The more you love your own decisions the less you need others to love them.
welcome in a new month ♡
- set goals for self development
- plan brunch & dinner dates with friends
- read 5-10 books
- indulge yourself more in your hobbies. do what you love unapologetically.
- have more rest days without guilt
- reflect on last month. what can you do differently that’ll help your overall state of being? physically, mentally & spiritually
- stay off social media
- do the butterfly hug method for bilateral stimulation. tell yourself all the things you wish you were/are told. ♡
- make slight adjustments to your morning and night routine. keep it interesting.
- schedule routine appointments (health, pamper)
- get on top of deadlines.
- say affirmations every morning & night
- be more kind to yourself
- stay firm on your boundaries, make adjustments as needed.
- stand up and show up for yourself.
- walk with your head held up high and shoulders back. don’t cower.
- prepare for any upcoming events
- learn a new skill
- try a new recipe
- journal often
- explore new places. meet new people and make friends.
- keep your thoughts in check. what you focus on grows.
- daily walks
- meditate, stretch.
- declutter your environment (digital, physical space, social circle)
- be safe.
Maturing is accepting you won't always get all the answers or apologies for the shit that hurt your heart...but you heal anyway.
how i organize myself and you can do it too (tips)
i get a lot of questions about this topic and I have decided to make a post about it so that you can understand it better and apply it.
how do i get organized? i organize myself with a to-do list, it's the simplest and easiest way for me but there are other ways, but today I'm going to focus only on this one. I use an app called "todoist" there are many more or even the option to write down what you have to do and your tasks in a notebook.
it is much better to write down what we are going to do the afternoon or the night before so that the next morning we can wake up knowing that we have a list of things we have to do already written down.
do not copy anyone's routine, it can serve as inspiration and motivation, but you have to create your own routine adapted to your current circumstances and even to the goals you want to achieve, this depends on each person.
in the mornings, i recommend that the first activities are the ones that are hardest for you to do, that is, if you don't like to exercise very much, start with that. we can also change our minds about it, look at the positive side of the activity and what it will benefit us, and then we will feel happy and proud of having completed it.
in the evening it is better to do quieter activities so that our body gets ready to rest. here you can do activities that are less heavy, for example, you can dedicate time to your body care or to reading.
If you have to do a heavier activity in the afternoon, like playing a sport because that is your schedule, that's fine. or if you have to study, i recommend that you use the pomodoro method because it includes breaks and this will help you to clear your mind.
i write down in my to-do list every day what i have to do tomorrow, that is to write the list for tomorrow, that will help to keep it.
if you find it hard to find the motivation, ask yourself why? what new activity would you like to include? include it and the fact that you have to do that will give you motivation. it is clear that sometimes we have to do things that we don't like or are more boring, but as i said before we can take the positive side. for example, if you have to clean why not do it by listening to a podcast or music? there is no one way to find motivation, i don't think you have to do anything specific, it's just a mentality towards life, towards how we see things. so if you are a person who finds it hard to find motivation, look for something that you like to do and that makes you get out of bed, because that is much more beneficial. it is important that we start to look more for ourselves and for what really benefits us, for the good that we are doing, I think that is enough motivation.
if you have many things to do in the day, it is not impossible to do them all, on the contrary, you just have to organize yourselves with this list and there is always room for everything! you always have 5 minutes to meditate, to do your skincare.
as i said, you can put the smaller tasks in between or at the end of the day.
this is just a guide and i hope it will help you to create a perfect routine and therefore your best version.
if you have more questions you can ask me of course!
Healthy habits I'm developing for 2023
It's already April and I'm still in that rut of sleeping at 2am, buying a quick fix of candy at the store when I have fruit at home, eating too many carbs and skipping the gym. Now, I'm getting my shit together.
It's easy to disguise bad habits with excuses. "Oh, I have exams coming up". "Work's been really draining lately". But if you don't change now, you'll be stuck in that same loop for the rest of your life.
Prioritising health:
- Sleeping 7-8 hours every night: To end my absolutely atrocious amount of screen time, I've decided to delete all those distracting apps on my phone. It's hard, but worth it. Now I won't be tempted to scroll on Instagram when I should be sleeping.
- Making healthy food choices: Choosing homemade granola over chocolate bars, banana bread over Nutella sandwiches, and homemade nachos over packaged chips makes a huge difference.
- Working out: l go to the gym daily, but lately, I've been lazy and slacking off. So I want to start going again along with squeezing in a run in the evening. Finishing at least 8k steps every day. Moving my body in some way, whether it's dance or yoga.
- Water: I have a bad habit of forgetting to drink water, even when it's right in front of me. So I've downloaded some water reminders to help me remember to drink. I've also decided to incorporate lemon honey iced tea into my diet because I'm a fiend for it.
Working smart:
- Creating a to-do list: Committing to knocking off at least three things on a to-do list and gradually increasing the number of tasks.
- Keeping devices away: I've started keeping my phone in my mom's room while I work, or I lock it in my cupboard so I won't get distracted, and I use extensions like WasteNoTime and StayFocusd to block unnecessary websites.
- Dividing time: Making a schedule for my day, so I can divide school studies, sketching practice and homework. It is so important to block out parts of the day for morning and night routines and self-care.
Cleansing my life:
- A clean workspace: Clean up my desk every day, so I can sit in an uncluttered space, and keep my racing mind calm.
- Making my bed: Focusing on making sure my bed is clean first thing in the morning, so I have a place that's clean and warm after a long day.
- Deleting social media: It was difficult, but I did it. Fighting the temptation to log in again is real, but I'm slowly coming to realise I don't care what people are posting on their stories, and the FOMO is slowly fading.
- Toxic people: Getting rid of toxic friends, and deleting numbers and chats of people are who no longer important in my life. Having access to me is a privilege.
- Self-care: Every Sunday, I'm setting aside a few hours for myself. During that time, I'll be having a long shower, deep conditioning my hair, using a scrub and exfoliator, shaving, moisturizing, and eating something nice. I'll be baking something for the rest of the week so I won't resort to junk food for dessert or snacks.
Understanding and knowing what you want in life is the first step to beginning your journey. Don't let others make you feel guilty for putting yourself first. It's your life, and ultimately, it's only you who can change it.
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