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dabwax
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dabwax

I said on one of my intersex posts that it was to educate queer and trans folks on intersexism and someone added the tag "cishets need to learn too" and sure but

It's Worse when the people you'd expect to care or understand simply don't and refuse to learn. I expect that from cishets, but I shouldn't have to expect that from other queer adults. I also don't hang around cishets at all. I barely leave the house and when I do it's for queer events or to go to the queer clinic full of queer people. Perisex cishets aren't on my radar of people I want to give a shit about intersex people.

I've experienced vile intersexism from people who are not cis, who are not het. I've experienced medical intersexism from my trans doctor. It is more important for my mental health for people whose struggles align with my own to understand that, than for people who are outside my universe to understand.

I can expect a group of perisex cishet men to stand in a corner talking and laughing about killing me. What I shouldn't expect is other queer folk participating in erasing me and my experiences, telling me I can just go back in the closet if I don't like how I'm treated, telling me that my life isn't worth fighting for alongside other queer folks.

#intersexism
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haberdashing
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haroldhighballjordan

sometimes I randomly think about the time a girl posted in this girls only Facebook group I’m in telling everyone how she broke up with her boyfriend and he lied saying that he lost the spare key she gave him, only to then break into her apartment when she wasn’t home and steal the cat they’d adopted while they were together, but then he denied having done this and she didn’t really have proof that he took the cat since he wouldn’t let her come into his place and look for it. And then another girl saw this post and knew her ex-boyfriend, and she was like “girl. I used to hook up with your mans back in xxxx and I still have his number. If you want, I’ll hit him up and get him to invite me back to his place and see if your cat’s there.” And the OP was like “bet.”

So this woman hit up homie dog, asked him out for drinks, went home with him, slept with him, and then woke up in the middle of the night and TOOK THE CAT. Like she had only said that she would confirm if the cat was there but then she took it upon herself to steal this woman’s cat back. Like she full on Trojan horsed this man and then hit up homegirl like “I got the goods. Where you wanna meet.” And then the two of them posted a photo of them together with the cat to the group.

And I just think women supporting women is so beautiful.

#girls rule
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madmaudlingoes
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eternalgirlscout

not gay as in happy, but queer as in i love you

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eternalgirlscout

i don’t mean this as a joke. i mean this as an expression of what queer means to me. this is the core of it: love, but radically. love, but in defiance. and i don’t mean “love is love” either; i mean love like militant solidarity between queer women and queer men and all other iterations and permutations of both and neither and something else. i mean love like trans self love. like decolonizing gender. i mean love like found families, like vows beyond and intentionally distinct from marriage. i mean love is a riot. i mean a love that transcends hunger. i mean love like disruption, like breaking concrete foundations like frost and thaw because to live otherwise is unthinkable or unlivable or simply and plainly unwanted

i mean queer like a shot-glass or a sledgehammer. something that shatters borders, that tears down walls and does not, cannot build them. i mean genderqueer queerplatonic we’re here we’re queer qpoc queer theory queer liberation queer Queer QUEER

i love this so much, this is fucking everything

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grison-in-space

yes, and: and love of the strange, love of the changeable and unusual, love of the diversity for its own sake; love of individuals in all their infinite permutations!

a Walt Whitman sort of love for all the complexity and wonder and strangeness of all my fellow humans, and all the connection that holds us all together. yes. yes.