i love when someone says ‘can i ask your opinion on something’ like yeah absolutely! i was ready to give my opinions on a range of topics completely unsolicited!

i know this is cliché and there are a million posts like this but i'm getting so tired of the pointless infighting on here. and before you accuse me of anything, i'm a lesbian who practices complete female seperatism with the exception of having to interact with male healthcare staff. yes, i'm far from a perfect radfem, and yes, we should all try but I don't think anyone on here meets that ideal. seeing misogynistic slurs and insults thrown at women who are bisexual, het-partnered, or god forbid need a fucking abortion is so saddening when tumblr is one of the only places i feel a sense of community with other feminists. most people on here have at some point been isolated and ostracized for our politics. we're lucky to have a space on a site like this where we can express our beliefs and form a community and have nuanced discussions (look at what's happening to other apps! look how quickly radfem pages are termed on instagram and tiktok!) and instead of using this platform for constructive discussion some of you are spending 4+ hours a day in petty arguments over semantics, attacking vulnerable women for needing medical procedures and cyberbullying anyone who happens to feel attraction to men. we are not going to form a movement like this. no progress will come from this! outsiders see us picking each other apart and are discouraged from radical feminism, men use the holes in our community to tear us apart and make us look like a joke. people go back to liberal circles because their first day on radblr gets them an inbox full of insults and slurs and they quickly see how other women are treated on here.

i can't believe this needs saying but spending your day online calling osa women traitors/c*nts/c*cksuckers/brainwashed, telling detrans women we're deformed and damaged goods and throwing around the r slur is not activism nor is it feminist. some of you need to watch a primary school cyberbullying powerpoint about how there's another person at the end of the screen because i know no one on here would say those things to a woman's face. radical feminism fights for the liberation of EVERY woman, no matter if you personally dislike them or disagree with their choices - and even so, it's common sense that people will be more open to conversation and willing to change if you treat them with kindness, instead of denouncing and dogpiling everyone who doesn't meet your standards. i'm a radfem because so many women aren't. i'm a radfem for the women who wear makeup and insist it's for themselves. i'm a radfem for women who have been "happily married" 10 years and still do 100% of the housework. is that you? are you fighting for these women? or are you on here to boost your superiority complex and put others down? because if that's the case our movement doesn't fucking need you.

i hope some of you think about why you're on tumblr and how exactly you're aiding female liberation or even helping women to begin with. where the majority of other communities are toxic echo chambers, we need to be able to accept differences of opinion and fight for the bigger cause. anything else will alienate the same women we claim to be fighting for.

1925 Postcard of Tennessee Avenue, Atlantic City, New Jersey. From America in the 1920′s, FB.

Good turt

1910′s A mother and son on their way to church. From Everything Victorian and Edwardian, FB.

Unpopular opinion? idk but the fertility industry is a cash cow feeding on women's insecurity of not being able 2 carry a child like there r women who literally experience horrific cases of miscarriages that obv cannot be healthy 4 their bodies like that's literally a sign that ur body cannot carry a child but they go through ivf which's not only expensive but cannot grantee u the results yk carrying a baby full term it's heartbreaking seeing women in their mid 40s draining their life savings on smth like this bc society convinced em that ur life isn't full if ur don't become a mother

Penguins walking at 5x speed.

flatid planthopper nymph, Singapore. hemipterans (true bugs) like these have mastered the art of covering oneself in weird waxy filaments, which are shed along with their last juvenile molt, revealing a sleek, gossamer-winged adult

Language battles should not distract us from the true injustice raised by the potential repeal of Roe v. Wade: the removal of the right to privacy and bodily autonomy for 51 percent of Americans. But something is lost when abortion-rights activists shy away from saying women. We lose the ability to talk about women as more than a random collection of organs, bodies that happen to menstruate or bleed or give birth. We lose the ability to connect women’s common experiences, and the discrimination they face in the course of a reproductive lifetime. By substituting people for women, we lose the ability to speak of women as a class. We dismantle them into pieces, into functions, into commodities. This happens in many ways. This week I also saw an Axios editor rebuke a New York Times reporter for writing “surrogate mothers” rather than “gestational carriers”—as if the latter phrase were not dehumanizing, a whisper away from “vessels.”

Helen Lewis, The Abortion Debate Is Suddenly About ‘People,’ Not ‘Women’, 14 May 2022

like honestly being dysphoric and not wanting to transition because you object to the concept of gender feels a bit like being stuck in purgatory

there is a place in the world for gender conforming women and there is a place in the world for dysphoric gender nonconforming women who transition but there is no place in the world for me

this is all very personal obviously... there is a place in the world for gender conforming women but it's not a very good one. there's a place in the world for women who transition but it's not a very good one. but they have solidarity and community with each other. i am very lonely.

THE GRUDGE 2004, dir. Takashi Shimizu

Anyway, no-fault divorce, easy access to birth control, and abortion on demand all serve to make families stronger, healthier, happier, and more robust, because they allow family to be a matter of choice rather than a means of social control and violence.

I was watching a french show the other day and it was a political debate about prostitution. France voted to criminalize “clients” a few years ago. To represent the pro decriminalization they had invited a male client, a prostituted trans “woman” (who kept talking about being a good “whore” and saying “I’ll be happy to die with a dick in my mouth and another in my ass”) and a prostituted gay man. 

So 3 white men pretending to speak on behalf of prostituted women (who are mostly poor women of colour). 

On the other side were 2 radical feminists and an ex prostituted woman. That prostituted woman had been through hell and had difficulties expressing herself, she was talking about abuse and how she was almost killed. She also tried to talk about the abuse of children through prostitution. 

The trans “woman” laughed at her, yelled at her, insulted her ‘”shut up, shut up, shut up” “old hag” “too bad you didn’t die” “you’re dumb” (I swear I’m not making it up… it was extremely upsetting) 

and the male “client” was laughing (along with the men in the audience)

The male host did not intervene to make it stop and was in favour of decriminalizing clients of course. I’ve talked to some of the feminists invited on the show and they said that even worse things were being said to the ex prostituted woman off mic. They said they were set up, told that both point of view would be presented but the show was definitely in favour of liberals and the “sex work” lobby and their microphones were always off so they couldn’t really talk.

I looked up that “client” and it turns out he’s a pseudo-intellectual bourgeois who has a fetish on asian women. He asks them to act like naive little girls for him. Total racist and a big fan of the book “Lolita”. He also posts pictures of asian women dressed as schoolgirls being tied up.

Anyway, the show ended with a group of radical feminists storming the set, chanting feminist slogans as they were removed by security.

JESSICA CHASTAIN attends the 2nd Annual Academy Museum Gala in Los Angeles, California (October 15, 2022)

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