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@meadowdaydreams

Enjoy the little things 🌻🌿🌾

if you are lucky you will love someone and their hair will thin and their breasts will sag and you will kiss them everywhere over and over again

I was having a conversation with someone who was lamenting over how to maintain attraction to our partners as their bodies change and age and feeling self conscious herself about that process and I was like. we should be so lucky as to see them through these many years as we are seen ourselves. Hope that helps u understand

"Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.'

'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit.

'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.'

'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?'

'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

-The Velveteen Rabbit, Margery Williams Blanco

It is arrogance in us to call frankness, fairness, and chivalry ‘masculine’ when we see them in a woman; it is arrogance in them to describe a man’s sensitiveness or tact or tenderness as ‘feminine.’

C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

if the one you love tells you, in a sexual setting: "you can do anything you want with me", and your response is to hurt her, you do not love her. that's it, that is the only thing. if you truly love someone, you don't look for permission or consent to harm her. if she is your beloved, you simply do not wish any hurt to befall her, and if you do, i implore you to question why you think that love can exist alongside a desire to hurt that person. if you orgasm when hearing your partner weep from pain - pain YOU inflicted nonetheless - how is that love? how can anyone ever call such a thing love?

This is actually how I came to conceptualise that asking for sexual partners to hurt me was wrong. Thinking about if the roles were reversed- would I want to hurt them? Of course not. Why were they ok with hurting me? And who taught me to ask for that?

It’s bizarre that some people consider learning about the reality of hell a “religious trauma.”

My guy, if you touch fire, it will burn you. If you slice your hand with a sharp blade, it will cut you. What good parent wouldn’t warn their child about either of these things?

There are consequences for your actions.

That said, if your focus (Christian or not) is entirely on the reality of hell and not on the incredible love of God and His promises for those who love Him, it’s time to reevaluate. Our focus shouldn’t be “I’m going to hell/you’re going to hell/they’re going to hell”

Rather, “My desire is to be with God and my hope is in His promises.”

This is why Christianity is a cult. It's all about spin and reframing.

All about "you deserve to be burned so why are you complaining?" and none about "the person telling you about the fire lit the flame."

Exactly. Fuck op ❤️

No. If you choose to live outside of God in this world, that decision will follow you into the next. Because God is literally love and all things good, hell is painful because it is the isolation from Him (and all things good).

God didn’t light it and I would never wish anyone to experience that kind of pain. He doesn’t desire anyone to experience it either. He calls everyone to be a saint.

“Oh child of suffering, be patient. God has not passed you over in His providence. He who is the feeder of sparrows will also furnish you with what you need. Take up the arms of faith against a sea of trouble. There is one who cares for you. His eye is fixed on you, His heart beats with pity for your woe, and His omnipotent hand will bring you the needed help. The darkest cloud will scatter itself in showers of mercy. The blackest gloom will give place to the morning. He, if you are one of His family, will bind up your wounds and heal your broken heart.”

— C.H. Spurgeon