essays as well as other posts I’ve found on tumblr. I’m just posting this now… This shows how awesome I am at procrastinating. Just in time for the new school year, here are some of my favorite essay writing resources!
Editing
Words
Tips
How To
There you have it! Hope these help in your future writing endeavors!
So I’m finishing up my Ph.D. and preparing to depart for the real world (no, just kidding, I’m going to be in school forever, only in a different capacity) and I thought I’d put together a list of some college tips to share with you all. I graduated with my B.A. in 2012, magna cum laude, with 2 majors, 1 honours thesis, 2 on-campus jobs, and 3 music things. Since then, I’ve gone to grad school and also taught six semesters of first-year seminars. Now I’m going on the job market for teaching positions. All of this means that I’ve seen both sides of the college experience, as a student and as an instructor. There are a lot of great & useful college advice posts going around studyblr this time of here, and I wanted to add my own. I hope it’s useful. So here we go, with a “read more” because it’s long (sorry if you’re on mobile):
academics
Taken from Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, daughter of the Tiger Mother
Preliminary Steps 1. Choose classes that interest you. That way studying doesn’t feel like slave labor. If you don’t want to learn, then I can’t help you. 2. Make some friends. See steps 12, 13, 23, 24. General Principles 3. Study less, but study better. 4. Avoid Autopilot Brain at all costs. 5. Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time. 6. Write it down. 7. Suck it up, buckle down, get it done. Plan of Attack Phase I: Class 8. Show up. Everything will make a lot more sense that way, and you will save yourself a lot of time in the long run. 9. Take notes by hand. I don’t know the science behind it, but doing anything by hand is a way of carving it into your memory. Also, if you get bored you will doodle, which is still a thousand times better than ending up on stumbleupon or something. Phase II: Study Time 10. Get out of the library. The sheer fact of being in a library doesn’t fill you with knowledge. Eight hours of Facebooking in the library is still eight hours of Facebooking. Also, people who bring food and blankets to the library and just stay there during finals week start to smell weird. Go home and bathe. You can quiz yourself while you wash your hair. 11. Do a little every day, but don’t let it be your whole day. “This afternoon, I will read a chapter of something and do half a problem set. Then, I will watch an episode of South Park and go to the gym” ALWAYS BEATS “Starting right now, I am going to read as much as I possibly can…oh wow, now it’s midnight, I’m on page five, and my room reeks of ramen and dysfunction.” 12. Give yourself incentive. There’s nothing worse than a gaping abyss of study time. If you know you’re going out in six hours, you’re more likely to get something done. 13. Allow friends to confiscate your phone when they catch you playing Angry Birds. Oh and if you think you need a break, you probably don’t. Phase III: Assignments 14. Stop highlighting. Underlining is supposed to keep you focused, but it’s actually a one-way ticket to Autopilot Brain. You zone out, look down, and suddenly you have five pages of neon green that you don’t remember reading. Write notes in the margins instead. 15. Do all your own work. You get nothing out of copying a problem set. It’s also shady. 16. Read as much as you can. No way around it. Stop trying to cheat with Sparknotes. 17. Be a smart reader, not a robot (lol). Ask yourself: What is the author trying to prove? What is the logical progression of the argument? You can usually answer these questions by reading the introduction and conclusion of every chapter. Then, pick any two examples/anecdotes and commit them to memory (write them down). They will help you reconstruct the author’s argument later on. 18. Don’t read everything, but understand everything that you read. Better to have a deep understanding of a limited amount of material, than to have a vague understanding of an entire course. Once again: Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time. 19. Bullet points. For essays, summarizing, everything. Phase IV: Reading Period (Review Week) 20. Once again: do not move into the library. Eat, sleep, and bathe. 21. If you don’t understand it, it will definitely be on the exam. Solution: textbooks; the internet. 22. Do all the practice problems. This one is totally tiger mom. 23. People are often contemptuous of rote learning. Newsflash: even at great intellectual bastions like Harvard, you will be required to memorize formulas, names and dates. To memorize effectively: stop reading your list over and over again. It doesn’t work. Say it out loud, write it down. Remember how you made friends? Have them quiz you, then return the favor. 24. Again with the friends: ask them to listen while you explain a difficult concept to them. This forces you to articulate your understanding. Remember, vague is bad. 25. Go for the big picture. Try to figure out where a specific concept fits into the course as a whole. This will help you tap into Big Themes – every class has Big Themes – which will streamline what you need to know. You can learn a million facts, but until you understand how they fit together, you’re missing the point. Phase V: Exam Day 26. Crush exam. Get A.
So let’s say you’re in the same boat I am (this is a running theme, have you noticed?) and you’ve just got, like, SO MUCH STUFF that HAS to get done YESTERDAY or you will DIE (or fail/get fired/mope). Everything needs to be done yesterday, you’re sick, and for whatever reason you are focusing on the least important stuff first. What to do!
Take a deep breath, because this is a boot camp in prioritization.
So that’s how to prioritize. Now, how to actually do shit? That’s where the 20/10 method comes in. It’s simple: do stuff like a stuff-doing FIEND for 20 minutes, then take a ten minute break and do whatever you want. Repeat ad infinitum. It’s how I’ve gotten through my to do list, concussed and everything.
You’ve got this. Get a drink and start - we can do our stuff together!
so is Victory
LOVE TRIANGLE
Don’t forget Truth (Coming Out of Her Well to Shame Mankind)
This must be why the Trump administration hates them all
The Four Horsewomen of the Trumpocalypse.
I’ve never reblogged anything so quick
The Ultimate Squad, comin’ to wreck your shit and save the world
Rb for that art doe
