This goes without saying - if you think Ukraine isn't a country and agree that Eastern Europe belongs to Russia(n sphere of influence), you better unfollow this blog.
hm. i think every time i feel an impulse to people please, to be unproblematic and likable and charming and feel the safety that comes with universal adoration, i need to remind myself that i want to be loved like a person, not like a dog.
I liked this post, scrolled for like another minute before I went “SHIT FUCK SHIT” and scrolled back to reblog it
I always reblog this one when I see it on my dash. When someone posts their own art, writing, or music here they are really hoping you will share it.
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I want everyone to know that there are queers in the hollers of Appalachia, in the bayous and marshland of the Deep South, in Southwestern deserts, through the Ozark mountains and up to the Rockies. There are queers in the Great Plains, there are queers in rural America, in trailer parks of the Osage foothills. In the places you least expect us to live, we are here, carving out community and fighting for liberation with pride despite it all. Stop forgetting about us. Stop overlooking our experiences and our impact just because we don’t live in a Big Gay City. And for the love of God, stop looking at us with pity.
Also, there are ALLIES out here.
I live in a no-stoplight town in the south. There are three tractor stores and two animal supply stores within 25 minutes of my house, and we finally got a grocery store, apparently some time this year. We have no McDonald's or any other kind of chain restaurant.
I saw a redneck at the country store face down a guy whining about the trans menace and tell him to act like he had fuckin' southern manners, or move up north.
And that redneck was a better ally than most people online
queer existence is part of the human condition. queer people exist everywhere, in every community. queer people are part of LGBTQ history. and it's way too easy to overlook the experiences of queer folks who live in regions where, for one reason another, other people think they can't exist or don't belong. i fully think that everyone should read about the lived experiences of people outside of their origins. so. i have (America-focused) memoir and nonfiction recommendations!!!
Memoirs Another Appalachia: Coming Up Queer and Indian in a Mountain Place by Neema Avashia
Honor Girl by Maggie Thrash
Prairie Silence by Melanie Hoffert
Like Me: Confessions of a Heartland Country Singer by Chely White
Saving Alex: When I Was Fifteen I Told My Mormon Parents I Was Gay, and That's When My Nightmare Began by Alex Cooper
How We Fight for Our Lives by Saaed Jones
Punch Me Up to the Gods by Brian Broome
¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons by John Paul Brammer
Mama's Boy: A Story from Our Americas by Dustin Lance Black
Boys and Oil: Growing up Gay in a Fractured Land by Taylor Brorby
Diary of a Misfit by Casey Parks
General
Russians moving to Mariupol are ordinary Russians. Those ordinary Russians are taking pics with destroyed homes in the background, they wear propagandist shirts. They climb up them ruins and make videoblogs.
Ordinary Russians are adopting deported children. They don't care those children have been stolen from homes. They lie that their parents gave them up. They are horrified those stolen children speak Ukrainian as an act of rebellion.
Ordinary Russians are supporting Putin. They believe they are the better than others, that God is helping them.
Ordinary Russians are working on the ammo factories and produce shells and bullets and bombs. Those are all ordinary Russians.
Ordinary Russians leave thousands of comments cheering to our deaths and tragedies. Deaths and tragedies done by their fucking country and by their fathers brothers and sons. Who also are, you know, ordinary Russians.
Reminds me of the way Russian tourists visiting my home town in Eastern Finland would line up to take photos and selfies while throwing up victory signs in front of the memorial wall that lists the names of Finnish soldiers killed in the wars. I have family members whose names are on that wall. I can't imagine what it feels like to have the invading country's tourists visit the result of their aggression like some cute tourist site, as fodder for consumption. A cute outing. A picturesque backdrop for a twee, airheaded music video. Fucking hell.
This? This is so fucking ghoulish and jaded. It's atrocious. Where the hell do they get the audacity? I'm sad to say that it doesn't surprise me at all, though. The cause is the same, every time, and the rot is in the root.
