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@meme-machinee

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boypaw-s

hey uh I hate to tell you this but your golden retriever boyfriend comes from a pet store and not a reputable breeder

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fishfag

I'll become his reputable breeder

#WHEEZE
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dumb-rat-man
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monstermoviedean

daily reminders

  • no human being is 100% happy 100% of the time
  • being a person is extraordinarily difficult even in the best of times
  • this is not the best of times
  • someone is grateful you exist (don't argue, it's true)
  • a bad day does not predict a bad existence
  • it's gonna be okay
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thenerdy-1
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willowcrowned

Maybe it’s just because I’m Jewish but I do truly believe that life gets ten times better when you learn to complain cheerfully

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willowcrowned

I think a part of it is that it lets you acknowledge that something sucks, which is actually really good in a culture that wants us to pretend that everything is fine and we’re soldiering through all the time. Like, no, my grocery bag breaking and spilling all over the floor is not fine. I’ve had a long day and I’m really upset and on the verge of tears because I can’t handle one more thing and pretending like it’s fine only means breaking down later.

But if you let yourself complain, if you let yourself swear terribly and creatively, and you stare down at the bruised vegetables like they’ve personally disappointed you, and you make yourself smile because this is really just so, so stupid, you feel a little better. There’s a power to acknowledging that something sucks and making yourself feel better anyways. There’s a power to going “and THEN my bag broke, and it’s like—seriously? my day was bad enough” and doing it with a smile.

You shouldn’t have to pretend things are fine when they aren’t. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to smile through things that make you feel terrible. But if you can make yourself laugh by staring down at some strawberries that have decided to revolt, and give them a lecture on why they’re just terrible, really, and that makes you smile—then maybe that’s a good thing.

meme-machinee

Ok maybe it's just the Autism™️ speaking here but one social standard i have NEVER understood is.... limiting your visible enthusiasm for other people's joy??? Especially when it's centered around objects. Bc apparently a lot of neurotypical folks (in my experience) assume you like.... want to be given whatever the object of attention is?

An example that came up several times as i grew up:

I absolutely adore seeing people open gifts! It's fun & exciting for me to see others' enthusiasm for what theyre recieving, whether or not i am the one gifting it is irrelevant. "Yay! You got something you wanted and will bring you daily use/entertainment/happiness/etc.! Good for you!!"

But if i was (somehow) "too vocal" about said excitement, i would get comments like "you know it's not for you right?" or "geez, you sound like YOU'RE the one opening a present right now", as if thats a bad thing, or they're assuming im planning to take the gift?

Or once as a young adult a former friend bought some adorable fuzzy socks w/ animal faces on them, so my brain was fixated on it a little & i kept commenting on how cute/soft they were, asked where they got them so i could look for some, etc. And then [ex-friend] offered me a pair, but it kind of felt like they didn't actually want to give them to me? Even after i clarified i wasnt asking & double-checked [friend] was sure abt it, the offer itself felt so stilted and undesired.

I dunno. Is this something other autistics have experienced? I genuinely have never understood this. To me it feels like an animal resource guarding - but I don't WANT to take anything from them, why is me being happy for their happiness considered offensive/greedy???

#rambling#autism things#social cues#uhhhhh idk how else to tag this bc i dont rly like the 'actuallyautistic' tag most ppl use#feels icky to me#autism spectrum disorder#genuinely interested in what others might have to say about this tho#NT or ND im curious what your take here is! feel free to comment in tags or smth#op posting#im wearing the socks from the story and it just made me go on a lil thought spiral i guess#there's a tear in one of em. I'll probably have to get rid of em soon#the material doesnt mend well
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toffyandsalt
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ziggyplayedd

hey guys unpopular opinion but you’re not a bad person if you don’t care about every bad thing happening in the world all the time, or if you do care but you’re not constantly reblogging posts spreading awareness and information

it’s okay if you’re just on tumblr to have fun and reblog things you like or that make you happy.

humans aren’t made to process trauma and suffering on a worldwide scale without any breaks whatsoever & the internet has created an unprecedented access to bad news so please never feel guilty for scrolling past it because you can’t process it! and you’re not doing anything wrong & there’s no need to feel guilty