the word empathy is WIDELY misused, even in mental health spaces. 

empathy:

sympathy:

compassion:

if you need an example of a person with no empathy who practices sympathy and compassion, look no further than data from star trek: the next generation. he doesn’t have emotions at all, but he’s still kind to people and wants to help them.

stop telling people that they’re evil because they don’t experience empathy. stop equating empathy with morality. stop equating empathy with caring. stop saying that cruel people “lack empathy.” stop throwing neurodivergent and mentally ill people under the bus. 

Something to also note for those interested, if you want to unlock level 2 of understanding empathy and the differences between empathy, sympathy and compassion is that there are actually two types of empathy: cognitive and emotional (or sometimes called effective) empathy. Emotional empathy is specifically what OP describes: literally feeling and identifying with the emotions that another human being is experiencing, but not always mirroring it in reaction or in severity- though some people can be hyperempathetic in a way that affects that. It is an automatic response and while you can hide or try to control it, it is often instinctual and involuntary and cannot be learned. Cognitive empathy is the ability to logically recognize and deduce another person’s pain by imagining how you would feel in their position. (Example: My friend is experiencing a lot of sadness and grief with the loss of their grandparent. I have never experienced a death in the family before, but I have seen others experience this type of pain and i have experienced a similar pain through the death of a pet or idol, so I can imagine that the pain theyre experiencing could be an intensified version of that.)

Some people can be deficient in emotional empathy but highly capable of cognitive empathy or vice-versa. Maybe even deficient in both. These abilities or disabilities cannot be controlled! People that are deficient in either can still be perfectly capable of being sympathetic and compassionate, as these are choices that can be made regardless of ability or illness!

they should invent shorts that fit people who have bodies

Speaking of fanfiction.net, did you know that while it was seven years ago and therefore obviously well out of date (though given the declining traffic over the past few years, that's not the biggest issue), some insane person (positive) on archive.org managed to do the unthinkable and archive a full snapshot of the site despite its infamous unarchivability; I didn't until I went looking for if anyone had good tips on downloading from there easily and found a reddit thread from 2016. It's here. So while I continue to fret about how goddamn difficult archiving the website in full will ever be when it inevitably collapses on us randomly, at the very least we have a snapshot of it as of 2016, in fact.

in case you were wondering why we haven't just done this again, the original re-pack is described as follows:

I have to admit, I'm surprised to see people reblogging this saying it was 'barely usable'- I was shocked by how usable it was, having expected it to be basically unnavigable unless you had a story ID etc, more like the oocities geocities backup and that sort of thing. I appreciate that it's hardly like opening up the actual website, of course, but mass backups of this type tend to be far more obtuse than this one in my experience.

Reblogging this again now that I'm on desktop and can grab the link.

The same person did an updated full-page grab in early 2019. It's here.

True story, downloading it is what got me so inundated with Destiel fics that I started falling behind on the archive, and has been so overwhelming that I've kinda given up on catching up. It's HUGE. If what you're looking for existed on FF.net in March, 2019, it's in this.

It contains 10 MILLION stories.

Happy reading, y'all.

(Also, I agree, it's very easy to navigate and use. Yes, it's hard to find things, but that's not the archivist's fault...that's just how ff.net IS. Finding things on there is a nightmare. I recommend using your file browser's built in search, that's your best bet.)

EDIT I AM WRONG. I thought this was a new grab but that's not correct, its a repackage of the same data as the 2016 grab. It does NOT contain the years after that! Massive apologies for accidentally propagating incorrect information!!! It does contain a little different data but not a substantial amount.

reblog for a larger sample size because I’m so curious

Super Yaya SS20 Campaign

narratives about doomed love that aren’t romantic in nature. the love between siblings who understand each other the most but are growing apart no matter how much they try to come back to one another. the love between friends whose life paths pull them apart and they never see each other again, only remembering the face of a once kind childhood. the love for a hometown that year by year becomes less and less the one that raised you until you are a foreigner in your own backyard. there was no stopping it. the love was there and it mattered and you can never come back again.

1989 Nissan Snail

Y'all.

It's not a "Nissan Snail."

Nissan gave it a much better name.

It's a Nissan S-Cargo.

This is the funniest thing I've ever read. I would have LOVED to see that

i guess tumblr thought my name was too long and shortened it in this reblog notification i’m cryinf

pl…eep

Im in the mood to eat scarabs and shrimp

STOP SHRINKING HIM

Hey. You. C'mere. Come a little closer.

You, as a trans person, are not immune to bio- and gender essentialist patterns of thought. Break yourself of the habit. There's not a demographic on this earth that can be treated as a monolith, even if you've suffered trauma at the hands of people who belong to it. It'd be nice if we could put people in little boxes and treat them all one way unilaterally and avoid them forever, but we can't, because we live in a world where we're all interconnected. Separatism, as appealing as it may sound, is neigh on impossible. I am not asking you to forgive and ignore your trauma. I am only asking you to remember that we are all humans with similar capability for love and emotion and compassion, regardless of arbitrary social division passing itself off as science.

the next time someone asks what this country is like i’ll just send them this

-  Velký noční hlídač / Watchman

- author of the videomaping Milan Cais 

-photography ©ČTK,  ©David Peltán, MAFRA.

how do we get them to stop doing that

how do we get them to build something in between and project a mouth to complete the 👁️👄👁️

Found this reddit post. This kinda makes me feel better. And it’s something I think about sometimes because I always feel like regardless of how hard I work on something I don’t get anywhere.

Nice summary. If you’re curious, the anon here is referring to studies over the last decade that have pointed to major impacts on pattern separation with depression, and how depression can have major impacts on nonsynaptic plasticity. 

Psychology is amazing folks and more of it needs to be common knowledge

Good for my own information…

This really explains 1) some of the gaps in my childhood and 2) my steadily worsening ability to remember shit and actually take in new experiences as anything other than an inconvenience keeping me from sitting at home sleeping or staring at the tv for hours not taking anything in

Ring set with a wolf’s tooth, 14th century

Would you like to find out what you would be the god of? Take my new uqiz to find out

Hey OP this immediately made me have a crisis

these pictures of slenderman at dashcon will forever be like my favorite thing ever