This pride and all year long, I want to give a shout out to us fat queer people
To fat queer people who never get to see representation of themselves because the vast majority of queer representation is of thin people
To fat queer people who have to put ten times the effort into their gender expression just to be viewed as 10% of their gender
To fat queer people who get misgendered no matter how they look
To fat queer people who can never present how they want to anyway because affirming clothes in their size are either nonexistent, triple the price, or terrible quality
To fat asexuals who are believed even less about their identity because they're told it's just a matter of "no one wanting to have sex with them"
To fat aromantics who aren't respected because their aromanticism is viewed as "No one loved you anyway"
To fat gay people who have their identities denied because "You just couldn't find a man/woman who wanted you"
To fat nonbinary people whose bodies are viewed in the queer community as inherently gendered and incapable of being androgynous
To fat binary trans people who are always viewed as whatever gender hurts them most
To fat trans people who are denied surgeries due to medical fatphobia, have difficulty finding products like binders in their size, are told that thinness is a must to "pass" as their gender, and have their bodies weaponized by terfs
To fat queer people who are viewed as "cringe" for the crime of existing as fat and queer
To fat queer people who can't even buy pride merchandise without having to worry if their size will be offered and then have to pay more than thin queer people just to show their queer pride
To fat queer people who developed eating disorders due to the fatphobia peddled by their own communities
To fat queer people whose identities are partially influenced or entirely caused by the fatphobia they have experienced for years and decades
To fat queer people who are forced by fellow queer people into sexual positions they're uncomfortable with, such as topping, just because they're bigger and have stereotypes forced onto their body
To fat queer people who joined a relationship and experienced sexual trauma because their partner only wanted to humiliate a fat person and ignore your boundaries
To fat queer people who only see themselves in queer porn as a tool for the humiliation of thin queer people who dared to have sex with a fat person or never see your body in sexual content at all
To fat femmes who are viewed as butch no matter what they do because their fatness is gendered against their will
To fat butches who don't feel able to experiment with femininity if they want to
To fat queer people who have an even harder time finding a partner in the queer community because of rampant fatphobia
To fat queer people who have had to hear "No fats, no femmes"
To fat queer people who are constantly told they're not "truly oppressed" because they "don't have it as bad as [X queer identity]"
To fat intersex people who have to deal with strangers believing they're an expert on your body because fat people can't have knowledge about how their own bodies work
To fat queer people who can't even trust that other queer people fighting for equality won't use fat bodies as symbolism for immoral behaviors and beliefs
To fat queer people who can't rely on doctors who accept queer identities to not still discriminate against them because of medical fatphobia
To fat queer people who don't believe they can be loved without being fetishized
To fat queer people whose queer identities are viewed even more as a fetish because their bodies are viewed as a fetish
To fat queer people who took way longer to realize they're queer because they never saw any queer representation that included them
And to so, so, so many other fat people with experiences of fatphobia in the queer community
You all belong. You are the identities you say you are. You do not make the queer community "look bad" just because fatphobes want to use our bodies as weapons for fatphobia and queerphobia. You deserve to be respected and have representation. You deserve to not be treated as an afterthought.
We are queer, and our experiences matter.
apex + text posts pt. 2 but it’s only the Goggle Wearers for some reason
hold on i have a take that’s going to upset people
a queer woman dating a queer man is just as queer as two people of the same gender dating
btw it’s not “straight passing” or a “straight relationship” it’s a queer relationship. cause we’re queer. cope and seethe etc ✌️
1.5k and only two people being stupid. peace and love on planet mspec
(This also applies to queer platonic relationships!!!!!)
Hell yeah it does
f/m T4T is like extreme levels of queer also even if both people explicitly identify as straight. like yes it's a straight relationship but it's a queer straight relationship ok
Estonians 🤝 Finns
giggling like 5yo when foreigner uses “perse”
we should globally ban the introduction of more powerful computer hardware for 10-20 years, not as an AI safety thing (though we could frame it as that), but to force programmers to optimize their shit better
I reblogged this like 9 times kinda jokingly, but software should be able to run on older and less powerful hardware, and consume less power on newer hardware. Like, this is a real problem imo
Terrarium for tail, or a tailrarium if you will. Blame my discord friends for this pun.
Also, I sliced up my finger in a bout of stupidity so I gave up on this drawing midway 🥲
One thing about the WGA Strike is that Onion article was kinda right. Hollywood shot themselves in the foot with their current standard of cancelling every show people like to produce more and more short-term novelty.
It’s not like we have tons of shows ending on cliffhangers waiting for season six anymore. Due to their greed, they’ve personally taken long-term viewer investment outside and shot it and now they can’t count on it for negotiating power. What are viewers going to be mad about missing out on? The Twilight reboot? Another Star Wars spin-off? Several promising pilot seasons on Netflix with great representation that were already produced and cancelled before they aired and would’ve been even if the strike hadn’t happened?
