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Its Pronounced Like “mew” And “Elevator Music”

@mewzaque

I also run @scribbleymewzaque (my art blog) and @halfghostwriter (my writing blog)
Anonymous asked:

Am I the Asshole for refusing to wash my sister's boyfriend's things?

I (22 NB) have a little sister (19F) with whom I used to be very very close. I'm talking she was my best friend, the person I loved the most, someone that I could rely on even when we had little fights here and there.

It all started when she and her boyfriend (20M) got together. At first nothing really changed since they were best friends before and kinda dating without dating, and I was genuinely really happy for her. I knew him casually from him being her friend and thought he was okay.

Our sibling relationship has really deteriorated ever since they started dating, though. I saw that she was starting to do unreasonable things for his sake (like almost peeing her pants because she didn't wanna "bother his family" by asking for the bathroom after driving an hour and a half to pick him up) and it raised some alarm through all our family, but she doubled down and basically barricaded me out of her personal life as much as she could. Blocked me everywhere, texts to make sure I'm not home if she's gonna be around, that kind of thing. It really made me sad, but honestly its not like I can force her to have a relationship.

Now here is where I might be the asshole.

She's gotten into the habit of playfully "stealing" stuff from him and just leaving it around the house. We have tupperware, cutlery, and of course SO many clothes all belonging to him. I usually do some chores like the laundry when I can, and it used to include her clothes. But recently I just got fed up of doing laundry and having to wash this guy's stuff. He's not even MY guest, and I don't see why I have to wash his underwear when he very reasonably can do it at home.

I told my sister that if she wants to wash his stuff here, even if she's the one wearing it and not him, she has to do it herself. My mom backed me up on it, but my sister got really really upset because she feels that I'm setting this boundary because because I have a classist prejudice against her boyfriend. She said that I am already washing her clothes and my mom's, and the only difference is that they're not as expensive as ours, and so I must have a bias against him.

(For context: One of the reasons I don't like said boyfriend is because he tells my sister she's morally worse than him because we're middle class and he isn't, and I think its super hypocritical that they talk like that and still ask us for a LOT of money for their dates and stuff)

I hadn't thought about that when I talked about the clothes, honestly. I was just sick of him being this invisible roommate I didn't consent to having there. But now I'm wondering if my bias is actually showing. I know I'm privileged, and that privilege is often invisible to those who have it, so now I'm wondering if it really would be so bad to just shut up and ignore his clothes mixed in with ours when I do the laundry. Just because I don't like him doesn't mean I have to be bigoted towards him.

Tldr: My sister's boyfriend is of a lower socioeconomic class. I don't like him for a variety of reasons, but mostly I refuse to wash his clothes with ours and told my sister to do it herself. She accuses me of having a bigoted bias towards his stuff because its not as "nice" as ours.

AITA?

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Some angel worldbuilding. I like to think of angelic skin as like a protective shell, with younger angels being mostly covered for safety reasons while higher tier ones can display innards without much concern

Though theres a difference between an intentional gap in the shell vs it cracking and slowly peeling off

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Some File Recovery demon lore! Feat a rather unfortunate example

Angels outnumbered The Fallen by a great deal so many demons resorted to splitting themselves off to boost numbers. Many also took this root to essentially end their conscious, a thing that is rarely ever allowed for immortal beings such as them.

Splits are essentially their own people, the more simpler way I could prob describe this method is 'Reverse 2048'

Also a fun lil fact but Stolforns and Sezzi are of the same Split tree, with the latter often calling the other his brother.

Had a random thought:

Danny Phantom & Monster's Inc.

Would Danny's ghostly wail fill the scream canisters faster than a scared scream? Would it not work at all bc he does it while a ghost and not a human? Or maybe it wouldn't work bc its not a scared scream but a defensive yell?

Idk, I just started wondering what it would be like for monster's inc trying to bottle his screams

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Seperate thought:

How about his dying scream? If they had a monster there when it happened, how many canisters would that one scream fill? Would they see his ghost form as still counting as a human? Or would they see him as a baby monster and in need of rehoming? XD

Imagine your coworker walks into a door, all silver with neon green lines and the occasional space sticker, and later walks out with an unconscious child. Only - they don't look like what you've been warned a human looks like. Their hair keeps shifting, almost like its floating wisps, the kid's legs keep merging and twisting and then separating while changing opacity, and arching streaks of green lightning race across his arms. What kind of an emergency is it? Who do you call? What do you do???

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There's a huge investigation as to how a child monster got trapped in the human world. Danny is given to very very doting parents till they can find where his real monster parents are. And there's a ton of media coverage of the brave little boy who survived on his own for who knows how long after being abandoned in the horrid human world.

There's a manhunt out for whoever put a child in with the humans. Everyone is furious and Danny's foster parents get so many gifts and donations in a single week that he already has a college fund to get him a doctorate if he wants.

The scream factory is also investigated to see if they were the ones to let someone throw a child into the human world. So any wrongdoing would be found out in the investigation. And Danny would start attending Monster school shortly after.

I think someone's going to go online and put a thoery that someone took the child to use him as an energy booster and that there is a chance that the child used a door to escape or that the one using him hid him in the human world so no-one would find him.

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That theory is made after discovering his ghostly wail one day when he wakes up from a nightmare screaming. They also start to think his humanlike features are from experimentation to make him a proper energy source in the conspiracy theory and that's why the humans took him in. Assuming he was one of their own.

So what's Danny's response to an entire world of people gaslighting him into believing he isn't human and never was?

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Well he's described as a baby monster so I'm picturing him as like age 5-7. So at that point I don't think he'd really have the reasoning skills to refute the arguments. Also I don't think it's gaslighting. Gaslighting implies intentional lying. Not just sharing what you think is true and teaching it to a kid and being wrong.

i think we should all go back to carrying cheap little plastic mp3 players that look strangely edible and only hold like 200 songs

listening to unwritten just as natasha bedingfield intended

Batman acts as a secondary parent mentor to all the young justice members, so when a mentorless Dani Phantom joins it was only natural that he tried to be a parent mentor to her as well.

Because she's never had a parental mentor figure, Dani's very confused about what Batman's doing.

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When questioned about who she goes to? Like, her big brother and sister! Obviously. Why would she ask anyone else?

Parents? Don't have those. Not in our family of misfits.

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Dani having learned about family dynamics through disney movies and his colleagues: I mean, yes I only have my brother and my sister, it's not weird, it's quite common …. why you all look at me like that?

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Why do you look so sad for me? I don't need parents? Why would I? I'm very capable of looking after myself!

JL: ... somebody adopt this child! Not you Batman. Let someone else have a chance.

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Dani: seriously, I've been around the world like 4 and a half times alone, without luggage or budget and I've done very well and now with the young justice I have a room and a computer just to me now. What more? not one or two silly and restrictive adults anyway

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"And anyway! Who trusts adults! They only even as t to hold you into the image they have in their minds! Nope! No way! "

JL*concern intensifies*

Dani: Last time I trusted an adult it almost got me turned to goop after he tried to kill my brother. Thats a lesson you only learn once.

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JL are concerned. Please, please let one of us help you?