“Here’s a horrifying statistic. Did you know that almost half of marriages these days do not end up in divorce? That means there’s a strong probability that you two get to watch each other die. And that’s the preferred outcome. To truly love another person is to accept that the work of loving them is worth the pain of losing them. And that’s it. That’s all.”
Mike Fanagan, “The Haunting of Bly Manor”
Self improvement is great but ultimately? you have to accept your self. Yes you can eat better, exercise more, read more, set boundaries, love your self, but it all comes down to this. Some days you won’t have the energy to do any of these things. And you’ll look in the mirror and think that this is not enough. That’s a lie. The biggest love for self is to live slowly. To rest. To really rest. Have a nap. Eat what makes you feel good. Read if you want to. Embrace yourself and accept that you cannot and will not be ever be perfect. Accept that you are good enough. You don’t need to keep busy all the time. you don’t need to go out all the time and post on instagram. You don’t need to journal if you don’t want to. You don’t need to make art if you don’t want to. Breathe, give yourself grace and compassion. Give yourself the love and tenderness you so badly need. Be gentle with yourself. You are trying and it is good enough. You are good enough.
A beautiful poem that illustrates my point
Home of Florence Welch
Dunya Mikhail, from Diary of a wave outside the sea (trans. Elizabeth Winslow and Dunya Mikhail) [ID'd]
"We read to know we're not alone."
- William Nicholson, Shadowlands
“Spilled my heart here” I saw this on my walk today and it broke my heart..
the teapot by Robert Bly
god I would be UNSTOPPABLE if I was capable of consistently initiating tasks. just you wait. you'll be waiting a while but just you wait
“In the dream, you cracked me open with your fingers and ran your thumbs across the wound I am.”
— Nicole Callihan, from “True Story W/ Horse,” The Shallow Ends (16 August 2018)
There is still love here (Ceramic house)
The Farewell (2019)
what companies who sell you anti aging stuff don't want you to know is that if you're chill about aging, your perception of attractiveness changes as you get older. there is no "wall" where you suddenly become ugly and unfuckable because in my experience what actually happens is you get into your thirties and suddenly realize that people in their thirties are hot as fuck and the "flaws" that the beauty industry wants you to panic about are a feature not a bug, and based on the std statistics in nursing homes I don't really expect that trajectory to change.
