"female-initiated disruption of a male hierarchy incites hostile behaviour from poor performing males who stand to lose the most status"
and very, very often, self care is not plants and ice rollers and fluffy blankets of peace.
it’s standing over your kitchen sink and crying while doing the dishes because you just want to go back to bed but the dishes need done. and you don’t know why you’re crying but you're trusting you need it. and you aren’t listening to the music that pulls you into a spiral; you’re listening to some cheerful shit your friend sent you. it’s getting up and staring at your fridge and closing your eyes and then cooking yourself food even though you hate it and it’s miserable. because you know that you’d cook for your friend, and you are trying to befriend yourself. it’s dragging yourself into the shower because you know you’ll feel better afterwards. it’s doing mundane tasks with patience, cursing under your breath, trying desperately to give yourself grace. grace is the beginning of care. care is the beginning of love.
we think it’s supposed to be peace and yet the most powerful self care moments are when we hate everything but especially ourselves. and life does not feel worth the loving. to look into that pain and yet choose to care for yourself in however many pieces you are — that is care. love. grace. trust. belief. it hurts because it’s love where there was no love before. it heals because it believes there will be love, one day, soon.
New more mature way of dealing with being bad at things I thought i would be good at
Sitting whispering to my self " being bad at stuff is normal part of on the way to being good at it" over and over (still angry)
Anonymous asked:
Passing IS stupid!! how do nb ppl even pass!
pass this shit brother
i mean this in the gentlest way possible: you need to eat vegetables. you need to become comfortable with doing so. i do not care if you are a picky eater because of autism (hi, i used to be this person!), you need to find at least some vegetables you can eat. find a different way to prepare them. chances are you would like a vegetable you hate if you prepared it in a stew or roasted it with seasoning or included it as an ingredient in a recipe. just. please start eating better. potatoes and corn are not sufficient vegetables for a healthy diet.
the ten commandments
- thog don't caare
- if it sucks hit da bricks
- play the cards i'm given
- pobody's nerfect
- this mess is a place
- fuck it we ball
- it's so over
- we're so back
- what if the world was made of pudding
- there is good in every day
You don't have to do your absolute best every single day to be loved. You don't have to exhaust 100% of your energy every day and get everything done that's on your to-do list. You're allowed to rest and have days off and do fun things to recharge. Your worth is not measured by the ammount of work you do.
gender to me is like a car i dont really want one and society would be much better if it was not structured around it. but i got one because it helps me get around and sometimes its fun to make it go fast
Baby elephant crossing a river
HIS
LITTLE
TRUNK!!!!!!!
how freaking adorable!!
And also a very practical use!
IT’S SNOOTLING!
#current mood
this show really did cover every type of breakdown a human can have
