Dear xxxtentacion supporters,
I want to address this because many people have been and continue to be confused as to why I do not support xxxtentacion. So, here are some points as to why I do not like him.
There are two common arguments that most people like to use against my argument. These are the subjects I will be focusing on. They are on very opposite sides of the spectrum (they literally contradict each other) but are still commonly used together.
“yes, x is an abuser, did assault and abuse Geneva but it doesn’t matter.”
Usually when people argue this they have more points to back it up such as:
* he made good music (He actually made abusive music, I talk about it further down)
I am here to tell you that these points are the epitome of an abuser sympathizer. So, to make things completely clear, what people are truly saying is, abuse is okay if....
But all I hear is “abuse is okay” but abuse is never okay. I do not care about any of the good deeds he has done during his life, nothing will take back or fix the abuse.
X did not save lives. Unless I am unaware of him saving a drowning victim, running into a burning building to save someone, or literally giving someone a kidney.....he did not save any lives. Sorry to break it to you. He may have impacted your life in a positive way somehow. You may have been able to relate to him. But x did not solely “save” anyone from depression. And if he did solely save you from depression then you were never truly depressed in the first place. Sure his music may have helped you though a hard time, there’s no doubting that, but he did not “save” lives. EVEN IF HE DID ITS NO EXCUSE. Depression and anxiety disorders are serious issues that have to be diagnosed. They are not curable, but they are manageable. X is not a doctor, he may have been a way for people to find joy but that is the extent of what X did.
If him donating to charities and doing suicide prevention tactics is true I would not be surprised. This is because it is a common domestic abuse sign. Domestic abusers are AMAZING PEOPLE to everyone but their victims. They are manipulators. An example of this would be outlined in paragraph 14 of this article. LINK ONE*
With the example of x, he does things publicly to keep up appearances. He’s nice to his fans and the people who support him, he does good things now and then to make us forget about the allegations of what he does behind closed doors. It is typical abuser behaviour.
His past and childhood also is inadmissible. Him growing up in the “ghetto” must have been extremely hard, I understand that. It’s very tough to get out of a poor situation. He was probably seen as one of the lucky ones, who was able to get out and sustainably provide for themselves and their families. But this is not an excuse for abuse. It may be a reason for his abusive tendencies but it is not something that excuses the crimes.
He was a relatively wealthy man. If he applied himself and actually wanted to get better, he had the means to find himself help. It was also obvious that he needed some sort of guidance due to his extensive assault track record and his song lyrics. His defence lawyer, family, and close friends that claimed X was “bettering” himself should have helped and done something too.
Some people might argue that he donated to a women’s charity so he has bettered himself. But what charity? What money? Where is it? The founder of the alleged charity claims that they never saw any money from x himself.
I googled this for the most unbiased result as possible.
He also shows no signs of remorse or even emotion towards the accusations. I would like to think that a non abuser would be appalled by accusations such as these, would dedicate serious time and effort into bettering the situation. But we never saw how he was “dedicating himself to spreading a positive message”. This is all outlined in the link below where a video is seen, he jokes about domestic violence and the feminist movement after the allegations of abuser were public. LINK THREE*
As well, he has shown homophobic tendencies. X recalled in an interview that he almost murdered his cell mate because he thought the cell mate was gay. This is another example of how he has shown no signs of trying to improve himself. And how he continues to brutally attack innocent people.
ALSO if he was trying to do better and change, why was it that in only a few months, a video surfaced of x punching a woman in the face? Even if it was a “joke”, which by the look on his face seems that it is not, it would be a pretty bad one due to the recent accusations of domestic violence, as well as the claims of x bettering himself. HOW has he “learned his lesson” and “bettered himself” if he continues to assault not only women, but people in general?
Personally, my interpretation of this video is that x was with this girl who thought she was sick for hanging out with a famous rapper. She decided to snapchat a video of them together and he didn’t like that so.....
THAT IS NOT FACT it’s just my interpretation of the situation from an outside perspective.
AND if he was bettering himself then why did he violate his his pre-trial agreement from previous assault charges? LINK FOUR*
In conclusion, this argument does not make sense because there is no valid proof that he wanted to change and become a better person.
“Geneva was lying the entire time and x is not a domestic abuser.”
Well, as you can see above in the video that he is, but let’s say hypothetically, that video did not exist.
We have the legal facts of the case. X was essentially charged with a few domestic abuse charges, battery of a pregnant women, witness tampering, and false imprisonment.
In order to actually be arrested one needs to be either caught in the illegal act by a police officer or there needs to be probable cause that one has committed or will commit a crime. In order for an officer to have probable cause there must be “specific facts and circumstances, rather than simply from the officer's hunch or suspicion”. Therefore, an arrest after the fact of the crime or, of a crime that an officer did not see with their own eyes, must have supported facts and proof before it is made. So in the case of x, he was not literally seen by police domestically abusing Geneva. But when Geneva went to the police she had enough facts and proof to back up her story, they were able to make an arrest off of probable cause. LINK FIVE*
The odds of the domestic abuse claims actually getting to the point of an arrest is very low. This is due to the instances indicated in this article. LINK SIX*
Therefore, in the case of x and Geneva, it is very likely that the facts in the arrest warrant are true because the case was not only just reviewed by police but also sought out by the police to end in an arrest. LINK SEVEN*
Also, the only person who is more disrespected than the black man in America is the black woman. The narrative that x was treated unfairly by the justice system is hard to comprehend because yes, the system is racist and there’s no doubt about that. However, if this case was about race, then the domestic violence charges from the beginning never would have been pursued. The original officers who took time to listen to Geneva would have never arrested x if this was a race issue because it started with a black woman. They would have not listened to her story and swept her statements under the rug, like they have many other cases, because they do not care about a black woman’s well being. But this is all hypothetical because that did not happen. They listened to Geneva and believed her. They believed the black woman. Therefore, for this specific case, race was not an issue regarding x’s arrest.