Not a single monkey survived the Neuralink experiment. I’ll bet Elmo can’t wait to start torturing and murdering human beings with this.
"you're not man enough, not feminine enough"
so gender is something we can fail?
that means gender is not genetic and absolute and unchangeable
but something we can build and perform, and fail at (the standards they set) but also redefine?
if i can fail at being a woman, does that mean i'm not a woman? so does that make me another gender?
Rb to give gender euphoria to the person you reblogged it from
do you guys know about an unauthorised fan treatise.
okay an unauthorized fan treatise is a mystery that makes you feel like a fly on the wall to the world's most batshit fandom drama. the whole thing is told through blog posts from the perspective of gottie, a fan attempting to prove that two of the lead actors in her favorite show are dating, as she uncovers far far more than a relationship
it's got everything: fictitious comment sections full of frighteningly realistic discourse, commentary on invasive and parasocial fan relationships, Ye Olde Flame Wars, fanfic of a show that doesn't exist, and a twist that made me scream irl. i want to study gottie under a microscope
This site has been going around Twitter trans accounts quite a bit lately, so just pointing out here too that it'll do fuck all, they're exploiting trans people at a time when hrt is particularly hard to access and please don't give them your money
fuckin exploitative bullshit marketed in the worst way imaginable
literally selling laxatives as weight loss supplements
Reminder that this is an obvious conservative/alt-right OP that is explicitly made to hurt trans women as much as possible by increasing their testosterone. The cruelty is the point. They're laughing at you. (Look at the "founder"'s photo on their website. It's an AI-generated black person with colored hair. A conservative's idea of what "muh libtards" look like. Additionally, they use their twitter feed to urge trans people and trans activists to share their whearabouts. This is an alt-right OP. Don't fall for it.
Additional info:
I did a whois on the domain. Of course all of the information of the registrants is hidden (pls note the Iceland address is NOT AFFILIATED, this is a known fake address used for privated information on whois lookups)... HOWEVER, look at the registration date. June 2nd. (This would indicate the date the domain was FIRST registered.) Let's look at the obviously fake reviews, shall we?
Would you look at that. There are fake reviews saying they've been on these pills for months, even though the site was just registered. How strange!
But wait, there's more.
Huh. June 1st, 2023.
Huh.
Huh!!!! Interesting!!!
But wait! What about the queerquirk site? Maybe they were selling it there first!
Nah. Shits maybe a week older than estrolabs.com. Their Twitter confirms this.
Please, if you're looking at this and thinking "eh, maybe people are being incendiary or touchy, maybe it's real" - here's hard evidence that it's bullshit. Do not fucking buy this shit.
We need a digital archive of LGBTQ+ works of art, science, and every other conceivable work we can share between each other because we are beyond the genocide warning level in most countries in the west and they're already trying to purge us from libraries.
If other people are interested I'll make this a priority
Speaking as someone with a background in archives, stuff like this does already exist. No need to reinvent the wheel. Creating an archive and making sure it's accessible and searchable and actually preserves things for the long time (especially digital things) is actually a huge undertaking. Show some love to these already existing collections and maybe even consider contributing. There's the Digital Transgender Archive off the top of my head. I know more I just have to think.
The History Project, based in Boston, is an LGBTQ+ community archive that's existed for decades. Many of their collections are digitized.
The Lesbian Herstory Archives, based in Brooklyn, is similar.
The Digital Public Library of America covers a great many topics, but they also have LGBTQ+ stuff.
I'd also recommend searching "lgbtq+" and "libguide" in your preferred search engine. Many universities list helpful resources and databases, some of which are freely accessible.
Many public and academic libraries in the US and Canada (not sure where you're writing from) subscribe to the Gale Archives of Sexuality and Gender. If you have a library card or are a student at a given library, you can access it for free.
In general, I'd really recommend searching around to see how you can support existing museums, community archives, college and university archives, etc that specialize in LGBTQ+ history and media local to you, whether that's in your same town or regionally.
You are not alone! People are working on this and some of them have institutional budgets!
But also kind of looping back to the first post: you personally might have relevant records. Photos of Pride or protests you've been to, journals, a blog full of trans headcanons even. That's all part of queer history and that's the stuff these archives and museums are made of.
Label your stuff carefully, make backup copies, and get to know your local organizations!
We're also working on building an open access archive and actively looking for content contributions! https://about.jstor.org/revealdigital/hiv-aids-the-arts/