“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”
— Paulo Coelho
“Learn to say no without explaining yourself.”
— Unknown
"Some days she is a warrior. Some days she is a broken mess. Most days, she is a bit of both. But every day she is there. Standing. Fighting. Trying." - Unknown
"I know this transformation is painful, but you’re not falling apart; you’re just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be beautiful." - William C. Hannan
"My darling, you are allowed to fail without being a failure. You are allowed to make mistakes without being one. More opportunities will present themselves. You will find hope again." - Unknown
Attitudes and Mindsets that can Change your Life
1. Knowing deep inside that you are good enough.
2. Believing you can do it, and believing you can make it.
3. Choosing to be grateful when you feel like complaining.
4. Choosing to hang in there when you feel you’ve had enough.
5. Knowing each new day is a true gift and fresh beginning.
6. Valuing others, and treating others well.
7. Investing in people instead of chasing things.
Stop …
1. Hanging out with people who don’t appreciate you, or who suck all the energy out of your life.
2. Running from your problems and hiding from the truth
3. Acting as a door mat and putting yourself last.
4. Longing for the past and the way things used to be.
5. Beating yourself up for the stupid things you did
6. Looking to others to make you feel happy, or believing that “stuff” will bring you happiness.
7. Rejecting new relationships because you were hurt, or becuase you were disappointed in the past.
8. Being jealous of other people. It’s not a competition – set some goals, and go for them.
9. Holding grudges. Forgive, let it go – and then move on with your life.
10. Trying to be perfect. It’s not realistic so don’t waste your time.
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.”
— Khalil Gibran
“Trauma creates change you didn’t choose. Healing creates change you DO choose.”
— Michelle Rosenthal
How to Start Loving Who You Are
1. Start by being kind and gentle with yourself. There are plenty of people who would love to criticise … So be your own protector and your own best friend.
2. Choose self-love over self-hatred. Many people find they veer between these two extremes – but over time gravitate more towards one or the other (through automatic thinking and their inner dialogue) … So actively reject self-hatred, and then exercise self-love.
3. Stop being harsh and judgmental, and accept your imperfections. We’re all flawed and broken, and we all make bad mistakes.
4. Start enjoying who you are, and being alone with yourself. Embrace solitude, and the chance to be with “you”.
5. Think of all the different things you’re grateful for in life, and the people who have loved you, and have seen the good in you. As you do that, you will start to value who, and what, you are.
“Happiness is pretty simple: someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to.”
— Rita Mae Brown
7 things to remind yourself of every day …
1. I am unique
2. I am worthwhile
3. I am worthy
4. I can change
5. I can make it
6. I can succeed
7. I can be happy and have a great life.
“Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.”
— Unknown
“Listen closely: the only time it’s too late to change yourself is when you’re dead. Until then, you’re simply making excuses or lying to yourself.”
— Unknown
“I feel unspeakably lonely. And I feel - drained. It is a blank state of mind and soul I cannot describe to you as I think it would not make any difference. Also it is a very private feeling I have - that of melting into a perpetual nervous breakdown. I am often questioning myself what I further want to do, who I further wish to be; which parts of me, exactly, are still functioning properly. No answers, darling. At all.”
— Anne Sexton
“Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end.”
— Robin S. Sharma
“Some people aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their needs change, so does their loyalty.”
— Unknown
“You might think that you don’t matter in this world, but because of you someone has a favourite mug to drink their tea out of each morning that you bought them. Someone hears a song on the radio and it reminds them of you.Someone has lengthened their way to home just to walk on your street. Someone has read a book you recommended to them and gotten lost in it’s pages searching for a message, thinking you left it with that book. Someone’s remembered a joke you told them and smiled to themselves on the bus. Never think you don’t have an impact.Your fingerprints can’t be wiped away from the little marks of kindness that you’ve left behind.”
— Unknown
“potential is an easy thing to fall in love with, but it’s also such an easy thing to waste. i hope the connections you keep don’t keep you waiting in spaces where progression is stagnant, and if they do, i hope you gain the awareness and courage to move where growth exists.”
— iambrillyant