X was never found “not guilty” by the courts because the trial never happened. The government and legal system did drop the charges because there is no point in trying someone for a crime if they have passed away. Once again, x was never tried for the domestic violence charges because the courts do not try dead people. A dead person cannot be charged or not charged with a crime. Therefore the charges were dropped after he was killed he was not found “not guilty”.
Finally, Geneva never admitted to lying from what I can see. The only physical thing I have seen regarding lying from Geneva was her changing her instagram username to “liar”. She did not come out with a statement as to why she did this so it can only be interpreted by the public. Many interpret it as her confession without any further evidence or a statement of lying. My interpretation of it is that during the time she changed the name, x had just died. She was getting many awful messages from his supporters and she was being called lots of names. One of these names was ‘liar’. So I think that she changed the name to appease the hate messages she was receiving. I look at it as ‘you are what other people see you as’ type of situation. She was reclaiming the hurtful message and taking it back for herself.
Other than Geneva changing her ig name she has not “confessed” anything. If I am wrong about this and there is other factual information that she said please send it to me but from my research this is the only “confession” I saw.
Don’t you think that if she did confess to lying about the entire situation it would be all over her and x’s social medias? Wouldn’t the x supporters want to blast that everywhere so everyone could see it and know their fave was not a bad person? The answer is yes, it would be front page news if she came out with a statement retracting her charges, but she hasn’t (from what I can see).
Again, let’s have a hypothetical situation. Even IF she did have a statement come out, completely lying about everything. Why would you believe it? If she was lying before why would she be telling the truth now? What makes you trust her all of a sudden? And if she did come out with this type of statement I wouldn’t believe that it was true. I would think that the threats and the disrespectful messages x’s fans were sending her, finally got the best of her. They have before. Earlier in domestic abuse case she tried to retract her statement to a judge. But the judge did not believe her and did not let her drop the charges because he believed x had tried to persuaded her into it. In return to that, he got another witness tampering charge placed onto his arrest. So if not even a judge believed Geneva when she tried to retract her statement and drop the charges, then why should we?
What she did publicly say was this
In conclusion, it is very unlikely that Geneva lied about the abuse she endured from x.
I also have some more points that x stans like to use after the beginning arguments..... here they are.
Thirdly, when all else fails x fans will start personally blaming and asking me things. Many of you have asked me why I care about this all of a sudden. Well I don’t just care all of a sudden. The first time I heard of x when when a group from my school wrote “free x” on a white board and posted it on snap chat. That was around the same time Geneva’s gofundme was circulating twitter. I also wrote a blog in my Media class at my high school about x, months before his death. This has been months, maybe even a year long, debate. The reason I said something on my snapchat publicly was because I did not know if everyone who was supporting X on their social medias knew of his history. If they didn’t know, I wanted to educate them. I also never stated he deserved to die because he did not. He deserved to pay for the crimes he committed, this did not include death.
Fourth, how does me liking his music supporting abuse? Well let me tell you...
When you listen to music it is never free. On any app it charges you. Some of apps you physically pay for but other may use adds. If you find x’s music on any platform, he is paid for it to be on there. He will get a fraction of the money you pay, every time you listen to a song. Therefore, you are directly giving an abuser money. So you saying that you don’t support abuse but still like x’s music is a complete contradiction because you are literally supporting an abuser with physical money.
Fifth, disrespecting the dead. Like I said to some people personally, already, X and his family will most likely never see my social media or your social media. There was no need for anyone to post anything on their social media’s, specifically snapchat. My post was just directed to the people I surround myself with. ALSO even if somehow x is looking down on me in the afterlife I want him to know I don’t want him to rest in peace. I want him for his entire afterlife to pay for what he did while he was on Earth. He does not deserve to rest in peace.
Sixth....about his lyrics. I took some time to listen to some of his more popular songs to see what his appeal is. I discovered that some of his lyrics directly support abusive behaviour in relationships. If you read the direct quotes from the song “SAD!” it basically says that if you ever try to “let me go” or leave, I’m going to commit “suicide”. This is another way abusers are manipulative. They tell their partners that they are suicidal and that they will die if they try to leave. It is a control tactic. A textbook example of an abusive relationship.
I also know that there might be a deeper meaning to this song for x himself and some of his deep supporters. But for the people who JUST listen to the music and know nothing else about him or his life, they are hearing these abusive lyrics and might think it is okay to treat people or be treated like this.
To finally conclude, the whole point of this (literal) essay was not really about x at all, it’s about how we treat victims. If when a victim comes out about their story we cannot treat them the way we treat Geneva. We need to stand in solidarity and support victims of any type of abuse. We need to question these serious accusations made towards abusers. Have empathy for victims and have an unbiased opinion towards accusations made towards someone you may look up to. You need to question who you support. If you support them through an abuse claim, you are supporting their abuse. Stop condoning abuse, of any and all kinds.
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